Erectile dysfunction cured... But now I have Premature Ejaculation ! Help !!!

MrJon

Member
Hi everyone. Ok so, I've had erectile dysfunction for like 10 years. I could masturbate to porn and porn thoughts, but I couldn't get it up in front of a girl. For 10 years. This stuff ruined several relationships.
I only became aware of my porn and masturbation addiction in 2014 and I decided to stop porn for good.

I couldn't go further than 2/3 weeks of NoPorn for years, but this time I think I'm on the winning side. Last time I watched porn was in november ! I've been clean for more than 3 months, and I feel good about it.  ;D (I also drastically reduced masturbation this time)

Long story short, I met a girl recently and we get along really well. The problem is, now that I finally can get my penis hard in front of a girl... Well I suffer from premature ejaculation now. Of course this is an improvement considering I couldn't get hard in front of a girl for more than a decade. But still this is not right. I can't last more than 40 seconds to 1 minute. It just feels too good, my penis is way too sensitive.

My gf has been really cool about it somehow, she doesn't really mind. Keeps telling me that she can orgasm with other methods anyway.  But I don't like this situation at all and now that I can finally have sex I want it to be good and to last longer than a few seconds  :'(

Any tips on how I could change this ? This happenned the first time and I really wasn't shocked because this was the first time I had sex in my life. But it happenned the second time and the third time as well. I feel quite bad about it.

Anyway stopping porn and reducing masturbation was the best decision I've ever taken in my whole life and I'll never get back to it. Porn gave me problems on so many levels. But now it seems like I have another problem to face. Help !!!  :(
 

Stiffy999

Active Member
Hey bro,
First of all congratulations!Your post gives hope to everybody here.Don't be worried about PE it will fade away with time, self-control is very important factor there but also experience,so enjoy in your success,wish you luck man.
 

MrJon

Member
Stiffy999 said:
Hey bro,
First of all congratulations!Your post gives hope to everybody here.Don't be worried about PE it will fade away with time, self-control is very important factor there but also experience,so enjoy in your success,wish you luck man.

I trust you man ! But it's getting embarassing. We tried to have sex another time yesterday and well we kinda did but I couldn't last more than a minute. I just don't get it. I'm way too sensitive. I think I'll see a doctor if it doesn't get better because even teenagers with no experience and lot of stress can last more than 60 seconds.
 
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Deleted member 17609

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Well... If you go see a doctor, be EXTREMELY CAREFUL. Some doctors will prescribe antidepressants to guys who have premature ejaculation. Yeah, your read that correctly. That?s probably the most unbelievable stupidity I?ve ever heard, but it?s not so rare. A month ago, on Your Brain Rebalanced, a guy wrote that he had visited his doctor because he was having too many wet dreams. Well, the doctor put him on Zoloft... Two weeks later, the guy started being dizzy every time he had an erection. My advice: never take SSRIs, except if you have severe depression or severe anxiety. And don?t trust your doctor blindly, make some research before to start using medication.

There are creams and lotions out there for guys with premature ejaculation. You put it on your dick, and it reduces the sensitivity, so you can last longer. You never heard about those? Instead of seeing a doctor, I would try that, man. What can a doctor do about premature ejaculation, in your opinion? Anyway, I hope you can fix the issue.
 

MrJon

Member
I came across a link about bad masturbation habits causing problems with premature ejaculation. Seems like I learned to masturbate the wrong way and this may be the cause of my PE. I just realized that whenever I masturbate, I usually go very fast and I kinda tighten my perineum muscles to orgasm faster and harder than I should. This may be because I discovered masturbation when I was still living with my parents and I had to do it quick to make sure I wouldn't get caught. I don't know. Still, this is how I masturbated for more than 10 years so here's my theory :

1. It is possible that I tighten my perineum muscles even when having sex, because this is how my body learned to "make love"
2. It is possible that my brain thinks sex should be as quick as possible

Ok so I guess I have a new challenge to face now. Learn to have sex slowly and masturbate slowly so that both my body and brain get back to "factory settings". I'm not really sure this is how it works but I guess I should give it a try.

@Bilbo Baggins : Nice username m8 !  ;D I know doctors may want to treat PE with anti-depressants and I'll just tell the doctor I don't want to try this, even if this is the only way. I'm definitely not messing with my brains chemicals only to cure premature ejaculation.

 

Maglue

Active Member
Never take anti depressants...
They directly give you ED...
So you cure your depressesion from anti depressants but then they give you ED so then you get more depressed ...

So dumb eah..
 

MrJon

Member
Almost six months without porn and 3 months with better masturbating habits and it's getting better and better guys. I don't have any ED and premature ejaculation problems now. So when it comes to sex with my gf, everything is fine. I can't believe it. Porn and wrong masturbation habits ruined my sex life for a decade. A damn decade !!!! And it's almost all cured within half a year. This is crazy.

I still have LOTS of problems when it comes to porn thoughts for some reason; this seems to take waaaay too long to go away. This and self-confidence problems as way. I thought rebooting would help with social anxiety but it doesn't do much. Only a little bit.

When it comes to porn thoughts I must admit that I still think about porn all the time but I don't think about extreme porn and strange stuff anymore. So this is still an incredible improvement because, trust me, at my worst I would fantasize about crazy stuff. But I don't want to talk about it now, maybe later.

Just wanted to post this so that you guys know it's worth fighting. I feel like I'm slowly waking up from a 10 years-long nightmare.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
its sometimes a very steep (and embarassing) learning curve. but you got through in the end and are now reaping the (sexy) rewards!
 

Sangiha

Member
Almost six months without porn and 3 months with better masturbating habits and it's getting better and better guys. I don't have any ED and premature ejaculation problems now. So when it comes to sex with my gf, everything is fine. I can't believe it. Porn and wrong masturbation habits ruined my sex life for a decade. A damn decade !!!! And it's almost all cured within half a year. This is crazy.

I still have LOTS of problems when it comes to porn thoughts for some reason; this seems to take waaaay too long to go away. This and self-confidence problems as way. I thought rebooting would help with social anxiety but it doesn't do much. Only a little bit.

When it comes to porn thoughts I must admit that I still think about porn all the time but I don't think about extreme porn and strange stuff anymore. So this is still an incredible improvement because, trust me, at my worst I would fantasize about crazy stuff. But I don't want to talk about it now, maybe later.

Just wanted to post this so that you guys know it's worth fighting. I feel like I'm slowly waking up from a 10 years-long nightmare.
So happy for you man. I am inspired to keep going on with my journey. I am 97 days in and I still have such a long way to go. Hope to be in your shoes soon! Congrats!!
 
Almost six months without porn and 3 months with better masturbating habits and it's getting better and better guys. I don't have any ED and premature ejaculation problems now. So when it comes to sex with my gf, everything is fine. I can't believe it. Porn and wrong masturbation habits ruined my sex life for a decade. A damn decade !!!! And it's almost all cured within half a year. This is crazy.

I still have LOTS of problems when it comes to porn thoughts for some reason; this seems to take waaaay too long to go away. This and self-confidence problems as way. I thought rebooting would help with social anxiety but it doesn't do much. Only a little bit.

When it comes to porn thoughts I must admit that I still think about porn all the time but I don't think about extreme porn and strange stuff anymore. So this is still an incredible improvement because, trust me, at my worst I would fantasize about crazy stuff. But I don't want to talk about it now, maybe later.

Just wanted to post this so that you guys know it's worth fighting. I feel like I'm slowly waking up from a 10 years-long nightmare.

That's fantastic. Thanks for the follow-up because it gives us a source of inspiration to draw on.
 

MrJon

Member
Hi guys ! It's been a while. It's been 8 months without porn. I think this is the first time I ever did this since I was like 11 lol.
Unfortunately that's not only good news. I found out that there are still some times where I can't get it 100% hard or still suffer from premature ejaculation a little bit. (but I can last longer than before, I'd say I can always last for at least 2 minutes now, which isn't that much but definitely better than lasting 20 seconds lol)
But mostly it's been nothing but improvements. Most of the time I'm rock hard and can last quite long and I bet it's going to improve still !

On the other hand I noticed a HUGE improvement when it comes to porn fetishes. I still fantasize about porn way too much but now I think mostly about the vanilla porn I used to watch when I was young. Strange fetishes, not at all anymore ! And it's been months !

@MrJon ..When did your morning wood come back. I have both ed and PE problem plus I precum a lot

My morning woods started to get back after 2 or 3 months of no porn and better masturbation habits BUT I don't have morning woods everyday, even now. I'd say I have a morning wood once or twice a week at most.
 

Momoko

New Member
Thanks man. Your story is very inspiring.
I want to ask you about the masturbation routine that you did to help you with the PE. Can you elaborate more on how you masturbated to last longer please because I am having the same problem
 
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