If I drink, I will fuck up this streak too, that's what always happens. I start convincing myself that I could handle a little bit of drinking without looking at porn and then game over.
Thanks for advice.It may be that drinking is part of your ritual. But always remember that, even if you drank, you can still interupt your ritual and not take it all the way to P, or PMO.
Bottom line, brother, you're in control! Prove it to yourself, pour a little drink (ginger ale or just ale), deep breathe, look at it in the glass, deep breathe, and then pour it down the drain...! Some people go through their ritual without anctually responding to the urges!
What worked for me, even back in 2016, was learning how to 'work with' my urges. You have to know that no matter how strong the urges are, they always pass, always... it's like a law of nature. When I learned this (and yes, I had failures trying to learn it!), something fundamental 'clicked' in my head:
Outside stimuli, such as cues (triggers) and their uges, can't make me do anything. It's only as I resist them, fight them, or feed them, that I strengthen the habituated neural pathways.
The less I respond, the weaker these 'well-worn' grooves become, and I take back my freedom.
Make no mistake I almost gave in yesterday but in the end I won I watched some videos and that's it without ejaculation just a little crush is the willpower that makes the difference go out and keep your mind busy it is when you are alone and sad that takes you wantsDay 11
I craved porn all evening, yesterday. It was a mental agony. I was crazy about watching porn and at the same time, stopping myself. This created a big mental misery. I was making plans to watch "a little bit". The craving is unbearable. I don't know how much I
Never give up you have made progress we are made of flesh and we are weak sometimes even yesterday I was about to give in but with the will we can do it it is not easy not to give up bro you can do more just want itDay 0
I edged to fantasies then PMOed once after about 5 minutes of looking at some pictures.
I don't know how people deal with the unbearable craving. I really don't know. I'm not talking about urges here, I'm talking about the craving. I have no idea how some of you get astronomical (for me) numbers like 60 days. I can't deal with the craving for porn. I'm too sexually frustrated, I can't resist the pleasure. I am not sure I can escape this anymore. I should change my fuckin nickname.
Hey, man, thanks for the support.@Escapeandnevercomeback I can relate to this buddy . I have not been able to go farther than 11-12 days this year without PMO and chat rooms . I have set up router rules to block all sites that I usually access but I know the password for the router . It’s like I have the keys to the sin room.
see if you can change up your environment. That seemed to have worked for me in the past . Like for example changing diet , changing where you sit for work everyday . You need to change up things and try with renewed commitment.
Be forgiving on yourself too that’s very important. It’s ok we are going to get this but one step at a time . Next time you feel like you are doing good and mind is trying to knock you down please think what else , what can I do to not let myself down this rabit hole now again and then do what seems most appropriate to salvage the reboot journey . I know those moments when you’re thinking like “it’s probably okay to just take a little peek now cos I have made it 10 days now” . That’s when we are being very vulnerable and that’s the time to renew the commitment to full sobriety. Somehow anyhow. Untill we do that , we are gonna be in this vulnerable vicious cycle .
so let’s renew our commitment and reinforce it time and time again until we break our limits and see beyond and realize what’s possible .
I am day 1 today and this time I will look for ways to avoid vulnerable thoughts as I try to make progress .
good effort buddy . Keep at it . We will win
But it's not enough for me. 10 days was a big achievement back in the days when my best was 4 days but I got stuck here. I've been stagnating too much. It is around day 7, 8 or 9 that things start getting difficult and I usually relapse or I suffer with the craving and the urges and fail by day 10-11. It's the same circle that I walk. And I need more than this. I haven't made it to more than 11 days in a while. Since summer I've been constantly failing.fwiw: I think that doing consistent 10 day something streaks is an achievement non-the-less.