I need to up my game.

Nobody comes to save us. We might have wives, friends, a shrink whatever but at the end of all this, we remain there alone with ourselves. If someone should save us from the chains of porn, is actually us. People can only give advice, tell us what they think, what worked for them but at the end of the day we are alone in our head with ourselves and only we can save ourselves.
True indeed. We are responsible for ourselves.

Are you practising or considering yoga or meditation? They are very good techniques of self-discipline besides fostering both physical and mental health. Might help in diminishing those urges.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
You're doing good on both fronts, keep it up! You know that alcohol only leads to other unwanted behavior, as well as poisoning yourself. You deserve a lot better! Now's the time, this is your year!
If I started drinking now, I would binge PMO for sure. The alcohol addicted brain is trying to convince me that I could handle it.

I wish this year will be my best year, like you say. It would be amazing. The more I relapse, the more exasperating it gets.

Thanks for your support.
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
But it's difficult to quit both at the same time :(

It is, brother. All one can say is to ignore one urge at a time... If urges are there for both (?), at least one will be more persistent than the other. Breathe deep until that one passes, then if the urge for the other arises, breathe deep until that one passes.

Very important: Don't react (for or against) to either urge, just watch yourself dispassionately, or with detachment. Don't infuse the urges with emotions like, "Damn, I hate this shit!" Or, "This sucks so bad...", Or worse, "I hate myself for wanting to drink/use PMO!"

Be compassionate with yourself, like you're the hero of your own story, but you're the one watching it unfold. Even if you fell, same thing, be compassionate! But, you're going to do great!

I just laid out 2.5 years on a chart (my page 1), and dang! I've had some good months and some not so good, but it's sure a motivator for me right now! I already have 1x lapse for this month, but I believe I'll pull it out okay for the rest of the month...!
 

Robby82

Member
DAY 60

guys I'm just writing to tell you that nofap has improved my life a lot but I'm not saying that everything will be perfect and that it will never go wrong but that you will face life with the strength that you have inside of you with your head and your way of thinking and with the necessary determination and only in this way can you realize that you are comfortable with yourself then the difficulties will always be there but they will seem much smaller than before. This is what happened to me and I am telling you to encourage everyone to continue the path I have seen enormous progress both physical today I beat my weightlifting record on the bench press today both mental and social I am seeing that the same people as before now they see me as a different person and more interesting and talkative and on a mental level I am much more lucid and I can always think with my head without fear and I have achieved better results at work and I now have a strong self-esteem and no one scares me if anything the opposite.Hope to be of help to someone with this post
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
It is, brother. All one can say is to ignore one urge at a time... If urges are there for both (?), at least one will be more persistent than the other. Breathe deep until that one passes, then if the urge for the other arises, breathe deep until that one passes.

Very important: Don't react (for or against) to either urge, just watch yourself dispassionately, or with detachment. Don't infuse the urges with emotions like, "Damn, I hate this shit!" Or, "This sucks so bad...", Or worse, "I hate myself for wanting to drink/use PMO!"

Be compassionate with yourself, like you're the hero of your own story, but you're the one watching it unfold. Even if you fell, same thing, be compassionate! But, you're going to do great!

I just laid out 2.5 years on a chart (my page 1), and dang! I've had some good months and some not so good, but it's sure a motivator for me right now! I already have 1x lapse for this month, but I believe I'll pull it out okay for the rest of the month...!
Thanks, man.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
DAY 60

guys I'm just writing to tell you that nofap has improved my life a lot but I'm not saying that everything will be perfect and that it will never go wrong but that you will face life with the strength that you have inside of you with your head and your way of thinking and with the necessary determination and only in this way can you realize that you are comfortable with yourself then the difficulties will always be there but they will seem much smaller than before. This is what happened to me and I am telling you to encourage everyone to continue the path I have seen enormous progress both physical today I beat my weightlifting record on the bench press today both mental and social I am seeing that the same people as before now they see me as a different person and more interesting and talkative and on a mental level I am much more lucid and I can always think with my head without fear and I have achieved better results at work and I now have a strong self-esteem and no one scares me if anything the opposite.Hope to be of help to someone with this post
Good progress, man! Keep going! Very inspiring!
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Day 15

Half a month no porn, no alcohol. I was invaded in the morning by flashbacks and fantasies. I started breathing more deeply and I focused on the action of breathing, trying to ignore the images, and it worked. The urges lost their intensity and I calmed down.

You know, this is that moment: I've passed, for the first time in I think months, the 10-11 days mark that was my limit and now I have this feeling that I can go on even more. Only crossing the line in my head could sabotage me now, focusing too much on the craving and not on the strategy to go through urges. The craving manifests itself through a feeling of low, of wanting stimulation, a desire for pleasure. The urges are easier to beat, in my opinion, when I don't focus all day long on craving pleasure. I've noticed this is the thing that uses to get me in the end: I start craving the pleasure too much, I start becoming very sexually frustrated and I justify why I need porn to meet my sexual needs. It has the ability to cloud my mind and make me forget that porn doesn't satisfy anything. Think about it: Things like exercise, eating, sex, studying etc. have a purpose, they do something for your life. Now see if you can find something that porn does to you. Is it educational? Nutritious? Helps you reproduce, connect with your partner? Helps you reduce stress and anxiety? After 17 years, I haven't found one single thing that porn gives me. Easy Peasy is right: Porn is absolutely nothing for our lives. Get rid of it, y'all! Stay strong and don't listen to the addicted beast!
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
Half a month no porn, no alcohol. I was invaded in the morning by flashbacks and fantasies. I started breathing more deeply and I focused on the action of breathing, trying to ignore the images, and it worked. The urges lost their intensity and I calmed down.

This ^ !

Congratulations on reaching beyond your latest limits, now mentally, you know you can go even further. But, like all good runners, don't stare at your feet. Just like you said, focusing on your goals, your strategies, and not so much on the cravings, is the way to go!

Even last night, I put this strategy into motion as I had some urges to MO, and could tell if I acted on them it would become a habit. So, I laid there, breathed deep, and let the urges pass. I went to sleep with no further incident.

Good job, Escape!
 

Robby82

Member
Yesterday guys I went to a striptease club and got a blowjob. I don't think it's a relapse because it has nothing to do with porn even though I know it would be better than more spontaneous sex. But I think that every now and then some beautiful woman to hang out with even if an escort can stay in the bottom we are made of meat here we are trying to defeat the addiction to porn not from women.. But in any case I will try to avoid such situations as my goal is a healthy relationship with a steady partner
 

Robby82

Member
Great escape you're doing great I must admit that I feel a little down for the blowjob I received from a professional I would have preferred a more real experience even just a kiss with a girl. I justify myself because it is difficult to resist without sex for too long anyway e and if one night I'm drunk and tempted would happen to me to do sex with an escort.I won my addiction to PMO I defeated it now it would take me to know a girl with whom to have a stable relationship once in a lifetime to have the chance to even get rid of the escort temptation. God help me
 
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