Hello guys does mindfulness could help you with preventing to M? I realized that when I hit the 60 day streak without PMO, I had my libido up and this girl made a sexy video call and although I did not finish. This made go from the to porn cause I could not stop about realieasing all the sexual energy built up. Just wondering could I prevent that ( I know that I could have stopped the video call but I want to know once you start how I can stop) and think this also will apply for O’ing since I have never been able to have sex without O’ing.please help
Yes, Zack! Definitely!
Throughout that entire episode, you could've stopped- observed yourself nonjudgmentally, grounded yourself through deep breathing, and simply let the urges pass, and repeat if the urges come again (as in waves).
I know that once you start acting out habitually, acting out on your particular 'ritual'- whatever this looks like for you- it's hard to stop... But by this time, we've already judged ourselves, or our circumstances, we've already begun to fight or feed the urges, which only serve to strengthen them, and then we fall entirely.
But at any time we can (and should) disrupt these habituated patterns of behavior, and regain control by simply being in the moment. It's you realizing that, despite the urges and how strong, despite the trigger and to what, you- you alone are in control.