Sounds like a great strategy, Jerry! And- when it comes- happy birthday!
This has to stop. I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength
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Sounds like a great strategy, Jerry! And- when it comes- happy birthday!
Well I haven't been on here or posted much since 12/2. Since then I have had some struggles with Psubs and edging which led to PMO. Not watching full fledge videos but enough to MO to the quick Psubs. So I'm calling it out as PMO. Also tons of stress from work and the holidays have been kicking in which I know become a trigger. I have also not been able to workout as much due to some recurrent back issues after a surgery in early 2021. These are all excuses and I need to get my head on straight and avoid these PSBUBs. I am using the IMPACT from Phineas.
I have really had to refocus and begin a bible study on the book of Romans. Also had a great sermon yesterday on HOPE. It really resonated as we reviewed Psalm 42 and Romans 15:13. I have been reading this in this time of struggle. "I pray that GOD, the source of Hope, will fill me completely with Joy and Peace because I trust in HIM. Then I will overflow with Confident Hope through the power of the HOLY SPIRIT."
This addiction sucks and it is unexplainable how I can journey so far and yet stumble so quickly. Recently turned 50 and just want to move on from this. Thankful for this site and praying for everyone on here! GRACE AND PEACE
I have really had to refocus and begin a bible study on the book of Romans. Also had a great sermon yesterday on HOPE. It really resonated as we reviewed Psalm 42 and Romans 15:13. I have been reading this in this time of struggle. "I pray that GOD, the source of Hope, will fill me completely with Joy and Peace because I trust in HIM. Then I will overflow with Confident Hope through the power of the HOLY SPIRIT."
This addiction sucks and it is unexplainable how I can journey so far and yet stumble so quickly. Recently turned 50 and just want to move on from this. Thankful for this site and praying for everyone on here! GRACE AND PEACE
Carl_Smith
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Praying for you too Jerry. Happy b-day and Live Free.
Jerry we‘re right there with you in this fight, remember you are not who you were. You are being made into a new man! Phil 1:6
much love and respect to you,
john
You can do it, Jerry! There's so many other things to do online if, after you've limited your social media use, and need something else to do...
Look up positive videos that motivate you, or awesome subjects that interest you. But above all, keep your joy and trust that God's grace will see you through this!
Look up positive videos that motivate you, or awesome subjects that interest you. But above all, keep your joy and trust that God's grace will see you through this!
Escapeandnevercomeback
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People definitely waste a lot of time online, myself included. But the truth is that the Internet, like many other things, is a tool that is best to be used for when you need it. There are things you can study online, even watch videos that help you or teach you something, but people waste a lot of time with Youtube and social media. I understand because they are designed to be addictive, they know what they're doing but it's easy to fall into the trap, just like porn. Okay, you can give yourself a day during the week or whatever to waste with Youtube but it shouldn't be everyday. Of course, Youtube is starting to contain more and more triggers so that's something to think about. All the stupid thumbnails with pictures taken from Instagram... Music videos that are borderline softcore porn etc.
guitar1968
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Sorry to hear you and I have both been struggling a lot in this wonderful month of December. I hope you can get back to where you want to be. I'm working on trying to get there myself. It's been a bad couple of weeks for me. Heading down the road of almost every day. I have the serious need to seek out porn. I hate this feeling. I hate that I let myself get here.
But, I have to march on. I'm back here. Hopefully that will help. Best wishes my friend.
Guitar great to hear from you. Yes this struggle is tough and not sure why December makes it tougher! I am dealing with this day to day and since my Monday post I have been doing good. Just taking it day by day. You do the same.. Win the hour! Win the day! and move on to the next day!
RN - Checking in this morning. Been a good and busy week. Did have some edging yesterday but repeated in my head the IMPACT from Phineas! Integrity, Mindfulness, Purposeful, Alert, Concise, Truthful! Heck I don't even get past the Integrity to realize I need to move on. Hope everyone has a great Friday!
guitar1968
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Hi Jerry! Keep it going. You can do this and so can I. Let's have a nice, porn free holiday!
Fellow Christian here. It is very difficult to find resources in the church. There is much shame and despite the prevalence of this addiction among men of all ages and faiths, you don't often hear folks open up about their own issues.
I was in a men's group last year and we were working through some materials about porn and addictive sexuality. Out of a dozen men there I was the only one who would admit to having a porn problem!
I found this page to be the most helpful in stopping. https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/too...m-porn-addiction/rebooting-basics-start-here/
One of the key themes there is that the path to success is not golden and straight, but is rather strewn with failures and recoveries from failure. Keep trying.
Best,
Unitary
I was in a men's group last year and we were working through some materials about porn and addictive sexuality. Out of a dozen men there I was the only one who would admit to having a porn problem!
I found this page to be the most helpful in stopping. https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/too...m-porn-addiction/rebooting-basics-start-here/
One of the key themes there is that the path to success is not golden and straight, but is rather strewn with failures and recoveries from failure. Keep trying.
Best,
Unitary
Hoping everyone on here is gearing up for Christmas. I have had a pretty solid week and no PMO. I was tempted to use Psubs and Edge yesterday but moved on and beat the P Demon out of my head. I truly hope everyone on here has a Merry Christmas - Matthew 1:22-23! Praying for this site and thankful for the positive encouragement. Stay strong and let's keep supporting each other! We all have had our ups and downs but keep moving forward and not looking back.
Escapeandnevercomeback
Respected Member
Great, man! It's good you can stop the edging and end the day well. I rarely do that, I need to learn to do it.
Good job shutting it down, Jerry! Have a Merry Christmas!
RN - just checking in and journaling as it helps me. Since the last post I MOd. I realize this was caused by the Psubs and edging that have been more commonplace the last 2 months of this journey. Like everyone here it seems, I have some of the same issues--- edging, Psubs, lack of sex with wife/wife libido/wife health issues, boredom, stress, alcohol, etc....
I do feel I have come along way since this journey started but being an perfectionist I let the above drive this bad behavior. With 4 days left in the year I will continue to battle. I did look back at when I started this journey with RN on 4/13/21 (263 days) and my success rate is:
I do feel I have come along way since this journey started but being an perfectionist I let the above drive this bad behavior. With 4 days left in the year I will continue to battle. I did look back at when I started this journey with RN on 4/13/21 (263 days) and my success rate is:
- 96.96% success from PMO (8X)
- 89.73% success from MO (27X)
Good job, Jerry! I'm also wanting to make 2022 a time of renewed focus and commitment to my plans and goals to be someone who doesn't use P, PMO, or MO.
Like yourself, I've had an up and down success rate, but overall I'm happy with my progress- and your progress, too!
Let's do this, brother! Pray for each other during weaker moments, and believe for transformation!
Happy New Year!
I have had a very clear mind and been successful with this reboot. While I'm still using a "tracker" for the days I am not letting it consume me. My focus going into 2022 is to take this one day at a time. This is how it started back in April and I want to go beyond the longest PMO streak. I am thankful for this site and will continually check in as reading and posting does help with the journey. Praying for all on this site fighting to win the battle of the P demon.
Yes! Knowing what works for you and what doesn't is so important! I believe you will go beyond your longest (to date) PMO streak. I remember when 114 days was mine (years ago), and now it's not some insurmountable hill any more. You can do this!