[6Months] Can have sex but... and share my thought!

[randomboy133]

My situation is kinda weird,
I’m wondering if anyone has experiencing same thing with me!

From zero boner to random 90%-100% boner.
But
1. Can get 90%hard by just looking at my girlfriend But when it getting serious in bed, it hard to get more than 85% hard. Even if it does, it will drop down from 90% to 50% real quick. And penis barely feel anything (BJ n PIV)?

2. Viagra only work 1 out of 3 times

3.Sometime can last 30 mins sometime 2mins

4.Morning wood seems normal! 90-100%

5. Really easy to have boner in morning and hard to get at night.

Is it PIED or PIED+PAED?
Any advice? Already quit porn for 6months without relapse! No urge to watch any porn since day 4!

My thought on PIED:
1.Try to have sex as many as possible!
2.Is okay to O but not with porn! Porn is the real cause.
3.I think Supplements work sometime (Zinc)
4. Try not to touch your dick! Coz I feel like mine desensitised. That’s why it get soft even when I put it in

 

[PKCowned]

Can I ask where you were at 6 months ago so I have an idea of where you have come from in terms of recovery? How long had you been watching Porn before you began your reboot. Did you have what most would consider total PIED, or were you hit or miss when it came time to perform

On the surface it would seem that you have worked through a large portion of your PIED and are still struggling with some aspects of performance anxiety. If you have a partner, it’ll be important to talk to them about anxiety and let them know you want to focus on them for a while at the start of fooling around, and that you might not be able to perform, which is ok considering how far you have come and that you might still need a bit more time. Of course there is karezza.. but I think at the end of the day you just need another 2/3 months to really hone in your performance and sensitivity.

PA develops alongside PIED as soon as you fail to perform more than 2 or three times. It goes away progressively as you make progress. Stay the course and I am sure you will continue to get better over the summer.

 

[randomboy133]

Can I ask where you were at 6 months ago so I have an idea of where you have come from in terms of recovery? How long had you been watching Porn before you began your reboot. Did you have what most would consider total PIED, or were you hit or miss when it came time to perform

On the surface it would seem that you have worked through a large portion of your PIED and are still struggling with some aspects of performance anxiety. If you have a partner, it’ll be important to talk to them about anxiety and let them know you want to focus on them for a while at the start of fooling around, and that you might not be able to perform, which is ok considering how far you have come and that you might still need a bit more time. Of course there is karezza.. but I think at the end of the day you just need another 2/3 months to really hone in your performance and sensitivity.

PA develops alongside PIED as soon as you fail to perform more than 2 or three times. It goes away progressively as you make progress. Stay the course and I am sure you will continue to get better over the summer.

Hi brother!
I started watching porn since I was 12 and now I’m 23, basically 1 time a day. Weird things is that I was fine with PMO (at least 85%) before my first attempt to have sex, I remember that I even PMO 5 hours before I tried to have sex. I failed and after that I immediately stop watching porn anymore and start no fap. I tried once in day7 just to see if its still working (didn’t know about reboot back then). I found it can’t go fully hard and it go soft when I stop touching it. And I never PMO again.
I took a blood test and it is totally normal

I don’t really know what’s happening with me,
I just feel like it is physically fine,
But it just doesn’t work when I want to use it

 

[PKCowned]

Hi brother!
I started watching porn since I was 12 and now I’m 23, basically 1 time a day. Weird things is that I was fine with PMO (at least 85%) before my first attempt to have sex, I remember that I even PMO 5 hours before I tried to have sex. I failed and after that I immediately stop watching porn anymore and start no fap. I tried once in day7 just to see if its still working (didn’t know about reboot back then). I found it can’t go fully hard and it go soft when I stop touching it. And I never PMO again.
I took a blood test and it is totally normal

I don’t really know what’s happening with me,
I just feel like it is physically fine,
But it just doesn’t work when I want to use it

Yup! The most important thing you can do is never watch porn again. Remember that rebooting does not equal abstinence. Rebooting means developing lasting changes in your perceptions of self and sex, as well as introducing or going back to healthy lifestyles and activities that have been ignored or damaged by porn.

you have the classic symptoms of porn withdrawal. Now this is incredibly simplified, but basically You desensitized yourself to normal physical stimulus because it does not provide both the novelty of endless porn and the dopamine associated with unnatural hyper sexual stimulus. As you remove the hardwired activity (PMO), your brain continues to create more chemicals associated with stress that hinder your ability to get an erection.

the bad news - this site is anecdotal, almost none of the struggles or successes can be verified, but it’s a great tool for correlating specific outcomes associated with addition and recovery. Do not believe the 90 day myth, since you have used PMO for a decade, I’m just gonna be honest, prepare for cycle of flatlines that may last at the very minimum of 6 months to upwards of a year. You will have good and bad days, snd slowly but surely you will recover. Be realistic about your expectations of recovery, and understand that you have actually damaged your brain and must begin to condition it to a new way of arousal.

the good - you will recover, and as you do you will have many chances to improve your life and outlook on sex and self. You are breaking free of the chains of social conditioning. You have a chance to fix things, or revisit old habits and hobbies that were pushed aside by PMO. Think about things you wish you did regularly but maybe would kick to the next day over snd over because you PMOd during your free time or evenings.

I am going to link an amazing post about how to maximize the effectiveness of your reboot, how to set realistic expectations and how to recenter your attention inwards, which ironically, creates attractive changes towards potential/current partners.

I am always here to chat if you want to talk more about your recovery or ask questions about mine. I am currently on day 162 of a hardmode reboot and I feel 1/2 of the way healed at this point. Good luck king

Link - https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/too...my-thoughts-on-rebooting-extremely-long-post/

 

[randomboy133]

Yup! The most important thing you can do is never watch porn again. Remember that rebooting does not equal abstinence. Rebooting means developing lasting changes in your perceptions of self and sex, as well as introducing or going back to healthy lifestyles and activities that have been ignored or damaged by porn.

you have the classic symptoms of porn withdrawal. Now this is incredibly simplified, but basically You desensitized yourself to normal physical stimulus because it does not provide both the novelty of endless porn and the dopamine associated with unnatural hyper sexual stimulus. As you remove the hardwired activity (PMO), your brain continues to create more chemicals associated with stress that hinder your ability to get an erection.

the bad news - this site is anecdotal, almost none of the struggles or successes can be verified, but it’s a great tool for correlating specific outcomes associated with addition and recovery. Do not believe the 90 day myth, since you have used PMO for a decade, I’m just gonna be honest, prepare for cycle of flatlines that may last at the very minimum of 6 months to upwards of a year. You will have good and bad days, snd slowly but surely you will recover. Be realistic about your expectations of recovery, and understand that you have actually damaged your brain and must begin to condition it to a new way of arousal.

the good - you will recover, and as you do you will have many chances to improve your life and outlook on sex and self. You are breaking free of the chains of social conditioning. You have a chance to fix things, or revisit old habits and hobbies that were pushed aside by PMO. Think about things you wish you did regularly but maybe would kick to the next day over snd over because you PMOd during your free time or evenings.

I am going to link an amazing post about how to maximize the effectiveness of your reboot, how to set realistic expectations and how to recenter your attention inwards, which ironically, creates attractive changes towards potential/current partners.

I am always here to chat if you want to talk more about your recovery or ask questions about mine. I am currently on day 162 of a hardmode reboot and I feel 1/2 of the way healed at this point. Good luck king

Link - https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/too...my-thoughts-on-rebooting-extremely-long-post/

Thanks for your reply brother!
And yes! No porn should be a lifestyle, not only for a strike!
So for now what do you think is the best thing to do for me ? To resensitise my dick and brain.
I have no urge to watch any porn for 6 months already, does it mean I already cut the wires off from my brain and need time to build a normal one?

 

[Sangiha]

I feel like you are very close to the end of the tunnel brotha. I’ve been experiencing the same thing with you pretty much, but you seem to be a bit ahead of me in the journey. I was hard PMO addict since 12-24, just like you.. and now i am 107 days into my reboot. I think the best thing for you (and me) is to just keep going and to live our lives to the best of our abilities. exercize, eat healthy, rewire with a real girl.. you know the drill. I agree with all of your advice and ive been trying to not touch my dick at all but its been the most difficult thing for me. I just habitually keep touching it and it has gotten worse since i suffered from PIED.. as if i am constantly checking if its okay.