Journey To Nirvaana !!!

EarthWalker

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Next few days I will reflect on how to handle the peer pressure and bulling , suggestions are welcome.
Hi, AJM.

I look at this from 2 angles.

Either there is your personality trait of very high agreeableness.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agreeableness there is plenty more on this on other websites. Basically people high on agreeableness tend to say yes if this means it will avoid conflict. Peterson also talks about this stuff. Probably would find some of his lectures online on this.

Alternatively there are some self-esteem or other issues. Lack of healthy boundaries etc. goes back to childhood.

Or also a combination of both.

Looking back at my own life. Got bullied at school definitely attribute this to lack of self-esteem. But then I decided I want people to respect my boundaries. Changed my beliefs around this. Shifted into scoring low on agreeableness. Then didn't get bullied anymore but also didn't got many friends. Now I am finding a balance. I don't want to be that guy - That you should avoid for various reasons. Also don't want to be that guy - That you can push around. But the guy who respects others and gets respected back. Healthy boundaries.

You can start by just asserting a little bit of healthy boundaries and go from there. Say No.

You might find some of this helpful.


Much love
EW

edit there is a whole playlist I wanted to share, if you click on this you should see the whole playlist.

 

46and2

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Jordan Peterson certainly has a lot of profound and insightful conversations around this subject. I would say you should definitely check him out; have issues with being high in agreeableness too. Finding that balance is hard but worth it!!
 

AJM

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Hi, AJM.

I look at this from 2 angles.

Either there is your personality trait of very high agreeableness.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agreeableness there is plenty more on this on other websites. Basically people high on agreeableness tend to say yes if this means it will avoid conflict. Peterson also talks about this stuff. Probably would find some of his lectures online on this.

Alternatively there are some self-esteem or other issues. Lack of healthy boundaries etc. goes back to childhood.

Or also a combination of both.

Looking back at my own life. Got bullied at school definitely attribute this to lack of self-esteem. But then I decided I want people to respect my boundaries. Changed my beliefs around this. Shifted into scoring low on agreeableness. Then didn't get bullied anymore but also didn't got many friends. Now I am finding a balance. I don't want to be that guy - That you should avoid for various reasons. Also don't want to be that guy - That you can push around. But the guy who respects others and gets respected back. Healthy boundaries.

You can start by just asserting a little bit of healthy boundaries and go from there. Say No.

You might find some of this helpful.


Much love
EW

edit there is a whole playlist I wanted to share, if you click on this you should see the whole playlist.

Hey brother,
that is exactly what I wanted to hear.
I cant thank you enough for this.
I also went through 2-3 more related videos of assertiveness and that was very helpful.
Earthwalker I deeply appreciate the way your support to fellow rebooters, I admire that.
More power to you.
 

AJM

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Day 44,
Victory so far.
Social detox is going great .
I have more self esteem and confidence in me now.
Urge and fantacies in brain have increased a lot - that I consider as positive signs
Also had 4th night fall in reboot journey yesterday.
I have been super productive last 5 days.
Flat line continues though.
Much love
 

zackergeet

Active Member
Day 44,
Victory so far.
Social detox is going great .
I have more self esteem and confidence in me now.
Urge and fantacies in brain have increased a lot - that I consider as positive signs
Also had 4th night fall in reboot journey yesterday.
I have been super productive last 5 days.
Flat line continues though.
Great job on day 44. Hope you heal soon man. I am just in day 18 and I got a random erection in the middle of the day after 17 days of being in a total flatline.
 

EarthWalker

Well-Known Member
Hey brother,
that is exactly what I wanted to hear.
I cant thank you enough for this.
I also went through 2-3 more related videos of assertiveness and that was very helpful.
Earthwalker I deeply appreciate the way your support to fellow rebooters, I admire that.
More power to you.
Thank you brother. Made me cry. I've come a long a way since last year. Thank you and much love to you.
 

AJM

Active Member
Day 46 - victory.
I have been so productive in last week - I feel I have superpowers.
This week I was truly happy to the core , full of joy and gratitude.
My concentration has increased ,
body language & communication skills have improved.
It fascinates me to know and actually experience in real life how PMO sucks out JOY from our lives.
I am so blessed to realize this .
much love everyone.

todays Aha moment (thought) -
Man is born twice once from mothers womb and second out of himself,
I strongly feel down within - Rebooting is THE rebirth phase for me.
 

AJM

Active Member
Day 52 - victory
I am a changed man already
I have a vision
I respect and love myself
I am more productive
I am more honest
I have a dream and mission in life
I am a better listener
I am not bullied
This obviously was not possible without you beautiful people and forum here,
Staying strong. Much love
 
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zackergeet

Active Member
Day 50 - victory
I am a changed man already
I have a vision
I respect and love myself
I am more productive
I am more honest
I have a dream and mission in life
I am a better listener
I am not bullied
This obviously was not possible without you beautiful people and forum here,
Staying strong. Much love
Great AJM I am happy to read this from you. I am on my way too, 25 days here. I know you can do it!
 

AJM

Active Member
Day 59 today - Victory
Have some intresting stuff to share.
Since last 2 nights I am having wet dreams
Yesterday I had wet dream and my pennis was almost 90% for 30 min even after ejaculation
so tight erections were only experienced couple of times after taking viagra,
that makes me super excited.
I am having some chaser effect today and random erections also, I am happy about it.
I madly feel like having a partner now, but I will wait atleast till 100 days of reboot .
Much love.
 

AJM

Active Member
Day 63 - Its all going well.
I have lot of time and energy saved due to no fap and social detox .
I am having having night falls with increasing frequency.
Only scary thing is the flat line.
I have wave of intense attraction and wanting mentally and the body is NUMB to these responses , like I am paralyzed.
Its difficult navigating but I am sticking up to the process, I believe in it.
I have experienced my accountability partner spiral down into relapse , It felt like very personal failure.
Having felt that it takes to memories of my relapses where I felt helpless and isolated, no one to share with.
I am glad and blessed to have a family here now.
It made me realize that we humans are so very interconnected and we are all one.
much love.
 

yogi

Active Member
AJM it's heartening to note you are on day 63.

Unfortunately, that's the nature of flatline. You never really know how long it will last.
 

DavS

Active Member
Keep your guard up. I caution against declaring victory. It’s so easy to go into denial, and end up back where you started. I slid down a slippery slope, devastating consequences.
 

AJM

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Keep your guard up. I caution against declaring victory. It’s so easy to go into denial, and end up back where you started. I slid down a slippery slope, devastating consequences.
Thanks Daveosh,
I get you when you caution me against declaring victory.
I went through your journal and I appreciate your courage to accept your mistakes and bounce back .
More power to you !!!
 

AJM

Active Member
Day 70
The reboot & social detox has made me calmer and poised, something I had never experienced .
Its a new dimension to my personality.
Random Erections are frequent and libido has increased and so is my confidence in the process.
much love.
 

46and2

Active Member
It these types of post that give me hope that by breaking free from pornography we can find a more fulfilling and beautiful way to live! It sounds like the world is really beginning to unfold in front of your eyes! So happy for you brother!!
 
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