I need to up my game.

Phineas 808

Respected Member
Anxiety is higher than when I was binging porn. Shit. 18 days complete starvation. Quitting porn and drinking at the same time surely is hard.

You're doing great, Escape! The anxiety, just like urges, will pass as you breathe through them.

I know what it is to quit two things at once, first my p-related behaviors, and then on top of that, ending a long time friendship (to honor my marriage).

But you can do it! Don't let the fact that you're quitting two things be an excuse to compromise on 1 (or both things). You got this! What else would you be doing? Acting on the unwanted behaviors? An immeidate fix for sure, but creating a longer term pain and suffering, regret, and a prolonging of the thing you're wanting to escape.

This can be the time where you leave all this behind.
 
Escape, just hang in there buddy.
Yes, you are giving up two addictions at once. It's a double whammy for your brain.

But the bright side is that you get rid of both bad habits simultaneously.
Thank you. I appreciate the support. I have 18 days no porn, no alcohol but I'm irritated as fuck.
 
You're doing great, Escape! The anxiety, just like urges, will pass as you breathe through them.

I know what it is to quit two things at once, first my p-related behaviors, and then on top of that, ending a long time friendship (to honor my marriage).

But you can do it! Don't let the fact that you're quitting two things be an excuse to compromise on 1 (or both things). You got this! What else would you be doing? Acting on the unwanted behaviors? An immeidate fix for sure, but creating a longer term pain and suffering, regret, and a prolonging of the thing you're wanting to escape.

This can be the time where you leave all this behind.
I know. I'm tired to walk in a loop. I'm very susceptible to binges and when I do that, I "pause" the roller coaster for a little bit and then it starts again because it only goes away after complete starvation. Only going all the way to the end stops the loop. We have to keep in mind what we are really doing here. It's easy to lose the focus when pleasure is promised.
 
Anxiety is higher than when I was binging porn. Shit. 18 days complete starvation. Quitting porn and drinking at the same time surely is hard.
I am with you, man. Just feel the anxiety. Just feel it into the very ground of your being. Don't escape. The goal is to relieve ourselves of all self-medication and to stare into the face of reality, smilingly and unflinchingly. I believe in you.
 

yogi

Active Member
I am with you, man. Just feel the anxiety. Just feel it into the very ground of your being. Don't escape. The goal is to relieve ourselves of all self-medication and to stare into the face of reality, smilingly and unflinchingly. I believe in you.
Well said!
 
The fuckin urges do what they want. They left me alone for 2 days and then BAM! Massive urges, man. My general anxiety has doubled since I started this. Shit. Yesterday, I even had a mild panic attack.
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
23 days complete starvation

I avoid making the mistakes that lead me to relapse and I "suffer the consequences" of doing this cold turkey. It sucks big time.

The 'new you' will appreciate you enduring and not giving in to the sometimes persistent urges. Think of the urges as mere thought, and that just like other unwanted thoughts/feelings, they will pass.

Congrats on 23 days!
 
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