I need to up my game.

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Escapeandnevercomeback

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You know, I guess the situation is like this: The urges are the habit asking for the fix and it's that simple, at basic level which I'm trying to get to. It gets complicated because they are associated with other things inside of us, maybe at subconscious level: self-medication, comfort zone etc, "entertainment" for boredom etc. This is when they start to cause problems to the addicts. It's the motherfuckin brainwashing that Easy Peasy method speaks about. In our head, we believe that porn is something important for our lives that's why the urges cause so many problems but actually they are just the withdrawal and they come and go, it doesn't need to be complicated. Simplifying everything down to the basics is important. The more you complicate yourself with this thing, the harder it gets and the less sense you make in your head. We are actually lucky to only be porn addicts (for those who are only porn addicts here) and let me explain what I mean by "lucky": The withdrawal of porn addiction doesn't kill and doesn't cause any major health problems, like for example Xanax addicts who have seizures when they quit suddenly. We don't go through anything life threatening and if this doesn't kill us, what are we scared of?
 
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Phineas 808

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That's the thing, Escape. It won't kill us, but the urges sure make it feel like they will, if we don't respond to them...

This is because the urges are coming from survival centers in the lower brain, relating to the instinctual and primal needs that keep man and beast alive.

The good news is that our 'higher brain', the cerebral cortex, where critical thinking and decision making come from, can override and outlast any urge.

Also, the more we dismiss urges, neither reacting for or against them (the withought judgment thing), the weaker and weaker they'll be.
 
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Escapeandnevercomeback

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Phineas 808 said:
That's the thing, Escape. It won't kill us, but the urges sure make it feel like they will, if we don't respond to them...

This is because the urges are coming from survival centers in the lower brain, relating to the instinctual and primal needs that keep man and beast alive.

The good news is that our 'higher brain', the cerebral cortex, where critical thinking and decision making come from, can override and outlast any urge.

Also, the more we dismiss urges, neither reacting for or against them (the withought judgment thing), the weaker and weaker they'll be.
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Definitely.
 
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Escapeandnevercomeback

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Day 9

Massive urges.

Today I have 1 month without drinking but staying away from everything makes me feel really low. It's like I don't like anything. I crave porn and I crave a drinking session.
 
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Escapeandnevercomeback

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I'm reading success stories for motivation not to get caught in the heat of the moment. My addicted brain is trying to get me down the same routine that has led to relapses many times. I see it coming but it feels like the best idea, like it won't do anything wrong to me, that's exactly how it feels although I know it's not true.
 
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Escapeandnevercomeback said:
I'm reading success stories for motivation not to get caught in the heat of the moment. My addicted brain is trying to get me down the same routine that has led to relapses many times. I see it coming but it feels like the best idea, like it won't do anything wrong to me, that's exactly how it feels although I know it's not true.
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Man. I'm right there with you.
It's been really helpful to read other people's stories especially when I just wanna say 'screw it'. Then also reading about the hurt PMO has caused for the writer and their family, I don't want to go down that path.
Keep at it man. You are stronger than you realize!
 
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Escapeandnevercomeback

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Squidward81 said:
Man. I'm right there with you.
It's been really helpful to read other people's stories especially when I just wanna say 'screw it'. Then also reading about the hurt PMO has caused for the writer and their family, I don't want to go down that path.
Keep at it man. You are stronger than you realize!
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Thanks, man!
 
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Escapeandnevercomeback

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Day 10

I crave porn and alcohol. Giving up those two things made me feel irritated and a constant anxiety all day long. All I feel is anxiety and anger/irritation. I don't like how I feel. I see why people go back to their addictions. It sucks.
 
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Escapeandnevercomeback

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The only thing that manages to calm down a little bit my desire to act out is reading success stories. Especially those "Before/After" type of stories. The "Before" stories are many times something I would write. It reminds me of where I'm coming from and what I could get if I decided to "do nothing" about the craving. When you feel like you can't wait anymore, it might help to read some posts and articles like that for motivation. Just tell yourself: "5 minutes until I finish reading this, if I'm to jerk off anyway" but you might not even want to do it anymore after reading.
 
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