Give me some courage!

MAZARITTY

Member
Hello! I'm addicted to porn. I read YBOP book, so I know what to do, but every time I start counting I fail. I need your comments to encourage me.
 

dwart123

New Member
Hi! Don't worry, you will reach your goal. You wrote that every time you start counting you fail; can you describe what makes you fail? We can talk about your difficulties and find a way to overcome them🙂
 

MAZARITTY

Member
Hi! Don't worry, you will reach your goal. You wrote that every time you start counting you fail; can you describe what makes you fail? We can talk about your difficulties and find a way to overcome them🙂
Hi dwart123. The main difficulties are the beauty of porn, specially the Japanese porn (jav, ecchi). The Japanese are very experienced in making scenarios of porn and so on, it is like if they are living in my head and knows what I want to get excited. At the end, sometimes I watch shemale anime (futunari) to fap, it is unbelievable how much they are good in designing the shapes of anime, the shapes are so perfect. I don't know how Japanese live, I mean, all of this pornographic materials, how would a Japanese man get married! Anyway, I'm really facing a real and dangerous trouble, it is actually my biggest problem of my whole life. I've been watching porn since 5 years. Porn is preventing me from working hard in my job, no motivation, no happiness in doing anything else. I've accomplished to stop fapping the last year for more than one month, but I returned back to porn again. I need to mention here, it is very difficult when you have stopped fapping for a long time, say 1 or 2 weeks, and then come to resist the urge to fap. This is another problem, but my first problem now is stop fapping at least for 1 or 2 weeks.
 

dwart123

New Member
Hi dwart123. The main difficulties are the beauty of porn, specially the Japanese porn (jav, ecchi). The Japanese are very experienced in making scenarios of porn and so on, it is like if they are living in my head and knows what I want to get excited. At the end, sometimes I watch shemale anime (futunari) to fap, it is unbelievable how much they are good in designing the shapes of anime, the shapes are so perfect. I don't know how Japanese live, I mean, all of this pornographic materials, how would a Japanese man get married! Anyway, I'm really facing a real and dangerous trouble, it is actually my biggest problem of my whole life. I've been watching porn since 5 years. Porn is preventing me from working hard in my job, no motivation, no happiness in doing anything else. I've accomplished to stop fapping the last year for more than one month, but I returned back to porn again. I need to mention here, it is very difficult when you have stopped fapping for a long time, say 1 or 2 weeks, and then come to resist the urge to fap. This is another problem, but my first problem now is stop fapping at least for 1 or 2 weeks.
I can understand you very much! I love hentai games, and I keep struggling with myself not to play them. I consider some of them a form a art cause the pictures and animations are very well made. I decided not to play these games because they took a lot of time, even if I was always able to achieve my purposes in life, and because i had started to play without fapping at all, so in some way I was desensitized. But I want to be provocative: as hentai games have to be banished because they are arousing and artificial, should every form of art like paintings, statues ecc. be banished if arousing? Have a nice day!
 

MAZARITTY

Member
Thanks for your comment. I don't want you to get me wrong, I didn't mean that I'm against anime or hentai. It's up to everybody to choose whatever he wants to do or watch. My main problem was my addiction to porn, I have to stop it, cause it is causing a lot of problems to me. By the way, just talking to you and others really helps and makes it easier to me to stop porn. Thanks again ☺️
 

dwart123

New Member
Thanks for your comment. I don't want you to get me wrong, I didn't mean that I'm against anime or hentai. It's up to everybody to choose whatever he wants to do or watch. My main problem was my addiction to porn, I have to stop it, cause it is causing a lot of problems to me. By the way, just talking to you and others really helps and makes it easier to me to stop porn. Thanks again ☺️
No worries, i understood you😀 Surely you will reach your goal! This topic is very complex and everyone had his personal approach. Thank you too 🙂
 

MAZARITTY

Member
What has been your general approach/strategy so far ?
I would say trying to distract my brain by things that I like to do, like watching a scientific série on YouTube, reading some scientific books. It worked for some time but then I failed again. At the same time I try to read YBOP book and check YBOP website to get some inspiration. I even tried once to hang out with a girl (she was my crush), maybe we can fall in love and in this case I'll forget about porn, cause they say love can fix anything, and I believe in that. But after meeting with here sometimes, I didn't feel anything towards here, so I realized that I'm really in a very big trouble.
 

jimthejones

Active Member
having a partner has proven very helpful to most guys , but there are a thousands other users who have successfully rebooted without a partner. Reading good books and watching positively stimulating TV are all good strategies, can you pin point how you failed ? i find it useful to figure out how i failed so that i don't fall for the same trap.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
Hey buddy, coming from someone who lives in japan, I can tell you that shit is EVERYWHERE here. It made my reboot very difficult at times. But realize that however "beautiful" it loks, it is poison that is destroying your life. try to go for one week at first, take it slowly.
 

MAZARITTY

Member
having a partner has proven very helpful to most guys , but there are a thousands other users who have successfully rebooted without a partner. Reading good books and watching positively stimulating TV are all good strategies, can you pin point how you failed ? i find it useful to figure out how i failed so that i don't fall for the same trap.
Sorry in advance for the triggering words or phrases.
I would say there are two phases when I fail.

1) The first is when I am heavily addicted to P and watch it almost every day and for sure cum at the end. In this phase, the idea of fapping and watch P comes from the inside of my head, I mean it's as if I'm in autopilot mode every second of my life. So I'm in this phase let's say they're no triggers, cause I'm fully addicted to P and I don't need triggers.

2)The second phase is when I tried successfully stop watching P for let's say about one week more or less. During this phase, the reason why I relapse is the triggers and for sure the large amount of cum that I'll be having inside of me. Both of these things make it too hard not to fap. Actually, during this phase, the body of women becomes very very very attractive to me. It is so hard not wanting to look at her bu.. boo.. and so on.
 

MAZARITTY

Member
Hey buddy, coming from someone who lives in japan, I can tell you that shit is EVERYWHERE here. It made my reboot very difficult at times. But realize that however "beautiful" it loks, it is poison that is destroying your life. try to go for one week at first, take it slowly.
Hey!
Do you live in Japan? Tell me please more about the life there, what do you mean the shit is EVERYWHERE. I mean I live in a liberal country in Europe. So I wanna know what are the differences between there and here.

Another question: Did you accomplish quitting P? If yes, tell me how long did you take to stop it.

Thanks in advance!
 

Fappy

Respected Member
Hey, indeed i do! Ive lived in Osaka for the last decade. id say in japan certainly they have a rather conservative attitude toward sex, thats certainly the image. sex education in schools is more or less non-existent here. not so in reality! its everywehre as in convienece stores on full display, theres male sex toy stores with massive billboards on the side featuring AV stars promoting the product, sex toys are sold in pharmacies, men read erotic comics in full view of everyone on packed trains, the love hotel industry is MASSIVE, theres so many more examples, but in short the japanese are NOT conservative about sex. its not a bad thing and its not a good thing, its jsut different from the image people commonly have about japan.
Yes, i feel i have accomplished getting over my porn addiction. it took about 4 or 5 months, after that i didnt need it nor did i want to let it back into my life again. ( i still avoid the magazine and comic section at convienice stores though...)
 

MAZARITTY

Member
Hey, indeed i do! Ive lived in Osaka for the last decade. id say in japan certainly they have a rather conservative attitude toward sex, thats certainly the image. sex education in schools is more or less non-existent here. not so in reality! its everywehre as in convienece stores on full display, theres male sex toy stores with massive billboards on the side featuring AV stars promoting the product, sex toys are sold in pharmacies, men read erotic comics in full view of everyone on packed trains, the love hotel industry is MASSIVE, theres so many more examples, but in short the japanese are NOT conservative about sex. its not a bad thing and its not a good thing, its jsut different from the image people commonly have about japan.
Yes, i feel i have accomplished getting over my porn addiction. it took about 4 or 5 months, after that i didnt need it nor did i want to let it back into my life again. ( i still avoid the magazine and comic section at convienice stores though...)
Thank you for your response.

Well, sounds like you have said, the shit is everywhere in Japan :). I feel grateful now in the country that I'm living in, there're not a lot of triggers outside as in Japan.

It is great for you that you have accomplished to stop P addiction, and it is a huge success for more than 5 months.

Now it's our turn to accomplish that also.

Best wishes bro!
 
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