Let's start with 3 weeks, boys !

Hi guys,

This first post will be short. I'm a bit lazy when it comes to writing long messages.

But I wanted to create my post right now, in order to put a foot in the door, now that I have finally achieved more than a day without pmo.

I'm actually on my 7th day without pmo. The beginning was really hard. I kept opening the chrome incognito tab on my phone, as a habit, before telling myself "Stoop! No peaking allowed!".

I'm already starting to feel much better.

I'll end my 1st post here, but I'll Come back soon to talk about my past (pied, social anxiety,...), my goals and everything.

I'm grateful for this community.
Can't wait to get my Mojo back!
 
Oh, I forgot something : my 1st goal is to reach 3 weeks without PMO, hardmode style. I gave myself a short term goal to make it more accessible, easier. And to avoid giving up.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
great, im a real fan of the short term goals, even jsut have a goal of three days. it keeps everything in sight and in focus so you dont get too overwhelmed thinking about how far from the 90 days you are. three weeks is good, if you can go three weeks then you can go six, then 12, etc etc..
 

46and2

Active Member
I too am a big fan of short term goals. Far easier to manage with a satisfaction returned quicker. As I move forward with my recovery I'll begin to determine my medium to long term goals but theres much time for That! Keep up the great work.
 
Hi Fappy, yogi, 46and2, guitar1968 ! Thanks a lot for your support, that's very kind of you !
Just a bit of support like that makes a difference !
I'll make sure to check out your journals this week-end.

@ Fappy & 46and2 : as you said, little achievable goals give us the satisfaction of short-term achievements. Our brains (especially since most of us have always been or became huge procrastinators) need these little wins to stay motivated.
And when you think about it. If you can do 3 weeks PMO-free, you can do it twice, and even three times, etc. And all it takes to reach the famous 90 days PMO-free mark is to get to 3 weeks PMO-free a bit more than 4 times in a row. You could even go further and consider that 90 days is 90 times 1 day. All it takes is to get to 1 day, 90 times. You must consider that every day is independant from the day previous day, and from the next say. "Tomorrow is another day"...

I didn't write anything since last week, because until today, I haven't owned a computer for a long time (so I've been doing everything on my phone for years, which was enough for me, except when it comes to writing long messages). Anyways, I just bought a basic computer, that'll make my life much easier.

Now, I told you I would give a much detailed description about myself and my past. That's not for today because I have to get out and have a few beers with my sister. Probably tomorrow :)

Today marks my 15th day PMO-free. That's probably my record since 1.5 years !!!!!

I can't wait to reach the 3 weeks mark. I don't know why, but I tried quitting P for a long time, again and again, but this time I feel like it's different. This time, it's doable.
FYI : I feel fuc***g great ! I'm so pumped ! Energy is up, social anxiety and depression (my worst enemies) are down ! For the first time in a long time, I'm optimistic about the future !

Just a warning : sorry, some guys may be disappointed because when we read no-PMO journals, we want to identify with guys who are in the same conditions, but I have to tell you I've been taking antidepressants for about 5 weeks. What does it mean ? Mostly, it means that I've been feeling great for more than a week, and I keep feeling better, but I'll never be able to tell you how much % of my well-being is due to the no-PMO and how much is due to the antidepressants... Does it really matter ? I reckonit doesn't. There are thousands of testimony all over the internet about people who feel better after they quit PMO. So if you're still looking for confirmation that a PMO-free lifestyle leads to an improved well-being, there's something you missed.

Anyways, I'm a bit drunk, I pumped, can't wait to get back to you to write a bit about my past and my goals.

Have a great week-end everyone !

IWantMyMojo
 

BridgeTri

Member
Well done mate, looking forward to seeing you progress further. Good for you that you found some happiness, less important if it’s because of no PMO or medication!
 
- DAY 17 - Insomnia is back

Hi guys, I'm only 4 days away from reaching my 3-weeks goal. It went much faster than I expected. I'm super proud of myself.
I believe this my record for the last 2.5 years, which is incredible.

The last 3 days have been really interesting. I reckon it shows that I'm going through a very critical period of the rebooting process.

The good things I saw during these last days :
- I'm super jovial. I'm much more confident, I want to engage more with people (for instance, I will ask the cashier or the barmaid a futile question of which I already know the answer, just to create a bit of contact. Just to go further than the usual "Hello, thank you, good bye").

- I can also sustain people's eye contact peacefully and as long as I want.

- it could be in my head, but I'm sure that I get more looks from women

- I have a lot more energy than before, which reduced my procrastination a lot. So I can accomplish much more things in my day.

The not-so-good things :
- I'm super horny. On one side, it feels good to finally feel some libido towards real life women. But I feel like a monkey who just wants to jump on any woman, and so I look at women like a dog, which I'm not proud of. (Can't wait for this so-called flatline to kick-in).

- The insomnia is back. In the past, when I quit PMO for more than 3-4 days, I always faced insomnia at some point. This time, I thought I would avoid it, but I was wrong. I slept 2.5 hours friday night, and 2 hours last night. Last night was really awful. I felt like my brain was on speed. It was restless, even during the 2 hours I slept. And when I woke up, I had flashes of women from my past going through my head. I even caught myself fantasizing about teachers I had in school 15 years ago (when I started wanking).
Now I'm tired but I can't take a nap. My brain won't allow a break. Hopefully, I'll be tired enough, tonight, to get a good night of sleep.

From what I remember, it will probably last a few days, but as soon as i'm over this period, my sleep will be much more restful than when I PMO.

Alright, that's all for today ! Can't wait to celebrate my 3 weeks PMO-free, next thursday.

Oh, one last thing : I feel like this time is different. This time, I can do it.

Have a good sunday everyone !

IWantMyMojo
 
Well done mate, looking forward to seeing you progress further. Good for you that you found some happiness, less important if it’s because of no PMO or medication!
Thanks mate !
Exactly, What matters is that it's the first time in years that I've been feeling good for more than 10 days in a row. And I'm finally optimistic about the future !
 

yogi

Active Member
Firstly, well done!
You are progressing.
"Can't wait for this so-called flatline to kick-in"

Better try to understand what flatline actually is. It's not just lack of libido or loss of horniness towards all the women you meet (which you claim you are having right now). It can manifest as complete depression, anhedonia and a sense of emptiness.

I suggest you read up on that concept in yourbrainonporn website.

It's not something you wait for. It can strike anytime; it might not even happen in the first few weeks. It is unpredictable. So be on your guard!
 
Firstly, well done!
You are progressing.
"Can't wait for this so-called flatline to kick-in"

Better try to understand what flatline actually is. It's not just lack of libido or loss of horniness towards all the women you meet (which you claim you are having right now). It can manifest as complete depression, anhedonia and a sense of emptiness.

I suggest you read up on that concept in yourbrainonporn website.

It's not something you wait for. It can strike anytime; it might not even happen in the first few weeks. It is unpredictable. So be on your guard!
Definitely. I have some experience with flatline and I hate that shit so much. But it actually contains one great thing: no urges. I can't wait until those urges are gone.
 
- Start of Day 20 -

Hi @ yogi & Escapeandnevercomeback : thank you guys for the warning about the flatline. I spent a lot of time watching videos about the reboot process, but I've got to admit I probably didn't dig deep enough into the understanding of the flatline.
So, in the past, whenever I was reading about people complaining about the flatline, I was like "I don't understand what's wrong, if the flatline means no libido, that exactly what we should all wish for - at least during the reboot process".
Anyways, I'll be careful.

Update following my comment from sunday : I was telling you about the fact that I was looking at every woman like a dog. It appears it was only temporary after all, so I'm reassured. I guess the fact that I spent a night fantasizing and was really really tired put me in a weird state of mind, but I'm doing better.

About the sleep : Right now, I can't afford to have several sleepless nights in a row, so sunday night and monday night, I used a sleeping pill that a friend gave me. I think it helped me get through the rough patch, and now I don't need it.

Oh, talking about my friend : This PMO addiction is my biggest and darkest secret. I always thought I would die with this secret... until eventually, 2 years ago, I mentioned it to my brother and my shrink.
Recently, since I was feeling pretty good, I was felt like I wanted to talk about it with 2 very close friends of mine. So I did. It's crazy how easy it was, how it it felt to say it. How understanding, non-judgmental and supportive they were.
If you've got close friends that you'd like to share this with, I encourage you to do it. It feels good.

Have a good day everyone !

IWantMyMojo
 
What up what up, how's it hitting on day 29??

Sharing with people you're close to is essential...otherwise the shame builds up and locks the whole neurosis in place.
 
Well i relapsed. I relapsed at the end of Day 20.
It was because of something stupid.
I had forgotten to cancel a membership to some P subscription on a website. I realized it when i saw a money withdraw on my bank account. So i had no choice but to get back on the website to make the cancellation. Once there... i consumer p. And so i did for more than a week.

Tokay is Day 3 of my current reboot.
 

yogi

Active Member
Well i relapsed. I relapsed at the end of Day 20.
It was because of something stupid.
I had forgotten to cancel a membership to some P subscription on a website. I realized it when i saw a money withdraw on my bank account. So i had no choice but to get back on the website to make the cancellation. Once there... i consumer p. And so i did for more than a week.

Tokay is Day 3 of my current reboot.
I hope you have cancelled all your porn subscriptions.

Stay strong.
 
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