DE caused by desensitization ?

Stiffy999

Active Member
I've had sex last month as often as possible but what's really bothering me is that almost every time at some point of it I kinda completely lose the feeling of pussy stimulation and can't finish inside because of it.I mean it is so bad that I even stress about if I went limp,like my dick is completely cut out of my brain and neurons.It doesn't have to do with a position and that complete numbness just comes at random times most unexpectedly.So my question is if you guys know whether it is just inexperienced young sex newcomer(since I was a virgin going into reboot) or my dick is desensitized from masturbation and HJ from my girlfriend ? Also I've never used any ED drugs but maybe those can enchance my pleasure by making me not think about going limp inside and stay focused on sexual things.
 

Cp6uH

Member
I've had sex last month as often as possible but what's really bothering me is that almost every time at some point of it I kinda completely lose the feeling of pussy stimulation and can't finish inside because of it.I mean it is so bad that I even stress about if I went limp,like my dick is completely cut out of my brain and neurons.It doesn't have to do with a position and that complete numbness just comes at random times most unexpectedly.So my question is if you guys know whether it is just inexperienced young sex newcomer(since I was a virgin going into reboot) or my dick is desensitized from masturbation and HJ from my girlfriend ? Also I've never used any ED drugs but maybe those can enchance my pleasure by making me not think about going limp inside and stay focused on sexual things.
If this helps you I'm in similar situation and my anxiety a lot of times really makes me go limp inside,so could you tell me if this also happens to you or you just stress about it because you don't feel much ?
 

Stiffy999

Active Member
If this helps you I'm in similar situation and my anxiety a lot of times really makes me go limp inside,so could you tell me if this also happens to you or you just stress about it because you don't feel much ?
Thanks for respond,it is relieving knowing that I'm not alone.Yeah,I only stress about it and even my gf tells me that she can feel it there,but I need to put it out and check it just in case...it doesn't go limp almost never but I still want to check my erection sometimes because of numbness...I don't know how much more I need to wait for sensitivity to return or what should I do to return it
 

og123xx

Member
I have the same problem. I have strong feelings for women yet I don't enjoy sex with them. I don't feel anything during sex, so I guess I'm also desensitised
 

Stiffy999

Active Member
Sex is a sporadic activity. Sex is not like food or sleep. We need food and sleep on a daily basis. On the contrary, sex is an activity that must be done occasionally.

If you abuse sex, the most likely thing is that the desire for sex will diminish and with the decrease in desire comes the reduction of erection in men.


As Alexander Rodhes (the founder of NOFAP) once said: The idea of having an orgasm on a daily basis is a stupid thing.

Anyway and for you to understand:

Our biology and that of no living thing is made for intense sexual activity.

In fact, that is the reason why, for example, when men masturbate a lot or have a lot of sexual activity they begin to feel that their libido is lowered.

My advice is to enjoy sex calmly. For example, once every 15 days or once a week. That would be a wonderful frequency.

That is my advice. Take it or leave it. You decide.
Hey man I agree with you about abusing sex,but once in 15 days ? I'm 22 years old with hot beautiful gf,how am I supposed to do that ? You should have as much sex as you feel like it!
P.S.
I solved my DE problem,it was all a mental thing,but now sex is amazing for me
 
Getting over porn and its impact is difficult. I have experience similar anxiety during sex and sometimes as driven as I was for sex, I wouldn't be able to get hard enough for sex or could barely finish. I am just about at 90 days and flatlining and anxiety have been present for the second half. Recovering emotionally and physically is a tough road. Thanks for sharing your story.
 

hamilton8

Active Member
hey guys. im 35 and back onto trying to deal with my porn addiciton. For anyone younger than me I pleading with you to abstain from pornography. I have gone through my 20's and early 30's of my life and porn has ruined every oppotunity to win in life! I am a kind of person that people think 'that guy would win life'- good looking, smart etc....you know what! all that does is gets you a start...let me explain!....if you are good looking, you get a date and a chance an intercoarse, but soon after becasue porn is in your brain, it thinks of your hot gf as nothing compared to porn....and the relationship will end! Because lets face it a beautiful woman has options....second, in work and study, porn ruins you concentration ability. it ruins you ability to focus! during the day your brain is deprived of dopamine! and you loose jobs! your cant study so you fail.....with friendships....you want to just stay home and jerk off to porn so you dont build friendships in your cruicial 20's....or the friendships you make, your brain doesnt value the interactions because it knows it can get porn! Then becasue you will loose beautiful gf's! loose good jobs! fail college! you will be left with trauma! and this trauma haunts you!....so please STAY AWAY FROM PORN! and give yourself a chance with life. Im 35 now. im in my last innings to start again and i pray that i will stop being haunted from my past and an able to abstain from porn to build a life that will last! i am at the stage where i give in to porn maybe once a month, and masturbate once a week...so i have come a long way, but i have a long way to go!
 

og123xx

Member
hey guys. im 35 and back onto trying to deal with my porn addiciton. For anyone younger than me I pleading with you to abstain from pornography. I have gone through my 20's and early 30's of my life and porn has ruined every oppotunity to win in life! I am a kind of person that people think 'that guy would win life'- good looking, smart etc....you know what! all that does is gets you a start...let me explain!....if you are good looking, you get a date and a chance an intercoarse, but soon after becasue porn is in your brain, it thinks of your hot gf as nothing compared to porn....and the relationship will end! Because lets face it a beautiful woman has options....second, in work and study, porn ruins you concentration ability. it ruins you ability to focus! during the day your brain is deprived of dopamine! and you loose jobs! your cant study so you fail.....with friendships....you want to just stay home and jerk off to porn so you dont build friendships in your cruicial 20's....or the friendships you make, your brain doesnt value the interactions because it knows it can get porn! Then becasue you will loose beautiful gf's! loose good jobs! fail college! you will be left with trauma! and this trauma haunts you!....so please STAY AWAY FROM PORN! and give yourself a chance with life. Im 35 now. im in my last innings to start again and i pray that i will stop being haunted from my past and an able to abstain from porn to build a life that will last! i am at the stage where i give in to porn maybe once a month, and masturbate once a week...so i have come a long way, but i have a long way to go!
Thank you Sir for your selfless advice to us younger members. As for yourself, keep keep going! You got this 100%. You know what you've got to do. Its always better late than never.
 

Sadlette

New Member
Is it possible to get sensation if their whole life sex has been desensitised because of years and years of masterbation?
 

hamilton8

Active Member
i have had delayed ejaulation my entire life....i have only cummed inside a woman a hanful of times in my life. but alongside this i have always used porn....i have tried to abstain from porn many times without luck and i believe the use of porn has caused these delayed ejaculation issues! 2 days ago i cummed inside a woman after being 9 days no fap...it was so encouraging....guys dont masturbate and use porn it will only destroy you!
 

Stiffy999

Active Member
Hey guys thanks for answering and keeping this thread active,but I've overcome my DE problem and I'm now sexually active without any issues.You can read my story in "Successful Stories" part of the forum.
 
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