Help me please. SOS

Hello folks,

I am Jordan. And I have a chronic porn and masturbation addiction. I am 32 years old and I have been masturbating since the age of 12.

Porn addiction started when I got my own PC setup in my bedroom. I am fucking tired and lost all hope on myself. I am a very outgoing and an extrovert person, but due to some fucked up relationships with crooked women ( have been in 3 relationships and all fooled me and made me feel like a vermin. I am still not able to digest that) I started masturbating with porn even more.

With smartphone, tablets and laptops and lightning fibernet, I almost got lost in the world of porn and masturbation addiction. I know the names of all popular pornstars by heart and I just keep fapping.

But since last 4 years, I have been making trying to reboot. My successful streaks were 100 days once and 90 days next time. After that I have no gap streak of only 1 to 20 days. I use remojo app, but no use.

I need support from you people for quitting and forgetting porn and masturbation forever. I have lost the sense of touch. I have become a cowardly introvert, I have no apetite. I have lost myself completely. I am unable to socialize with anyone ( I am afraid to talk, especially women) and cannot crack a single joke or have fun. I have lost my sense of humour.

I am afraid that I will never get a girl or be in relationship or married life or sex life. I am scared that I will die a loser. I have big dreams but I fear this porn and masturbation addiction will annihilate me. I feel no adrenaline. Nothing. I have become a non living thing.

I need you people to motivate me and up my morale in quitting this habit forever. I fapped twice today and having fucking migraine. I am tired of this lifestyle. Please motivate me to become the original outgoing funny me. Suggest me some lifestyle and diet which will make me feel super energetic and full of life, like I am always on my toes and super chilled.

Looking forward for your help. I will never forget you guys if you can help me crawl out of this blackhole forever. S.O.S

Jordan
 

jimthejones

Active Member
Hey Jordan, your story is very similar to most of us , porn has also devastated me socially, i have changed from being cool to weird because of porn, i can't even look people in the eye, its been hell, however i press on, just as Gabe said if your going through hell keep going ,
you should remember that these feelings are temporary, you will feel differently later, u will have a different perspective. no matter how tough the solution is not to go back to porn.

Do you journal ? i used to have a self motivation word file for when i have urges or depressed ,I've since lost it but i'm writing a new one now , every time i have a thought or read something helpful i write it done.

I hope you get well
 

DavS

Active Member
Where to start? Maybe with stopping for one day, then maybe more?
Read stuff on this site instead of porn. Read Your Brain On Porn. Try easypeasymethod.org
You can get this under control. It might be easier than you think, if you have a plan for what to do instead.
 

Not a Rabbi

Member
Where to start? Maybe with stopping for one day, then maybe more?
Read stuff on this site instead of porn. Read Your Brain On Porn. Try easypeasymethod.org
You can get this under control. It might be easier than you think, if you have a plan for what to do instead.
I second Easy Peasy Method for long-term recovery. And keep focusing on recovery--don't get complacent if things are going well.
 

slyrack

Member
I think you have to believe in yourself more and don't think excessively about your fears. A very good advice I can give you is to exercise. It's a very simple advice, I know, but it has huge effects.

Once you start exercising for lets say 30 days every second day, you won't recognize yourself anymore.

Sign in to the gym, today!
 

otanerferguson

Active Member
Invariably, the end of the road is porn-induced erectile dysfunction. Trust me, you don't want to get to that stage. It's a hundred times worse than what you describe. It takes so much time and effort to overcome. It's not a question of if you will get it, it's just a matter of "when" you will get it if you continue with this path that you are on. That should be reason enough never to masturbate to porn ever again. I hope that scares you enough to muster up the courage and leave this thing behind. The rest will fall in place by itself.
 
PIED sucks, and it's real, trust me.

Get pissed at porn. See it as an enemy. Learn to be disgusted with its slow, insidious destruction of your natural libido with it's siren song of easy gratification. In the end, it can't even offer you that.

Find something constructive to do that keeps you away from it. And when you're not busy and it tempts you, flip it off and do something else. Learn something you always wanted to but takes time and effort and practice ... Or read up on a topic that interests you or that will improve you.
 
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