My addiction to shemale and futanari porn

[LifeAdventurer__]

Hello fellow Rebooters, I’m 17 years old I’m straight and like girls and everything but unfortunately I have an addiction to shemale & futanari porn that has interfered with my ability to focus and concentrate on important things like studying, reading, self-esteem, interacting with others(including women), I’m at a loss of what to do to combat the addiction and not be distracted by these intrusive pornographic thoughts. I’ve had this addiction since I was 11-12

 

[Ive Swornoff]

It will take time. I completely get the addiction to that type of porn - I was there. The ONLY way to get rid of it ... and you are the ONLY person who can do this for yourself, is commit to avoiding it completely for a long period of time. You'll still remember it, but the memories will be less and less vivid over time, and that's what you need. Remember every time you go back to it you re-enforce those images in your brain, so every time you are tempted, you have to get quite stern with the little demon, this little mind parasite that has taken up residence in your brain. It is the only way out.

As I've told another person, you have to go all Gandalf on it. And maybe you end up tumbling to the depths of your psyche struggling with it - that may be necessary as long as you are committed to fighting it to win. How badly do you want out? That's what it boils down to. Tell it, "YOU SHALL NOT PASS!!!!!"

*Avoid all porn, or you'll just end up substituting another type. Even then, probably not, though -- since you're "there" you'll likely seek out the same stuff again. You do not want to end up with PIED, like I and many others here have. From the sound of it, you are well down that path. It will interfere badly with real relationships with real women.

 

[Not a Rabbi]

Welcome! You're in the right place to recover from this addiction. Keep your journal updated and read other people's on here, check out the excellent resources on Your Brain on Porn, and read the Easy Peasy Method ebook.

 

[Chocorua]

It will take time. I completely get the addiction to that type of porn - I was there. The ONLY way to get rid of it ... and you are the ONLY person who can do this for yourself, is commit to avoiding it completely for a long period of time. You'll still remember it, but the memories will be less and less vivid over time, and that's what you need. Remember every time you go back to it you re-enforce those images in your brain, so every time you are tempted, you have to get quite stern with the little demon, this little mind parasite that has taken up residence in your brain. It is the only way out.

As I've told another person, you have to go all Gandalf on it. And maybe you end up tumbling to the depths of your psyche struggling with it - that may be necessary as long as you are committed to fighting it to win. How badly do you want out? That's what it boils down to. Tell it, "YOU SHALL NOT PASS!!!!!"

*Avoid all porn, or you'll just end up substituting another type. Even then, probably not, though -- since you're "there" you'll likely seek out the same stuff again. You do not want to end up with PIED, like I and many others here have. From the sound of it, you are well down that path. It will interfere badly with real relationships with real women.

well said man, I'm struggling now. came here to override the temptation, my biggest trigger now is when the girl im with says no to sex. Love the Gandalf quote. One day we will all be the white wizard who forgets our past fight as the grey.

 

[jonazo91]

Hello fellow Rebooters, I’m 17 years old I’m straight and like girls and everything but unfortunately I have an addiction to shemale & futanari porn that has interfered with my ability to focus and concentrate on important things like studying, reading, self-esteem, interacting with others(including women), I’m at a loss of what to do to combat the addiction and not be distracted by these intrusive pornographic thoughts. I’ve had this addiction since I was 11-12

My only advice regarding that sort of material is to remember that it's most likely just the "novelty" of it that makes it so strong of a trigger, not that it's in any way a reflection of your sexuality. There's a lot of information (like on the Your Brain on Porn site) that talks about how our pleasure centers seek novelty for the thrill of it. So because it makes you worry about your own sexuality, your brain reads that worried feeling as.. something different and exciting. I find it helps to recognize that it's just a mental trick you're playing on yourself. It's really not that powerful, it's just images. But the pleasure-seeking part of your brain wants to be shocked and scared of what's happening to you.

When I get worried about my reaction I had to some sort of "fetish" material (doesn't matter which), I try to remind myself, "it's all JUST porn." I know, that's a big enough problem on its own, but really it's all just one thing, disguising itself in some new costume to try to keep the thrill alive. It's all just stupid porn.

 

[Ive Swornoff]

I'll echo that. It is the novelty thing, and *I* think what it actually did ... for me anyway, was to basically take almost all male imagery off the screen leaving an almost lesbian scene, and frankly what turns me on the most is a turned-on woman. Visually, men are a turn-off for me. This addressed that issue while still depicting a basically male/female dynamic.


I could go deeper into what I surmised was the psychology of it, but we'll start to border too much on triggers and that's not necessary. I do think that too much exposure to this may very well alter our brains enough that it could affect our sexuality/sexual preference in a very real way. That is my opinion, anyway. Especially now that I understand how we end up basically constructing and strengthening these neural pathways through the response/reward dopamine cycle.

 

[LettingPornGo]

Would like to add a few comments to this post. I am a new member here, with many years addiction to porn. I am 5 days PMO, 2 days MO. I am a gay male, so male figures trigger arousal in porn. Recently, I escalated to transmen, and became overwhelmingly turned on...mostly because of the male transition/features, but female/male parts. My brain needed to be shocked with more intensity. I am beginning to understand why now. This has led me to this journey. Stay strong all!

 

[Ive Swornoff]

I got into the trans stuff, too, toward "the end". Pretty much only if the trans dude did a really good job looking very pretty except for ... well you know, the part that really identifies him as male.

I think it was a visualization thing. I am the opposite, since I'm not gay ... I don't really like seeing the masculine in a scene -- so that sort of thing maximized the feminine presence for me while maintaining that one detail that allowed me to project myself into the scene. But I suppose whatever your predelection is, you will tend to focus on what you want to focus on.

But it's all moot. All of it, not just that, screwed me up. That particular bit was just a signal that "normal" didn't cut it anymore for finding enough novelty to satisfy the dopamine jones.