Robert_GRJ
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*sorry for my bad English*
I'm a 21 years old male and from the age of 12 - 13, I've been masturbating almost every day till now. I consider myself straight and I've always liked only women. It started with normal porn, but for the last 2 years or so (around 2018) I escalated to more weird things. At first, it was a more violent type of porn, like BDSM or bondage, but it got worse. From BDSM to rape, incest, torture(fake of course), then to transsexual porn. I felt horrible, but the urge of masturbation taken over me. I've tried to stop watching porn, but I couldn't. I didn't think too much of my porn addiction until 2018 when things escalated to worse. I started watching even more extreme stuff like gore, snuff (fake) things to feel aroused.
Fast forward to mid-2019 to 2020 when things got much worse. I started watching gay porn, very rarely, but till that point, I couldn't stand this kind of porn, even when I watched straight porn when the guy's face appeared I changed the video immediately because I felt disgusted.
Don't get me wrong, I don't have any problem with gay people and I will never have.
In April last month a thought struck my mind, Am I gay?'' and the worse period of my life began. I started to search online about this to find more information. I've read about HOCD and those symptoms related to 80% of what I felt at that moment. Anxiety, stress, intrusive thoughts and feelings, and my case even depression and insomnia. I started to seek reassurance to stop this mess, but it got even worse to the point of thinking about suicide. I would NEVER in my life do this in reality with a person, not even in a million years.
All my life I liked women and now I don't even know who I am. After multiple searches online I've seen a lot of people saying that this is a part of me that I kept hidden and now it comes to the surface and I should accept it. When I see these comments or posts feel like my life is going down. I've cried and I got to the point where suicide was the only option. I couldn't live seeing myself or come out as gay or bisexual. This wasn't me. My life was ruined.
I never looked to a man sexually or emotionally or imagined myself being in a relationship with one. When I think about this, even for a couple of seconds, I feel like my depression and anxiety are getting worse and worse. .
I don't know what to do. Sometimes I cannot breathe from so much stress. My suicidal thoughts are increasing by the day. Now even when I hear the word, gay'' I feel like my anxiety is rising and my breath is cut. If someone had a case similar to mine, please tell me what to do. Is it from porn addiction or something else?
I'm a 21 years old male and from the age of 12 - 13, I've been masturbating almost every day till now. I consider myself straight and I've always liked only women. It started with normal porn, but for the last 2 years or so (around 2018) I escalated to more weird things. At first, it was a more violent type of porn, like BDSM or bondage, but it got worse. From BDSM to rape, incest, torture(fake of course), then to transsexual porn. I felt horrible, but the urge of masturbation taken over me. I've tried to stop watching porn, but I couldn't. I didn't think too much of my porn addiction until 2018 when things escalated to worse. I started watching even more extreme stuff like gore, snuff (fake) things to feel aroused.
Fast forward to mid-2019 to 2020 when things got much worse. I started watching gay porn, very rarely, but till that point, I couldn't stand this kind of porn, even when I watched straight porn when the guy's face appeared I changed the video immediately because I felt disgusted.
Don't get me wrong, I don't have any problem with gay people and I will never have.
In April last month a thought struck my mind, Am I gay?'' and the worse period of my life began. I started to search online about this to find more information. I've read about HOCD and those symptoms related to 80% of what I felt at that moment. Anxiety, stress, intrusive thoughts and feelings, and my case even depression and insomnia. I started to seek reassurance to stop this mess, but it got even worse to the point of thinking about suicide. I would NEVER in my life do this in reality with a person, not even in a million years.
All my life I liked women and now I don't even know who I am. After multiple searches online I've seen a lot of people saying that this is a part of me that I kept hidden and now it comes to the surface and I should accept it. When I see these comments or posts feel like my life is going down. I've cried and I got to the point where suicide was the only option. I couldn't live seeing myself or come out as gay or bisexual. This wasn't me. My life was ruined.
I never looked to a man sexually or emotionally or imagined myself being in a relationship with one. When I think about this, even for a couple of seconds, I feel like my depression and anxiety are getting worse and worse. .
I don't know what to do. Sometimes I cannot breathe from so much stress. My suicidal thoughts are increasing by the day. Now even when I hear the word, gay'' I feel like my anxiety is rising and my breath is cut. If someone had a case similar to mine, please tell me what to do. Is it from porn addiction or something else?
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