Hey Joe,
Thanks for your words of support - much appreciated as always.
Re the book I mentioned, I am happy to share additional details in the hopes that this may help others. Just to be very clear though, I am very respectful of the fact that there are many approaches out there that can work to get you to become a "non-user" of porn - this one particularly resonated with me (maybe by luck, timing, or fate) ... don't know why but it is out there and available for any who are looking for additional arrows in the quiver. My hope is that this may be the 1 last piece of the puzzle that finally takes you to your own tipping point.
Enough said, here the details (and a bit about why this approach made the penny drop for me).
So the book is called "The EasyPeasy Way to Quit Porn" (https://easypeasymethod.org/) - and I'll be honest when I first started to read I was hugely skeptical / thought this was just some internet Schtick to eventually make me buy something. But this is absolutely not the case - the entire book is online, it is totally free, and there is nothing waiting to jump out at you when you finish the book. There is also a fair bit of writing early on in the book that strongly recommends that you don't jump to the end or skip any of the earlier chapters - this made my "spidey sense" go up again ... but again there is good reason for holding back the details (they just want you to really deal with the mental framing of your addiction and this takes time to sink in via the earlier chapters ... so it's well worth trusting the process).
So I was quite blow away by where I ended up once I had finished reading the book and had followed their suggestions (again nothing magical - just a really clearer way for me to see my addiction and a way better way to map out my recovery path). For whatever reason, this was my missing piece of the puzzle and I jumped in 100% (there is some overlap with Noah Church in this material that I quite liked - but also some important new stuff - especially re how to frame your path to recovery - that I had never thought of before and was very refreshing). As I mentioned earlier, it was pretty earth shaking for me and I really feel like I am on way more solid ground and have finally left porn behind me for good - and can now live a life of joy.
I also did some additional research to understand where this approach came from and was very impressed in terms of its credentials / success rate. It is basically a very slight modification of a very successful methodology that was created by Allen Carr (he created the "EasyWay to Stop Smoking). Allen went on to expand his approach to incorporate all kinds of other addictions (drugs, sugar, gambling, etc...) and has had tremendous success with his approach - check out his website for additional background and success rates / testimonials - https://www.allencarr.com/.
Anyway all I can say is good luck, I truly hope this helps, and if its not right for you - no worries, your path to freedom lies with some other combination to the safe.