PIED REWIRING DOUBTS- HELP NEEDED

Hi, everyone! I had some questions regarding rewiring with a real partner and it would be great if some of you could help me solve my doubts.
I am a 22-year-old male with PIED. Have had only one sexual experience and that too a terrible one when I discovered PIED. Before that, I used to make out with women and get super hard just by their touch (I am talking about 4 years ago). Currently, for at least about 4 months I need to focus on my studies and the pandemic situation is worsening, so I wouldn't exactly be looking for a rewiring partner in the coming few months. I am 111 days into normal mode and 38 days into hard mode.
My question is that if we do a long hard mode/monk mode reboot, does it make the rewiring easier or more time-taking/difficult? Also, are kissing, cuddling and touching also considered significant rewiring or is it just attempts of sex? Basically somehow I have this fear that even if I go for a long hard mode I might take a lot of time rewiring. I don't know why I think this, there isn't any significant reason behind this- it's just a fear.
 

Cp6uH

Member
If you go long hardmode(including not fantasizing or looking at anything sexual) considering you are not flatlining it can only be easier to rewire but surely not more time-taking/difficult because your libido will naturally come back
 
Cp6uH said:
If you go long hardmode(including not fantasizing or looking at anything sexual) considering you are not flatlining it can only be easier to rewire but surely not more time-taking/difficult because your libido will naturally come back

Thanks for the answer man. That's what I was thinking. Though some people say that long periods of abstinence can make you asexual. I don't know if there's any truth to that
 

hervesta

Member
JnanaYogiKarmaYogi said:
Cp6uH said:
If you go long hardmode(including not fantasizing or looking at anything sexual) considering you are not flatlining it can only be easier to rewire but surely not more time-taking/difficult because your libido will naturally come back

Thanks for the answer man. That's what I was thinking. Though some people say that long periods of abstinence can make you asexual. I don't know if there's any truth to that

there is no founded truth in that. You will ALWAYS be sexual if you have been in the past. You will however go through a phase where you are asexual in the process, don't let that worry you (which often leads most to checking their erections with porn) it MUST come to pass if you wanna recover (for most people but us PIED dudes gotta go through it). This is just your brain unwiring from porn, after this is done (or during) you can always rewire your sexuality to the thrill of authentic women and romance. It just takes time. I am only 150 days into this and I am not fully healed, though I am seeing healing especially in the last month where I went a total of 12 days of feeling basically normal again; the first almost 2 months of the journey I felt 100% asexual. Recently however, I have been getting moments where my libido returns in urges for real authentic women and not pixels nor anything fantasy-like. Now that I think about it I have not had a huge urge to watch porn since day 80ish.

Just trust the passage of time. Think about where you see yourself by december 31st, would you wish "man I missed out on so much porn" or will you be thankful and say "I'm so glad I am no longer a slave to porn even when I feel broken". You got this man, you will heal in due time if you abstain, and you WILL regain your sexuality back.
 

Maglue

Active Member
I went no pmo 50ish days and then relapsed ...

And I cried so much now that I know I'm ready to go again...
Nothing like rock bottom makes you want to go harder than ever before...

I thought I was ready, and now I understand I wasn't...

This time !!!...

Drop me a message sometime if you want to
 
hervesta said:
JnanaYogiKarmaYogi said:
Cp6uH said:
If you go long hardmode(including not fantasizing or looking at anything sexual) considering you are not flatlining it can only be easier to rewire but surely not more time-taking/difficult because your libido will naturally come back

Thanks for the answer man. That's what I was thinking. Though some people say that long periods of abstinence can make you asexual. I don't know if there's any truth to that

Yeah I mean for sure I don't even get second thoughts about watching porn anytime soon. It's just that by non-abstinence i meant masturbation.
there is no founded truth in that. You will ALWAYS be sexual if you have been in the past. You will however go through a phase where you are asexual in the process, don't let that worry you (which often leads most to checking their erections with porn) it MUST come to pass if you wanna recover (for most people but us PIED dudes gotta go through it). This is just your brain unwiring from porn, after this is done (or during) you can always rewire your sexuality to the thrill of authentic women and romance. It just takes time. I am only 150 days into this and I am not fully healed, though I am seeing healing especially in the last month where I went a total of 12 days of feeling basically normal again; the first almost 2 months of the journey I felt 100% asexual. Recently however, I have been getting moments where my libido returns in urges for real authentic women and not pixels nor anything fantasy-like. Now that I think about it I have not had a huge urge to watch porn since day 80ish.

Just trust the passage of time. Think about where you see yourself by december 31st, would you wish "man I missed out on so much porn" or will you be thankful and say "I'm so glad I am no longer a slave to porn even when I feel broken". You got this man, you will heal in due time if you abstain, and you WILL regain your sexuality back.
 
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