Confused about recovery

Bigdawg20

Member
I don’t understand this situation that I’m in right now. Couple weeks ago I was ready to write a success story because I thought I finally made it to the other side of the flatline. I had sex a couple times a week and even had sex 3 times in one night. I was so happy but it feels like I’m still in a constant flatline. When the time comes to have sex I can kind of perform but during the day my dick feels numb and it shrinks during stuff like physical activities. I sometimes get morning wood but it isn’t anything crazy like it used to be. Last week I had some crazy libido which felt awesome but now I’m back in the flatline. I even had sex last night but then failed for round 2 cuz I still have flatline numbness. Anyone have any advice?
 

zackergeet

Active Member
Hello bigdawg congrats in your progress. You are much ahead of me but reading success stories It seems that it takes a long period of time to fully recover. And every brain is different I read that for the one the had PIED takes a longer recovery and the rewiring process takes time too. Hope you continue improving don’t go back to PMO, i think that many people would envy you since you can have sex and many other cannot cause of PIED. Wish you success man!
 

Caravan7

Member
What you describe seems already healthy to me. There's no law that says the libido must be constantly the same day by day, or that the dick needs to be constantly "active". Let it rest! If it works when it works, that's plenty. Days you feel numb, let them be numb. Strong emotions both ways (great excitement and great disappointment) don't help. Health is more like a regular thing.
Just remain practical and focus: ignore P altogether, and stay relaxed. Things are getting better already
Best wishes
 

Bigdawg20

Member
What you describe seems already healthy to me. There's no law that says the libido must be constantly the same day by day, or that the dick needs to be constantly "active". Let it rest! If it works when it works, that's plenty. Days you feel numb, let them be numb. Strong emotions both ways (great excitement and great disappointment) don't help. Health is more like a regular thing.
Just remain practical and focus: ignore P altogether, and stay relaxed. Things are getting better already
Best wishes
But I don’t get much morning wood and my dick is like shriveled a lot of the time
 

Caravan7

Member
Morning wood is occasional, not a daily requirement, I don't pay attention to it. The penis is small and insignificant when inactive. Popular culture promotes the myth of the big dick, but it's all BS. It gets bigger and toned in an erection, otherwise it's small and soft, period. If you can have sex 3 times in a row, you are fine. Getting worked up about these matters is unnecessary in my opinion. But see what others say, I'm not an expert!
Rather, have you ever had psychotherapy? It pays to investigate the deep reasons why an addiction developed in the first place: sometimes is some kind of unresolved matter in your internal world. That certainly has nothing to do with the dick.
 

Stiffy999

Active Member
Hey bro I'm in a kind of simular situation like you.I noticed that my libido is pretty low but I can still get erection when with my gf,however I have 0 sex thoughts on daily basis when I'm by myself.In my opinion you should consider yourself almost healed.I definetely still can't have 3 orgasms a night because my refractory period is crazy long(2 hours or so) and even after those 2 hours I'm not horny at all and can get it up only by manual stimulation.
 

Sangiha

Member
I’m on the same boat. Exact same thing as you. Dick just does not feel like it used to and it shrivels up during the day sometimes. It fucking sucks. But i think its part of the process and will be getting better as we continue our reboot. The fact that we are able to have sex sometimes is good. Morning wood will slowly come back stronger. I keep having mini relapses where i peak at porn for a little and its fucking me up. Stay strong. Can i ask how long you’ve been rebooting for?
 

Bigdawg20

Member
I’m on the same boat. Exact same thing as you. Dick just does not feel like it used to and it shrivels up during the day sometimes. It fucking sucks. But i think its part of the process and will be getting better as we continue our reboot. The fact that we are able to have sex sometimes is good. Morning wood will slowly come back stronger. I keep having mini relapses where i peak at porn for a little and its fucking me up. Stay strong. Can i ask how long you’ve been rebooting for?
Almost 2 years
 
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Morning wood is occasional, not a daily requirement, I don't pay attention to it. The penis is small and insignificant when inactive. Popular culture promotes the myth of the big dick, but it's all BS. It gets bigger and toned in an erection, otherwise it's small and soft, period. If you can have sex 3 times in a row, you are fine. Getting worked up about these matters is unnecessary in my opinion. But see what others say, I'm not an expert!
Rather, have you ever had psychotherapy? It pays to investigate the deep reasons why an addiction developed in the first place: sometimes is some kind of unresolved matter in your internal world. That certainly has nothing to do with the dick.

Excellent post. Excellent advice.

You hardly ever read things like this.

This clears up a lot of misconceptions on the part of the guys in the reboot communities.
 

Bigdawg20

Member
Thank you, glad others agree with me!
Yeah but this situation is a little different. I’m definitely in a flatline and have been in a flatline for years it feels like. I remember what my flaccid state felt like before I got addicted to porn but now it is small and lifeless from the flatline. I also developed HOCD which freaked me out for months but things are getting better. Idk how I’ve been managing to have sex while I’m in a flatline but after splitting up my orgasms the erections get better
 
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Yeah but this situation is a little different. I’m definitely in a flatline and have been in a flatline for years it feels like. I remember what my flaccid state felt like before I got addicted to porn but now it is small and lifeless from the flatline. I also developed HOCD which freaked me out for months but things are getting better. Idk how I’ve been managing to have sex while I’m in a flatline but after splitting up my orgasms the erections get better

How old are you @Bigdawg20 ?
 

Bigdawg20

Member
Can't agree more with this.Noticed the same thing.Keep NoFap and only orgasm with your gf but try to split it up as much as you can.
I’ve been porn free for 2 years man and have had a ton of success but still not cured and still have a flatline most of the time
 

Stiffy999

Active Member
I’ve been porn free for 2 years man and have had a ton of success but still not cured and still have a flatline most of the time
Well it depends on what is the flatline for you.If it means that you don't have any urges to masturbate or to have sex but still get it up and do it 3 times a night then I wouldn't really call it flatline,I'd rather call it cured pretty much.
 

Bigdawg20

Member
Well it depends on what is the flatline for you.If it means that you don't have any urges to masturbate or to have sex but still get it up and do it 3 times a night then I wouldn't really call it flatline,I'd rather call it cured pretty much.
Ya but like I can’t even masturbate anymore. I have no desire to and can’t even get myself excited by just thoughts or imagination
 

Bigdawg20

Member
Hello bigdawg congrats in your progress. You are much ahead of me but reading success stories It seems that it takes a long period of time to fully recover. And every brain is different I read that for the one the had PIED takes a longer recovery and the rewiring process takes time too. Hope you continue improving don’t go back to PMO, i think that many people would envy you since you can have sex and many other cannot cause of PIED. Wish you success man!
Thank you for the kind words
 
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