Brain trying to get his dopamine base line by any form that he knows yeah, I noticed that compensatory effect with more desire for food and video games. Try not to wire your brain on getting the "same dopamine base line" as when u were on porn but on something else, that's the trap
Brain trying to get his dopamine base line by any form that he knows yeah, I noticed that compensatory effect with more desire for food and video games. Try not to wire your brain on getting the "same dopamine base line" as when u were on porn but on something else, that's the trap
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The last couple of days have been a very rough mental battle of sexual frustration and trying to not fall back to porn.
Girlfriend was away and all was going well until the weekend when I had constant urges. I decided to get out of town to catch up with friends and family which went well and most moments alone were spent trying to keep distracted.
Ended up on pintrest looking at "sexy/kinky" tattoo designs as I've been designing a few tattoos for later on. Although it was mainly drawings and sketches, I got hard so I left as I didn't want it to effect me anymore than it already did. On the bright side, I ended up finding a couple of good designs and I re-drew them in my own style.
A week without sex is hell for me but its still something I'm working on. Went back to vaping as I'd rather do that than watch porn or look at any porn related content.
The last couple of days have been a very rough mental battle of sexual frustration and trying to not fall back to porn.
Girlfriend was away and all was going well until the weekend when I had constant urges. I decided to get out of town to catch up with friends and family which went well and most moments alone were spent trying to keep distracted.
Ended up on pintrest looking at "sexy/kinky" tattoo designs as I've been designing a few tattoos for later on. Although it was mainly drawings and sketches, I got hard so I left as I didn't want it to effect me anymore than it already did. On the bright side, I ended up finding a couple of good designs and I re-drew them in my own style.
A week without sex is hell for me but its still something I'm working on. Went back to vaping as I'd rather do that than watch porn or look at any porn related content.
cookiemonster
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Stay strong brother, don't give in!
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Thanks for the support lads, still going strong.
Day 80:
Decided to masturbate yesterday, erections were getting out of control and showing up too often but no porn or anything close to it at all.
I'm not annoyed or disappointed at my decision, I just hope that after all this time it doesn't cause any ED.
Overall, feeling good, no side effects from masturbating so far but the real test will be when I have sex again.
Good luck on your journey @Sheggz , happy to hear that my progress has helped you get started, you've got this my dude.
Day 80:
Decided to masturbate yesterday, erections were getting out of control and showing up too often but no porn or anything close to it at all.
I'm not annoyed or disappointed at my decision, I just hope that after all this time it doesn't cause any ED.
Overall, feeling good, no side effects from masturbating so far but the real test will be when I have sex again.
Good luck on your journey @Sheggz , happy to hear that my progress has helped you get started, you've got this my dude.
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Day 83:
Quick update, no ED from masturbating which is a huge relief and sign that all my progress has paid off.
Minor urges this morning but nothing a bit of reading and other distractions cant fix. As I get closer to 100 days, I want to stop looking at women in a sexual way especially when I see one that has those features I cant seem to get away from.
My overall goal is to be able to look myself in the mirror and be proud of the man I am. I'm happy with my progress so far, but I know there's always room for improvement.
Quick update, no ED from masturbating which is a huge relief and sign that all my progress has paid off.
Minor urges this morning but nothing a bit of reading and other distractions cant fix. As I get closer to 100 days, I want to stop looking at women in a sexual way especially when I see one that has those features I cant seem to get away from.
My overall goal is to be able to look myself in the mirror and be proud of the man I am. I'm happy with my progress so far, but I know there's always room for improvement.
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Keep up the good work
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Day 91:
Had a long and busy weekend with more socializing than I expected and was on social media a whole lot more and I'm not happy about the latter.
I found myself constantly on Instagram again, looking at other women's accounts and doing so put a whole lot of sexual thoughts in y head. I re-installed Instagram to have enough self control to have it but not use it as much but its easier said than done for me. I the past, I used IG girls as a way to fill the void of porn and I noticed that I'm getting back on that same track so I plan to stop it before things get out of hand.
Ill put a time block on the app to reduce how often I use it per day and focus on everything else thats more important. I have no real reason to be on social media, not even for memes anymore, theyre all just distractions.
Had a long and busy weekend with more socializing than I expected and was on social media a whole lot more and I'm not happy about the latter.
I found myself constantly on Instagram again, looking at other women's accounts and doing so put a whole lot of sexual thoughts in y head. I re-installed Instagram to have enough self control to have it but not use it as much but its easier said than done for me. I the past, I used IG girls as a way to fill the void of porn and I noticed that I'm getting back on that same track so I plan to stop it before things get out of hand.
Ill put a time block on the app to reduce how often I use it per day and focus on everything else thats more important. I have no real reason to be on social media, not even for memes anymore, theyre all just distractions.
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Would you ever consider just completely uninstalling until you're pretty much fully recovered?
The only reason I can see it being useful is to message and communicate with people and surely you can text or something instead?
From an outsider's perspective, there's not much point having it to 'build' self-control. I think it's much easier to just remove all things which erode your will-power and progress. One day you'll get to the point where you can redownload them and just have that self control.
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You're right, there really is no point in me having it, its always just mindless scrolling and time wasting.
I just deleted the app as I wrote this.
I did the same with drinking for two years where i didnt drink and now I can drink comfortably and know that I wont get drunk because I dont want to.
Thank you for your point of view on this!
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Great stuff Gohan. I really want to see you succeed mate so keep going!
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Thanks for the advice and support @cookiemonster falling back isnt an option for me, Ive made it this far and I'm being careful as I progress to make sure things stay the way they are or better
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Yeah, social media is a cluster fuck with endless traps I thought I could avoid. But you're right, its not real so why waste time on it
cookiemonster
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Have you thought at all about the rewiring side of the process?
I remember when I was getting strong urges to masturbate (but not use porn) that's why I started thinking I need to find someone.
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Yeah it's a joke. I've never done the Instagram thing, but I can imagine it could definitely be a "porn" substitute at the end of the day. Speaking for myself, this time around, I've been really careful watching things with my girlfriend. Obviously I'm not talking R rated movies, but even just tv shows with women in bikinis etc. Over the last few years, I would most definitely be checking out the women while watching, and looking forward to it in advance (that little dopamine hit was great!) But at the moment, when I watch, I'll just focus on their faces and not on their bodies. It's true that I've never relapsed watching these shows before, but I figured this time around it would be better for my reboot to not even go there. I might not do this forever, but at the moment, it seems the right thing to do.
Good luck on everything. You're killing it.
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Day 93:
Quick update: Not being on IG has had a massive impact on my productivity so far. Sex life is going good, and life is great in general. Only things I can complain about are lack of coding recently but I was moving apartments, but life happens and we move forward!
I hope everyone is having a good week!!
Quick update: Not being on IG has had a massive impact on my productivity so far. Sex life is going good, and life is great in general. Only things I can complain about are lack of coding recently but I was moving apartments, but life happens and we move forward!
I hope everyone is having a good week!!
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Day 98:
Closing up on the 100 day streak and things are going better than I expected, I've stepped out of my comfort zone over the last two weekends, went on a dune buggy last weekend and jet-skiing this weekend. It felt good to be out with friends again but at the same time I missed being at home in my office coding and learning new things.
I've got the house to myself again this week so I MO'd (no porn involved) to get any potential urges and random erections out of the way and have a good week. Although I havent had any urges in a while, I want to stay a few steps ahead, focus on my life goals and build new and better habits like reading and learning new skills.
No urges recently and I hope things stay like this as I progress through this
Closing up on the 100 day streak and things are going better than I expected, I've stepped out of my comfort zone over the last two weekends, went on a dune buggy last weekend and jet-skiing this weekend. It felt good to be out with friends again but at the same time I missed being at home in my office coding and learning new things.
I've got the house to myself again this week so I MO'd (no porn involved) to get any potential urges and random erections out of the way and have a good week. Although I havent had any urges in a while, I want to stay a few steps ahead, focus on my life goals and build new and better habits like reading and learning new skills.
No urges recently and I hope things stay like this as I progress through this
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Day 102:
After every MO, I worry that I might have ED which is a huge stress on me until I have sex again. No ED this time but I think its the stress and over thinking from past experiences that get to me.
For the last couple of weeks I was looking for a mentor in IT, I sent a few emails, got in touch with people on linkedin but no one seemed to reply, I got Instagram again, after a few hours I was flooded with offers and was introduced to one (I know its a 180 from my plan a few weeks ago but it paid off). My network on IG is better than any other place. Most of my friends and I are building our own businesses in our respective fields and the support we give each other is amazing.
My plan is to keep IG for networking purposes so I've cleansed everything that's unnecessary and put a time limit of an hour a day to limit my usage. Sometimes its about compromise and taking the good parts.
After every MO, I worry that I might have ED which is a huge stress on me until I have sex again. No ED this time but I think its the stress and over thinking from past experiences that get to me.
For the last couple of weeks I was looking for a mentor in IT, I sent a few emails, got in touch with people on linkedin but no one seemed to reply, I got Instagram again, after a few hours I was flooded with offers and was introduced to one (I know its a 180 from my plan a few weeks ago but it paid off). My network on IG is better than any other place. Most of my friends and I are building our own businesses in our respective fields and the support we give each other is amazing.
My plan is to keep IG for networking purposes so I've cleansed everything that's unnecessary and put a time limit of an hour a day to limit my usage. Sometimes its about compromise and taking the good parts.