I need to up my game.

Phineas 808

Respected Member
I crave drinking like crazy. :(

You know what some folks do? It's called ERP (Exposure Response Prevention), and the idea is that you do what surrounds the urges without responding or giving in to them. This helps deaden the neural pathways that encourage the unwanted behavior.

For drinking, one would get a shot glass fill it with gingerale (or whatever non-alcoholic drink you prefer), and just go through the motions.

Believe it or not, this takes the edge off of the urges, and shows that you're in control and not a substance.

Wishing you well, Escape!
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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Day 9

It is around this time that it gets really difficult and I get closer to a relapse. I usually relapse here or resist for a few days and relapse. On rare occasions, I get to 18 days or so. This is the truth. I wish it won't happen though.
 
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EarthWalker

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The wave always breaks. Set the direction and sail true. You will be amazed what you can do. Assert sovereignty. You are a free man and you have the right to claim sovereignty and be free in your mind. free in your being. Ride the wave and come out renewed at the other end.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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The wave always breaks. Set the direction and sail true. You will be amazed what you can do. Assert sovereignty. You are a free man and you have the right to claim sovereignty and be free in your mind. free in your being. Ride the wave and come out renewed at the other end.
Okay, man. I like how you said that.
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
Day 9

It is around this time that it gets really difficult and I get closer to a relapse. I usually relapse here or resist for a few days and relapse. On rare occasions, I get to 18 days or so. This is the truth. I wish it won't happen though.

Here be careful of such thoughts, because they are not necessarily true. If we tell ourselves, "8 days is my wall, I usually fall at this time.", that might have been true before, but you've also gone beyond 9 days.

I've tended to think similar to this. How did I get passed it? I think instead, "If I can make it 1 day, I can make it 1 week. If I can make it 1 week, I can make it 1 month."

Take it one day at a time, and don't set up limits for yourself.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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I don't know, man, I'm not motivated to do this thing.
Here be careful of such thoughts, because they are not necessarily true. If we tell ourselves, "8 days is my wall, I usually fall at this time.", that might have been true before, but you've also gone beyond 9 days.

I've tended to think similar to this. How did I get passed it? I think instead, "If I can make it 1 day, I can make it 1 week. If I can make it 1 week, I can make it 1 month."

Take it one day at a time, and don't set up limits for yourself.
Thanks, man.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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Day 1

...And fuckin day 1. Listen, to everybody reading this: If you think that you can half-ass the plan and make it, you are deluding yourself. If you think you can get complacent and listen to that voice in the head that tells you: "You can relax a little bit here and there because you can handle it", you are deluding yourself. Quitting porn will never work if the plan is not respected and followed with determination, sacrifice and suffering. For a period of time quitting porn must be number 1 priority and we must do whatever it takes to make it work. I've been disrespecting the plan and paying the price over and over and over. Don't be me. That's all I want to say for now. Good luck and health.
 

NewStart04

Member
Escapeandnevercomeback

I am sorry to hear about the relapse. Hoping you learned from it and that you use this knowledge to aid your next attempt. It's not over until we give up.

As an aside, I am sure that--seeing that this forum is dedicated to recovery from porn addiction and PISDs--you will get plenty of information, advice, support, etc., related to recovering from porn, but I just wanted to take this time to say that sobriety from alcohol is a possibility as well. I used to be an alcoholic for many years but can now say that I have been dry for more than 3 years. Based on my personal experience, I can say that with time, consistency, and commitment, recovery gets easier to the point where it's second nature not to drink, where urges and thoughts get weaker and eventually go away.

Keep your head up. Wishing you the best with your future efforts.
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
Day 5

I'm tempted.

The only way out is through. The good news is that we don't have to do anything about the urges, to fight them or to feed them.

Just stay calm when tempted, and breathe deep through the urges until they pass. Rinse and repeat.

The more you don't respond to the urges, the weaker they become.

Surround yourself with positivity, even if that's not your normal nature. Think good thoughts, and believe in yourself. I know it sounds like a Hallmark card, but it does wonders in helping you become the person that you want to be.
 
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