Hey All : I am a wife and just found out hubby watching. I am so hurt and sad and extremely mad.. It explains why he rarely initiates sex. He doesn?t even want to kiss me anymore. I get a peck. I recall him many years ago before marriage had Magazines and I was furious we were very active at the time . He knows how I feel about this ! Years later after marriage I once found a porn picture in his wallet . I guess nowadays it?s cell phone .I can?t play porn police And the way it makes a woman Or at least me feel is just horrible, unattractive and unloved like we don?t measure up. Fast forward and during marriage sex was good .Last five/ six years went down in amounts . Stuff going in in marriage affecting it. We were in bad place. Nowadays the funny thing is since menopause I am not really even thinking about it or have much desire but I am soooo hurt and it makes me feel unloved. Hubby and I maybe have sex like once a month maybe. I knew something was up thought maybe he?s not attracted to me anymore Or impotent. He?s 61. We went out for anniversary dinner recently had sex afterwards. He tends to not give me foreplay I really need .I assume due to porn watching. He gave me gift of wanting to replace my engagement ring list years ago I started crying was very touched and happy but then two night later we are looking at something on his cell and I see a sight pop up. He runs into bathroom freaks out. He confesses it?s porn said he?s so embarrassed. I freak out on him. Said not so nice things. I am thinking about divorce. Although I am not desiring sex I am too hurt by this and feel rejected. I recently lost weight look good . Down to 102 lbs. Us girls can?t compete with unrealistic images. Now I feel like I surely do t want him to even look at me naked . Sorry I rambled this just took place and need honest guys input here. He doesn?t compliment me and seems detached at times. Says he never has cheated ever and wouldn?t but to me looking at other naked women IS cheating . Look I am no prude and maybe if we were having a normal sex life and acted like he loved me I?d feel different. I mean wants to replace ring but not kissing me Says he just does it because it?s fast and easy wth like making love is just too much work . Opinions ??? Help advice or should I divorce him .