I need to up my game.

EarthWalker

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Great opportunity to level up on urge surfing. At first I got discouraged by urge surfing as it didn't work right away for me. But this is something that definitely works if you keep at it and add your own touch to it. Like for example for me focusing on the heart area is what makes a whole lot of difference when I urge surf. Just like with surfing. It takes some practice before mastering the big waves.

Surfs up. Wish you good sailing or surfing. ;)

EW
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Well-Known Member
Great opportunity to level up on urge surfing. At first I got discouraged by urge surfing as it didn't work right away for me. But this is something that definitely works if you keep at it and add your own touch to it. Like for example for me focusing on the heart area is what makes a whole lot of difference when I urge surf. Just like with surfing. It takes some practice before mastering the big waves.

Surfs up. Wish you good sailing or surfing. ;)

EW
Yo, thanks man. I've had "opportunities" so far to engage with porn but I didn't.
 

46and2

Active Member
I hear you man; being tired can really enforce the power of an urge! I hope you've managed to stay strong and stay focused.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Well-Known Member
You know, I guess the situation is like this: The urges are the habit asking for the fix and it's that simple, at basic level which I'm trying to get to. It gets complicated because they are associated with other things inside of us, maybe at subconscious level: self-medication, comfort zone etc, "entertainment" for boredom etc. This is when they start to cause problems to the addicts. It's the motherfuckin brainwashing that Easy Peasy method speaks about. In our head, we believe that porn is something important for our lives that's why the urges cause so many problems but actually they are just the withdrawal and they come and go, it doesn't need to be complicated. Simplifying everything down to the basics is important. The more you complicate yourself with this thing, the harder it gets and the less sense you make in your head. We are actually lucky to only be porn addicts (for those who are only porn addicts here) and let me explain what I mean by "lucky": The withdrawal of porn addiction doesn't kill and doesn't cause any major health problems, like for example Xanax addicts who have seizures when they quit suddenly. We don't go through anything life threatening and if this doesn't kill us, what are we scared of?
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
That's the thing, Escape. It won't kill us, but the urges sure make it feel like they will, if we don't respond to them...

This is because the urges are coming from survival centers in the lower brain, relating to the instinctual and primal needs that keep man and beast alive.

The good news is that our 'higher brain', the cerebral cortex, where critical thinking and decision making come from, can override and outlast any urge.

Also, the more we dismiss urges, neither reacting for or against them (the withought judgment thing), the weaker and weaker they'll be.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Well-Known Member
That's the thing, Escape. It won't kill us, but the urges sure make it feel like they will, if we don't respond to them...

This is because the urges are coming from survival centers in the lower brain, relating to the instinctual and primal needs that keep man and beast alive.

The good news is that our 'higher brain', the cerebral cortex, where critical thinking and decision making come from, can override and outlast any urge.

Also, the more we dismiss urges, neither reacting for or against them (the withought judgment thing), the weaker and weaker they'll be.
Definitely.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Well-Known Member
Day 9

Massive urges.

Today I have 1 month without drinking but staying away from everything makes me feel really low. It's like I don't like anything. I crave porn and I crave a drinking session.
 
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