Stimulating myself during real sex/foreplay

[edgpavl]

Hi,
I have this quick question that I haven't really seen being mentioned. I understand that succesfully overcoming PIED means cutting out Pornography and masturbation completely. I am terrified of even attempting an actual, real sex act because I know for sure that I wont be able to get achieve erection by not stimulating myself. So my question is - is masturbating to get yourself erected during real sex is acceptable?

 

[Sangiha]

i think stimulating yourself a little bit cant hurt with a partner.. but the real goal is/should be to get to a point where u automatically get aroused without masturbation when you are about to have sex. You will overcome your fear of not being able to do only if it actually happens, and for it to actually happen you must complete your reboot..

 

[edgpavl]

i think stimulating yourself a little bit cant hurt with a partner.. but the real goal is/should be to get to a point where u automatically get aroused without masturbation when you are about to have sex. You will overcome your fear of not being able to do only if it actually happens, and for it to actually happen you must complete your reboot..

Thank you. My biggest fear really is not having a long term partner who would put up with this... And therefore I wouldn't be able to even reboot by just sitting there and not PMO'ing or masturbating for however long time.

 

[Lost36]

Oi,
Eu tenho esta pergunta rápida que eu realmente não vi sendo mencionada. Eu entendo que superar o PIED com sucesso significa eliminar completamente a pornografia e a masturbação. Tenho pavor até de tentar um ato sexual real, real, porque sei com certeza que não serei capaz de obter uma ereção se não me estimular. Então, minha pergunta é - se masturbar para ter uma ereção durante o sexo real é aceitável?

se eu tivesse certeza que ia ficar duro na hora de me estimular, fazia oral nele, até que engatasse, discreto!

 

[Fappy]

the fact that you have to toss yourself off in order to get an erection for penetrating someone is a bad sign. its also really weird to do that (although some women might get turned on by that, dunno...). you dont want to appear to be a creep!
if you partner can assist you in masturbating that might help, but you shouldnt rely on a quick fap to get you hard enough to crush puss. but the bottom line is that if you still feel terrified of being able to perform sex like a normal person, thats a sign you shoudnt even attempt it yet.