I need to up my game.

Chuckles

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I know that technically every human being has the possibility to quit porn if they are addicted but I don't know what that is. I don't know how to quit, I can't quit or whatever.
Honest question, not intending to be sarcastic/condescending/whatever, what do you want from the community here? Do you want advice on how to effectively quit? Do you want encouragement? Or do you just want a place to write things down and send them into the void that is the internet? What does good support look like to you?

At the top of my post I said "take it or leave it" and leaving it is an option. But beyond that first part you didn't like, did you read the rest of it? It's good advice. Identify your problem areas. Come up with a plan for quitting. Build a framework. Stick to it.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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Honest question, not intending to be sarcastic/condescending/whatever, what do you want from the community here? Do you want advice on how to effectively quit? Do you want encouragement? Or do you just want a place to write things down and send them into the void that is the internet? What does good support look like to you?

At the top of my post I said "take it or leave it" and leaving it is an option. But beyond that first part you didn't like, did you read the rest of it? It's good advice. Identify your problem areas. Come up with a plan for quitting. Build a framework. Stick to it.
Hey, man, I apologize for that thing, I was angry and depressed after the relapse. Maybe it came out worse than I wanted to say it. The thing is, I was mad at myself for relapsing continously and I hated to see people keep telling me to be nice to myself. Yes, maybe this is what I should do. But anyway, the thing is, this stupid porn addiction has this talent to transform you. I am, by default, a nice, humble guy, but this fuckin addiction has me by the balls. I'm on edge. I hope you forgot about it.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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I'm on day 10 hard mode and, as always, I'm walking the tightrope, I can relapse in any second but I hope I won't. It's been alright so far with the rebooting but I have a problem with drinkin, I can't fuckin stop... And I don't like this at all. Not only that you can't continue drinking when you can't control it, it goes without sayin, but it also has the potential to make me binge porn, so it's a sword with double edge and both cut deep. Those stupid addictions have me on edge all the time. I hear the tick-tock, time flies and I see myself stuck in this shit. I'm broken spiritually and as a result, physically and mentally too. I know there is always a way out. Recovering from addictions is hard work, you won't make it by half assing it. The recovery demands respect. I need to do a well research inside myself and see wtf is going on. The facts are clear: I am trying to fix my inner life with external things. It will never work.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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Day 11

I can't lie, I need to be completely honest: Everyday is tightrope. I am starting to get very sexually hungry and frustrated and I am sure I am not doing all the things to maximize the chances for a successful rebooting but since I hit 30 years old I haven't been able to escape the running out of patience I'm experiencing with this porn addiction. I want to be done with it sooner and maybe this sabotages me but I don't know better for now. I just don't want to repeat the same circle.
 

zackergeet

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Day 11

I can't lie, I need to be completely honest: Everyday is tightrope. I am starting to get very sexually hungry and frustrated and I am sure I am not doing all the things to maximize the chances for a successful rebooting but since I hit 30 years old I haven't been able to escape the running out of patience I'm experiencing with this porn addiction. I want to be done with it sooner and maybe this sabotages me but I don't know better for now. I just don't want to repeat the same circle.
Hang in there man you can do it!
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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At least for me, I'll take anxiety over looking at porn any day. Both suck, but one is considerably better than the other.

Best
Hell yeah, well said! Like I used to say: One leads to something, the other to nothing. Withdrawal leads to escape, constant relapsing leads to nothing. It's true, we rather take the anxiety than porn because the anxiety is part of withdrawal.
 

Blondie

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Hey Escape, I know you mentioned once that you drink a lot of coffee. I also drank a lot of coffee in my past, and just recently got myself off of it completely. Having done so, my anxiety levels have been considerably lower than they were before. I actually thought I was just an "anxious" person, but now I see a lot of it came from caffeine!

Anyways, just a thought. Nice job on day 12.
 

Chuckles

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Hey, man, I apologize for that thing, I was angry and depressed after the relapse. Maybe it came out worse than I wanted to say it. The thing is, I was mad at myself for relapsing continously and I hated to see people keep telling me to be nice to myself. Yes, maybe this is what I should do. But anyway, the thing is, this stupid porn addiction has this talent to transform you. I am, by default, a nice, humble guy, but this fuckin addiction has me by the balls. I'm on edge. I hope you forgot about it.
I get it. Not mad.
My main point is asking you to really look at your quitting plan. Have you considered detox/rehab for the alcohol?
Not telling you how to live, just a suggestion.

Good luck on recovery!
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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I get it. Not mad.
My main point is asking you to really look at your quitting plan. Have you considered detox/rehab for the alcohol?
Not telling you how to live, just a suggestion.

Good luck on recovery!
I am positive that my quitting plan could be a lot better, I've said in a recent post, I am sure I am not doing everything I should be doing to maximize the chances of success and this is something I need to change. About alcohol, yes I've considered going to AA. But I wonder whether this hasn't been a deliberate self-sabotaging thing so I could justify why I keep drinking.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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Hey Escape, I know you mentioned once that you drink a lot of coffee. I also drank a lot of coffee in my past, and just recently got myself off of it completely. Having done so, my anxiety levels have been considerably lower than they were before. I actually thought I was just an "anxious" person, but now I see a lot of it came from caffeine!

Anyways, just a thought. Nice job on day 12.
Actually, I don't drink a lot. But I hear what you're saying, I guess some of my anxiety could come from caffeine too. What I know for sure is that caffeine makes my urges harder for some reason and it's led me to relapse in the past. I probably should take a break but the thing is staying away from porn, alcohol and caffeine is crazy, it's panic mode, you know what I'm saying? Of course I don't see any point in continuing to consume porn (there is really no benefit at all) and alcohol (if you can't control it and it's detrimental to your life) but quitting caffeine is the game over moment for the brain, it's like: "Come on, man, giving up everything, every guilty pleasure?" I'm not saying I'm right, it's how my brain panicks thinking about it. So long story short, I haven't stopped consuming it. I haven't stopped consuming alcohol either :( The only thing that I've stopped consuming so far is porn (for 12 days). I am positive I'm not doing all the things I should be doing.
 

Blondie

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I probably should take a break but the thing is staying away from porn, alcohol and caffeine is crazy, it's panic mode, you know what I'm saying?
I definitely get that, just one thing at a time is a measure of success. I even feel this still, and I'll probably return to my caffeine after a month of this experiment. After I weaned myself down to only 1 shot a day, I didn't really notice any improvements so maybe that will be my new normal when I return.

In my opinion, porn is the only thing that really matters, and whatever you have to do to get that freedom, is what you should do right now. Do you look at porn on your phone? Fuck it, get rid of your smartphone and get a shity old phone for the time being. Do you do look at porn on your laptop? Fuck it, get rid of your laptop (at least temporarily) until the big urges stop, and they will! No one needs a laptop, unless you need it for work or something, then you'll need to figure that out.

You have a good streak going on Escape, so now's the time to get crazy about this. No one ever got to the top of Everest without the proper training and mindset.

I suggest you go crazy about this for the next month and take extreme measures. Extreme measures will get you some results, which I think is what you need right now.

But that's my two cents.

Best brother.
 
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Escapeandnevercomeback

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I definitely get that, just one thing at a time is a measure of success. I even feel this still, and I'll probably return to my caffeine after a month of this experiment. After I weaned myself down to only 1 shot a day, I didn't really notice any improvements so maybe that will be my new normal when I return.

In my opinion, porn is the only thing that really matters, and whatever you have to do to get that freedom, is what you should do right now. Do you look at porn on your phone? Fuck it, get rid of your smartphone and get a shity old phone for the time being. Do you do look at porn on your laptop? Fuck it, get rid of your laptop (at least temporarily) until the big urges stop, and they will! No one needs a laptop, unless you need it for work or something, then you'll need to figure that out.

You have a good streak going on Escape, so now's the time to get crazy about this. No one ever got to the top of Everest without the proper training and mindset.

I suggest you go crazy about this for the next month and take extreme measures. Extreme measures will get you some results, which I think is what you need right now.

But that's my two cents.

Best brother.
I hear what you're sayin, man. I often have this feeling too that it's a matter of "whatever it takes", at least in the initial phase, in the beginning. Sacrifices might need to be made. I guess it all comes down to how much you really want to be done with porn. It needs to be stronger than any other things that you have to sacrifice for this.
 
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