Journey to a better me

Blondie

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Glad you're doing well my man. It looks like you're on a journey of discovery within yourself, to see what you are really capable of.

"We only have this one life, why not make the best of it?
Why should we not try to be the best version of ourselves?
Why don't we step outside our comfort zones and see what we can achieve?"


I love it these, especially this

Sex is amazing but its not everything.

Great job moving on after that last bump in the road. Almost 50 days clean!
 

Kid Gohan

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Day 52:

I've been reading "Think and grow rich" by Napoleon Hill recently. one of the chapters talks about sex and how we view it as a society.
We're only ever taught about safe sex but nothing past the physical level but never how to manage our natural sexual desires.

My take-awayfrom this is that sex is more than physical attraction, its more than ass, titties and the constant need to bust a nut.
For me, this journey is about overcoming this and mastering and channeling sexual energy to improve quality of life where necessary.

I've sort of been practicing this over the last few weeks and reading about in this book has confirmed that I'm on the right path and to keep doing what I'm doing.

I want to get to a point soon where I'm no longer counting days since my last relapse, where I'm in control of my mind and body and sexual urges have no effects on me.

There has been a lot of factors that played into me not having sex for the past few weeks. I'm grateful for that as it gave me time to practice self-control, my emotions when I dont get what I want and overall made me calmer and more focused on important things like gym, coding and life in genral.

I'm still not where I'd like to be, but I'm proud of the progress I've made so far and everything I'm learning along the way.
 

Blondie

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Hey Gohan, I too have read that book, and it's a great one. That chapter about sexual transmutation is my favorite from the book, and I've read it many times over the years.

You are absolutely right, there is more to this life than just momentary sexual pleasure, even of the proper kind with a real beautiful woman. Life is more than just chasing after ten seconds of fleeting orgasmic release. Over the years, even before I officially decided to quit looking at porn, I have given that chapter a through reading and have implemented its philosophy into my life, usually for two months at a time.

I would decide on a goal, and put all my efforts into it with all my heart and soul, and would visualize what I wanted to achieve at the two months' end. During this time I would still have sex with my lady, but no ejaculating at the end, and obviously no porn. Having that kind of energy in your body and moving it towards a goal is something I will never forget. Right after sex was the time when I would naturally feel the most inspired, because I was working on my goal while practically having a boner in my pants! Hell, just writing that makes me think I should do this again :)

Let's face it, women are the greatest thing in the world. I can't think of a moment of improvement in my life, where their inspiration was not far behind it. Just a smile, a curve, how they walk, their natural feminine empathy, can get me inspired for days. To work on a goal, and to approach it with that energy running through your body (quite literally!) can change your world. Because in the end, it's like you're making love to your passion. That kind of energy, should never be wasted!

Great job on 52 days of no porn.
 
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Kid Gohan

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Thats amazing Blondie, Im glad at least one person understands this.
Just writing that makes me think I should do this again. Do it!! sounds like it really did wonders for you.

That chapter caught me offguard and its my favourite too, Im about to read it again before moving onto the next one.
I definitely agree that the last few weeks have been my most productive, I stopped smoking weed again, quit vaping a few days ago and I've been learning and working like fine a tuned machine.

Women are frickin amazing and to be honest I'm sure the main reason most men thrive to succeed in life is for women (I know thats true for me and a few other people I know).

I love the energy I have at the moment and dammit I dont want to lose this feeling
 

Kid Gohan

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Day 60:

Still going strong, sex and anything related hasn't been a priority but rather using the energy I get from it to boost my productivity.
 

Kid Gohan

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Day 65:

Learning to master and control sexual energy is amazing!

After re-reading chapter 11 of "Think and grow rich" by Napoleon Hill, I found that at some point in my sales career (when porn wasnt haunting me) I unconsciously used that energy to focus and perform at my best. Now that I'm aware of it, I dont want to cum during sex to harness that energy. But I know that sex and cuming is all natural so I won't go out of my way to avoid it... maybe just try to cum once a week.

I am learning to be inspired by womens beauty, as Blondie said previously their "smile, a curve, how they walk, their natural feminine empathy". I enjoy being in their presence without sexualising them in anyway.

Cheers for the support lads!
I hope everyone is going well in their journey.

Edit: Been super consistent with gym and meditation give or take a couple of days here and there. After a good weekend with friends drinking and smoking, Im doing a 5 day / 12hrs a day water fast to detoxmy mind and body and reset. This is a way for me to reinforce the good habits I've built so far and stay off social media
 
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Blondie

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Looks like you're cleaning house!

I'm glad to see you've been incorporating that chapter into your life. I've found as well that refraining from cumming for a week is the best practice, it's not too much or extreme, but it does get your creative juices flowing.

You're doing great Kid Gohan, keep it up.

Best.
 

Kid Gohan

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@Blondie I can see how you got to 200+ days and owning your progress.
You've been through your own challenges and had to find your own ways to overcome them.
I appreciate your posts and you always seem to understand what im going through like you've been there before.

Hell yeah Im cleaning the house, if I dont do it, then who will? right?
 

Kid Gohan

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congrats... i hope you are getting better.
Im doing great, this whole journey has been nothing but blessings, self discovery and growth.
I truly wish that everyone goes through a phase of growth and self dicovery.

Hope youre doing well too my guy
 

Kid Gohan

Active Member
Day 69:

For the last couple of weeks, I've become a minute-man, one-pump-wonder, whatver you wanna call it. I dont last long. Its really started to bother me as I have always been used to making sure my partner is satisfied first.

I put my weekly retention plans to the side as we wanted to improve our sex life due to a bit of distance recently. One positive from this is that no matter what, I always remind myself that I'd rather bre a minute-man than go back to porn, and the urges are so rare and faint that I dont feed into them.

Guess I should get back on pelvic floor excercises until something happens
 

Blondie

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Hey Kid Gohan, nice job on 69 days!

I hear you with this one-pump-wonder business, I've also had to slow it down over the last while, because I get so excited these days! Good job on ordering your values though.
One positive from this is that no matter what, I always remind myself that I'd rather bre a minute-man than go back to porn

This is key and is very important in knowing something you would rather experience (especially if not a positive thing), then ever looking at porn again. It's good to know these things.

I'm sure the pelvic floor exercises will help too. I probably should start doing those again myself, but it is kind of enjoyable sometimes just feeling that excited again! :cool:

Best.
 
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