Dear all,
The moment I met my current girlfriend, I immediately stopped watching porn. So, to this day, I haven't looked at any porn since I met her (and I don't plan to do so even again, whether with a partner or single).
I did mention to her I had a problem in the past, but after that single mention, have not raised the topic again.
However, I still check people out in public, other women. I'm learning slowly to bring that under control, but only slowly...
What would you advise?
1) Tell her, be transparent, that I feel bad for looking at others, I'm rebooting, working on it, but haven't fully recovered yet
OR
2) No need to add this burden to her. I should deal with it myself, it's my problem, and one day I will be over it, meanwhile I shouldn't make her suffer for no reason
I'm really not sure...
thanks for any insight!
The moment I met my current girlfriend, I immediately stopped watching porn. So, to this day, I haven't looked at any porn since I met her (and I don't plan to do so even again, whether with a partner or single).
I did mention to her I had a problem in the past, but after that single mention, have not raised the topic again.
However, I still check people out in public, other women. I'm learning slowly to bring that under control, but only slowly...
What would you advise?
1) Tell her, be transparent, that I feel bad for looking at others, I'm rebooting, working on it, but haven't fully recovered yet
OR
2) No need to add this burden to her. I should deal with it myself, it's my problem, and one day I will be over it, meanwhile I shouldn't make her suffer for no reason
I'm really not sure...
thanks for any insight!