MissGuided
New Member
Hi,
So, I’m a 42yo heterosexual female. Posting here rather than the ‘women’ journal forum just because of traffic really.
I’ve recently come to realise, and admit to myself, that I’m using porn every day to orgasm and constantly searching for more extreme genres to satiate me. As a result I not only find it very difficult to orgasm with my partner but I also can’t orgasm on my own without porn.
Rather cliched for an addiction, I didn’t think was a problem because I thought I could stop at any time.
But this weekend I haven’t been able to fully orgasm. I couple of half arsed orgasms. Not quite the full ticket. There’s been no porn because boyfriend has been here. To test myself I tried to make myself orgasm with no porn and couldn’t quite do it. Even with my vibrator.
So that’s been a fairly sober realisation to come to.
I started using porn about 4 years ago as a way to fill a void left by a sexless and abusive marriage. It started with looking, then moved onto contributing fairly tame NSFW content on a well known sub website. At first a really tame pic was a massive turn on and such a huge adrenaline rush. A year later I was posting more graphic content and having video calls with random internet strangers - still whilst married.
It wasn’t long before posting became boring so I’d turn to a ‘proper’ porn sites to cure some boredom, distract myself from a very traumatic divorce, family death and other life crisis and to find that release.
Also I have a progressive neurological disease which has caused some permanent damage in my nervous system, meaning I have some loss of sensation. I think I subconsciously used this as an excuse for my porn use.
So here I am. Reading all the stories and tips and trying to work out how best to reboot and just hope I can rewire myself.
So, I’m a 42yo heterosexual female. Posting here rather than the ‘women’ journal forum just because of traffic really.
I’ve recently come to realise, and admit to myself, that I’m using porn every day to orgasm and constantly searching for more extreme genres to satiate me. As a result I not only find it very difficult to orgasm with my partner but I also can’t orgasm on my own without porn.
Rather cliched for an addiction, I didn’t think was a problem because I thought I could stop at any time.
But this weekend I haven’t been able to fully orgasm. I couple of half arsed orgasms. Not quite the full ticket. There’s been no porn because boyfriend has been here. To test myself I tried to make myself orgasm with no porn and couldn’t quite do it. Even with my vibrator.
So that’s been a fairly sober realisation to come to.
I started using porn about 4 years ago as a way to fill a void left by a sexless and abusive marriage. It started with looking, then moved onto contributing fairly tame NSFW content on a well known sub website. At first a really tame pic was a massive turn on and such a huge adrenaline rush. A year later I was posting more graphic content and having video calls with random internet strangers - still whilst married.
It wasn’t long before posting became boring so I’d turn to a ‘proper’ porn sites to cure some boredom, distract myself from a very traumatic divorce, family death and other life crisis and to find that release.
Also I have a progressive neurological disease which has caused some permanent damage in my nervous system, meaning I have some loss of sensation. I think I subconsciously used this as an excuse for my porn use.
So here I am. Reading all the stories and tips and trying to work out how best to reboot and just hope I can rewire myself.
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