I started counting

HeyRay

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DAY 1.

I'm at work right now, but I feel that I'm not motivated to work. A few minutes ago I was at the restaurant with my friends. I saw a beautiful girl, I was amazed by her face. It was like I wanted to stay starring at her face. I knew that was pertaining to porn addiction. Anyway, today I started counting the days to stop porn addiction. I know that this process won't be an easy task, I've already tried a lot of times to stop it, but I failed. This time I'm trying this strategy, to share my process with you, maybe this will help me. From today, I know how hard it will become to resist fapping after 6-7 days. I know that during those days I'll be like a robot, who only wants to fap. Any suggestions to resist during those days specifically?
Thanks a lot for reading.
 

HeyRay

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DAY 2:

I'm just in the middle of DAY 2 and I started to feel some craving!! I opened Facebook and saw some advertisements and girls, I felt that I want to fap again (but not too much). So I'm now afraid of the upcoming days, it won't be easy not to fap. Need some help.

I have a question: During the 6th or 7th day of my rebooting process, I know I will have a very strong urge to fap. My brain will be blocked, maybe I'll not be able to distract myself with something to do. So, for example, and from your experience, can I masturbate (WITHOUT PORN MATERIALS) just to release the liquid inside of me. I know this will really comfort me, so I'm thinking to masturbate (WITHOUT PORN) one time each week.
Because as I said, this will comfort me, and I'll not care about girls if I do that (for a certain time). So, what do you think?
 

HeyRay

Member
Day 2:
It's afternoon, I feel weak, I wanna see some photos and fap 🤒. Maybe saying this will help me a little bit 😑
 
DAY 2:

I'm just in the middle of DAY 2 and I started to feel some craving!! I opened Facebook and saw some advertisements and girls, I felt that I want to fap again (but not too much). So I'm now afraid of the upcoming days, it won't be easy not to fap. Need some help.

I have a question: During the 6th or 7th day of my rebooting process, I know I will have a very strong urge to fap. My brain will be blocked, maybe I'll not be able to distract myself with something to do. So, for example, and from your experience, can I masturbate (WITHOUT PORN MATERIALS) just to release the liquid inside of me. I know this will really comfort me, so I'm thinking to masturbate (WITHOUT PORN) one time each week.
Because as I said, this will comfort me, and I'll not care about girls if I do that (for a certain time). So, what do you think?
You make your own rules here.
I will say that I think if you masturbating to thoughts in your head that are similar if not same the as the porn you would watch to get off, I'm not sure the brain knows the difference and the unhealthy brain activity continues.

Some guys claim they can whack off to thoughts that are not porn related or fetishised, but I personally find it hard to believe that.

I personally would suggest abstaining from masturbation for a period of time.
 

HeyRay

Member
You make your own rules here.
I will say that I think if you masturbating to thoughts in your head that are similar if not same the as the porn you would watch to get off, I'm not sure the brain knows the difference and the unhealthy brain activity continues.

Some guys claim they can whack off to thoughts that are not porn related or fetishised, but I personally find it hard to believe that.

I personally would suggest abstaining from masturbation for a period of time.
Hi, I guess you're right. Thanks for your reply 🙂
 

HeyRay

Member
Hello everyone, I'm very sad to say this, I don't wanna discourage you guys but I have to confess it. I feel pity for myself but I have to confess it to you so I can come back again. Yesterday, I had been fapping for about 4 hours on porn. So I relapsed. It was the beginning of DAY 3. I was tired (but not too much), the idea of watching some girls or songs on TikTok or youtube had been always in my mind for about 30 mins until I was defeated and started to watch porn.

BUT NEVER NEVER TOO LATE. I won't surrender, cause I know the bad effects of P on my life.
Difficulties are not always somethings bad, they hurt, but we can learn from them. Now for the next time, I mustn't listen to the idea of seeing some girls or doing anything pertaining to girls. Because once I do, I'll go on autopilot mode and I'll lose myself like yesterday.

TODAY I started again to count from 0. So today is DAY 1 again.

Wish me the best guys, and thanks in advance for the advice and comments.
 

HeyRay

Member
DAY 2:

I'm not fatigued as usual. I feel that I'm taking back the control of my brain, I don't feel brain fog. And I'm advancing in my job. I'm trying to distract my brain with good habits, like learning a new programming language (python), and watching a scientific series on YouTube.
Anyway, I have to keep going, the upcoming days will be very hard and triggering I guess.

Thanks, guys for your help.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
i found that the brain fog didnt start until after three or four days following a relapse, so be prepared for it anyway.
so you could identify your trigger as being tired? when you feel tired just stay away fom the internet so you wont be tempted
 

HeyRay

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i found that the brain fog didnt start until after three or four days following a relapse, so be prepared for it anyway.
so you could identify your trigger as being tired? when you feel tired just stay away fom the internet so you wont be tempted
Thanks buddy!
 
Step one this time has got to be you've got to give porn a hard NO when it crosses your mind. Every time. You've got to delete your files, delete your history, any bookmarks.... all of it. Make it (and only you can do this) forbidden to go to a porn site. Like, the floor is lava game. Porn is lava.

And you've got to find something else to do to keep you occupied. Something you want to do, or always thought you should do or learn to do. Read. Get a guitar and learn to strum tunes. Forming the word NO! and shouting it in my head is what I do, and then I go do something else. Something that will take a while. You decide, but find at least two things (three would be better) that work for you and commit to them.

In my experience, this has gotten easier as time goes on. Note that today is day 101 for me, and I'm still as flat as can be, but I'm convinced this is the only way to get my brain functioning properly again in this area. That is a very strong motivation for me.
 
Hmmm ... maybe part of my problem I have been focusing on detox, but not the re-wiring. I know all about the detox - the unplugging from -- my habit and why. But I haven't been focusing on the nurturing of the other stuff. And here's a question. Does ALL dopamine no matter what the stimulation (say, scrolling through facebook OR youtube OR porn) have the same effect on the receptors? Somehow I got the idea that there were "porn" dopamine receptors and other dopamine receptors. But now I'm wondering ... do I need to really reset all dopamine sources? Maybe.

Just watched this ... I need to focus on the content from 16:00 on ... the rewiring (up to 16:00 it's about detox)

 
Came across your profile and your journal through the front page feed. I've got to say that this video is immensely helpful so thanks for linking it to your journal! I've heard no one address this very obvious problem: people relapse because they have crap lives, at least I do. It's a whole lot of stick but no carrot. It's so obvious but I haven't heard it made so plain and easy to comprehend as this Queppet guy does. Well, I don't actually watch a whole lot of motivational videos, but this is certainly one that more people should watch.

And he's right in saying that we all can start somewhere. For example, my nutrition is okay, my sleep is okay and I've even become more productive and I actually plan ahead past that porn fix (I'm going on day 17 after losing my streak of 51 and numerous 30 day streaks). So if you're thinking: 'My life is shit, might just jack off', don't do it. If your life is shit, create a better life. It's that easy and that hard. But it's absolutely paramount that you do this.

Aight, sorry for hijacking your journal and thank you, thank you, thank you for linking this video. I know it's not going to be as easy as just changing yourself and your life because there will be obstacles. But in my opinion (based on 14 minutes of this video so far) that's the only clever course of action. Instead of giving yourself the stick, plant some damn carrots (wow that was bad).

Also, congratulations for reaching 100 days! Keep on keeping on! :)
 
Hmmm ... maybe part of my problem I have been focusing on detox, but not the re-wiring. I know all about the detox - the unplugging from -- my habit and why. But I haven't been focusing on the nurturing of the other stuff. And here's a question. Does ALL dopamine no matter what the stimulation (say, scrolling through facebook OR youtube OR porn) have the same effect on the receptors? Somehow I got the idea that there were "porn" dopamine receptors and other dopamine receptors. But now I'm wondering ... do I need to really reset all dopamine sources? Maybe.

Just watched this ... I need to focus on the content from 16:00 on ... the rewiring (up to 16:00 it's about detox)

If you have time I'd check out the podcast on this post that someone else posted on here recently.

https://forum.rebootnation.org/index.php?threads/20755/

Gives, I think, some detailed information regarding addiction and the relationship between pleasure and pain in the brain.
 
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