I need to up my game.

Robby82

Member
I wanted to share this thought of mine with you and know what you think since we are facing an addiction that is in any case comparable to that of drugs or alcohol and has been demonstrated in the book yourbrainonporn even if obvious in a different form but the brain damage and reception dopamine is similar if not worse we have heard of people who have lost work, home and family due to addiction to porn I believe that as for drug addicts or alcoholics we need to search for the root cause that led us to have the addiction can be varied for how I think if it is to satisfy the libido and that's it you can defeat it with a bit of willpower if it is something else like being left by a partner or dissatisfaction in bed or absence of relationships you have to work more on the psychological side to avoid relapses and I believe that when you are about to relapse you need to think about the cause that leads us to do it to defeat the addiction and be stronger the "monster" takes us when we are weak but if we are not we can do nothing about it we must be clear about the causes in my opinion
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
I believe everybody has a way in which will beat this addiction. Find this solution, find what works for you, how you should reboot and don't give up, never stop searching for the solution.

Well said, and no truer words were ever spoken! Even trying multiple approaches at once helps for many, as it's never a one-size-fits-all.

You're doing this, Escape, and congratulations on day 19!
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Three perfect weeks for the first time in months. I am sure I won't relapse until tomorrow. I've honestly forgotten how long it's been. The last 2-3 months of last year were horrendous. I thought I had lost control completely and had no way anymore to get myself out of my under 10 days streaks binges. If this has shown me one thing is that it's always possible to make the seemingly impossible. While looking for the way to have success, I've returned back to the basics, and if the same thing helps me twice, it must be something there. What I believe should help me is a combination of something to do on short term to deal with urges and something to do on long term which includes healing the trauma and building a better life. But those two things won't happen overnight. Three weeks without alcohol too and sometimes I get this big craving for a drink but as I've lost already a few long streaks because of alcohol, I really must avoid it. Don't lose hope, y'all! 2 months ago I was done for and now I feel the reboot is more possible than ever. It's never too late to shock the world!
 

Robby82

Member
Three perfect weeks for the first time in months. I am sure I won't relapse until tomorrow. I've honestly forgotten how long it's been. The last 2-3 months of last year were horrendous. I thought I had lost control completely and had no way anymore to get myself out of my under 10 days streaks binges. If this has shown me one thing is that it's always possible to make the seemingly impossible. While looking for the way to have success, I've returned back to the basics, and if the same thing helps me twice, it must be something there. What I believe should help me is a combination of something to do on short term to deal with urges and something to do on long term which includes healing the trauma and building a better life. But those two things won't happen overnight. Three weeks without alcohol too and sometimes I get this big craving for a drink but as I've lost already a few long streaks because of alcohol, I really must avoid it. Don't lose hope, y'all! 2 months ago I was done for and now I feel the reboot is more possible than ever. It's never too late to shock the world!
Great job bro keep going in this way you are so strong now and you can do anything you want. You're right is never too late it's only in our control you are showing that!!!
 

logicprox

Active Member
I do not understand something:

This is a forum for porn addicts only.

Are you addicted to drugs?
Given escapeandnevercomeback's note, no need to respond to this but you can dm me if you like. I am not sure why you would think it has to be limited to only people dealing with ONLY porn and I strongly disagree. Nobody on this forum has only one problem in life and a lot of problems can be interrelated. I wouldn't be here either if a PMO addiction existed in a vacuum. I don't think anyone would be.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
Given escapeandnevercomeback's note, no need to respond to this but you can dm me if you like. I am not sure why you would think it has to be limited to only people dealing with ONLY porn and I strongly disagree. Nobody on this forum has only one problem in life and a lot of problems can be interrelated. I wouldn't be here either if a PMO addiction existed in a vacuum. I don't think anyone would be.
I am addicted to alcohol as well, which I'm trying to quit at the same time with porn addiction and it sucks to deal with two sets of problems. And funny or not, I started drinking heavily to "medicate" the mental problems that my porn addiction had been at best making them worse, at worse creating them.
 

logicprox

Active Member
I am addicted to alcohol as well, which I'm trying to quit at the same time with porn addiction and it sucks to deal with two sets of problems. And funny or not, I started drinking heavily to "medicate" the mental problems that my porn addiction had been at best making them worse, at worse creating them.
I feel you. Alcohol isn't one for me but I definitely have other life issues and personal weaknesses that drive my cycle too. It is all connected somehow. Nothing is totally isolated (in my opinion).
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
I feel you. Alcohol isn't one for me but I definitely have other life issues and personal weaknesses that drive my cycle too. It is all connected somehow. Nothing is totally isolated (in my opinion).
That's right, it's a big picture, it's not as simple as abstaining from porn. You can Rambo-style your way through the urges and get a decent streak but many people spiral back to porn if all they do is counting days, and I've seen cases. It's made me think. I will need more than just a streak to beat this.
 

zackergeet

Active Member
Three perfect weeks for the first time in months. I am sure I won't relapse until tomorrow. I've honestly forgotten how long it's been. The last 2-3 months of last year were horrendous. I thought I had lost control completely and had no way anymore to get myself out of my under 10 days streaks binges. If this has shown me one thing is that it's always possible to make the seemingly impossible. While looking for the way to have success, I've returned back to the basics, and if the same thing helps me twice, it must be something there. What I believe should help me is a combination of something to do on short term to deal with urges and something to do on long term which includes healing the trauma and building a better life. But those two things won't happen overnight. Three weeks without alcohol too and sometimes I get this big craving for a drink but as I've lost already a few long streaks because of alcohol, I really must avoid it. Don't lose hope, y'all! 2 months ago I was done for and now I feel the reboot is more possible than ever. It's never too late to shock the world!
Hello @Escapeandnevercomeback, I am happy to know you achieved 3 full weeks man! I believe you have found you main trigger, you have to continue fighting it. It seems PMO is a secondary problem associated to drinking. So you have to focus on the main problem and hopefully you will overcome both. I have faith that you will make it my friend. Don’t let your guard down with the triggers!. Keep it going!
 

zackergeet

Active Member
That's right, it's a big picture, it's not as simple as abstaining from porn. You can Rambo-style your way through the urges and get a decent streak but many people spiral back to porn if all they do is counting days, and I've seen cases. It's made me think. I will need more than just a streak to beat this.
Once you get a big number, you will forget about counting and your next goal will be to stay free permanently.
 
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