This must stop and need a desent life again!

Swema

Member
Hello all!
I am from Sweden and can't tell you how glad I am to find this cite.
I am 55 years old I am still married to the best women a man man find!
She is the light in the end if the tunnel.

So much anxiety over where I am/was going, need to stop and do something now!
I have a wonderful wife (good looking) witch I don't have sexual relationship with due to I use porn and that is taking over my life! Every time I sit down at the computer to game, write, surf (yes i am a 50+ years gamer) I end up surfing porn!

The thing is, its getting more and more advanced due to need of an I higher kick (something like that). To describe this is that you are fed with P of small girls (tinny small skinny) taking enormous big black ....! And what ells I start looking at BDSM and Transsexual and so on (this is not me)! It is like I have become another person, I can’t recognize myself! This P destructs the confidence and you keep wanting to see or hear that "played feeling" of enjoyment! This is so downward spiral that needs to end!
And like I said its not me it’s like the devil have taken over.
I love the fine things in life, like art, culture meeting people. Going to theater, concerts, galleries of modern and also classic art and sports. But consuming this amount of dirty P has made me num.

What more I think of this is destroying life for many people!
If this is getting to be a norm for over younger generation. and they start to think that this is how relationships is meant to be.
This must stop IMO!

All this i think is due to a wrong idé from what P give fore picture of what a fine thing should be between two persons.
What should be something wonderful and special romantic gets distorted!

All this anxiety is a start for me to reboot my brain, I want to see my old me again!

(Sorry for my bad English its not my native language)

//Swema
 
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96LostWanderer

Active Member
Good luck with your decision to cut down on porn viewing. Start with the practical things. Keep your phone/laptop in a shared part of your house if you live with other people. Find some porn blockers online to download. If you have a MacBook I would recommend the SelfControl app. Try to fill your time with as many other hobbies and pursuits as you can, and stay connected with other people.
 

Swema

Member
Now it is 1 day without P!
  • Be without P day to day. 1 day and counting!
  • Destroying all links and saved data. Done!
  • Start do things with wife. Making some progress!
  • Reconnect with hobbies. Started!
  • Helping the mission to change or take away P. Not started
  • Start counter (need edvice)
  • More will come

Good luck with your decision to cut down on porn viewing. Start with the practical things. Keep your phone/laptop in a shared part of your house if you live with other people. Find some porn blockers online to download. If you have a MacBook I would recommend the SelfControl app. Try to fill your time with as many other hobbies and pursuits as you can, and stay connected with other people.
Hello!
This is good advices

Thank you!
 

Phineas 808

Moderator
Staff member
Moderator
Start counter (need edvice)

Welcome to the forum, Swema! Glad you're here.

Do you mean like an automatic counter? I think there's sites that make these, and then you can put them in your 'signature' part of your profile.

Or, manually create one and just mark the days yourself- I do this in my journal, and when I hit a mini-goal, I'll just edit my post, and change how many days...

I also keep a hard journal, to track it there as well. Hope that helps!
 

Swema

Member
Now it is 2 day without PMO!

My progress table (time is set 9:00)
  • Be without P day to day.
2 day and counting!
  • Update regulary (every 1-2 weeks)
Start buy doing this every day for 1 week
  • Destroying all links and saved data.
Done!
  • Start do things with the wife.
Making some progress!
  • Reconnect with hobbies.
Started!
  • Helping the mission to change or take away P.
Not started
  • Start counter
(Still haven't found a good one that's costing a fortune)
  • More will come
 

Phineas 808

Moderator
Staff member
Moderator
Good job, Swema! I like your chart...! I hope you find a counter that's not too expensive... (there's none that are 'freeware' out there?)

Wishing you strength.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
Halsa Valkommen!
Bra gjort för att starta, det är det första steget!
Also i like the way you are setting things out in a table and staying on top of things. stick to that and your plan and im sure youll be fine. and keep watching out for triggers!
Du återhämtar dig snart!
(My Swedish is a bit lacking, sorry...)
 

Swema

Member
Now it is 2 day without PMO! +1 day on productive app

My progress table (time is set 6:00 - 9:00)
  • Be without P day to day.
2 day and counting! +1 day on productive app
  • Update regulary (every 1-2 weeks)
Start buy doing this every day for 1 week
  • Destroying all links and saved data.
Done!
  • Start do things with the wife.
Making some progress!
  • Reconnect with hobbies.
Started!
  • Helping the mission to change or take away P.
Not started
  • Start counter
(Still haven't found a good one that's costing a fortune)
Using productive (not free but 49% off price cut)
  • More will come
 

Swema

Member
Hej! If you're looking for a counter, I use HabitBull on Android (the free version). Don't see the point using a counter on this forum or on the computer.
Hello this i can recomend but i had checked productive out and it was cheeper with the price cut!
Halsa Valkommen!
Bra gjort för att starta, det är det första steget!
Also i like the way you are setting things out in a table and staying on top of things. stick to that and your plan and im sure youll be fine. and keep watching out for triggers!
Du återhämtar dig snart!
(My Swedish is a bit lacking, sorry...)
Thanks and it's good it's not your native language, and that makes it is harder! You are doing fine
Tack det värmer!


Have a question!
Wife and i are going away for a short trip and should i keep my hand on the quilt, so to say?
 

Swema

Member
Now it is 2 day without PMO! +2 day on productive app


My progress table (time is set 6:00 - 9:00)
  • Be without P day to day.
2 day and counting! +2 day on productive app
  • Update regulary (every 1-2 weeks)
Start buy doing this every day for 1 week
  • Destroying all links and saved data.
Done!
  • Start do things with the wife.
Making some progress!
  • Reconnect with hobbies.
Started!
  • Helping the mission to change or take away P.
Not started
  • Start counter
(Still haven't found a good one that's costing a fortune)
Using productive (not free but 49% off price cut)
  • More will come
 

Fappy

Respected Member
Have a question!
Wife and i are going away for a short trip and should i keep my hand on the quilt, so to say?
thats up to you ( and your wife, of course). but if it were me, considering youve just started a few days ago, i would hold off. one of the worst things you can do at this early stage is to force it. if you fail in your attempts at intercourse it could shatter your confidence and may even trigger you to look at porn.
 

Swema

Member
thats up to you ( and your wife, of course). but if it were me, considering youve just started a few days ago, i would hold off. one of the worst things you can do at this early stage is to force it. if you fail in your attempts at intercourse it could shatter your confidence and may even trigger you to look at porn.
You are so right!
Thanks you saying what i was thinking deep inside myself!!
Thanks
 

Swema

Member
Now it is 2 day without PMO! +4 day on productive app

But I am struggling now!
My brain is messing with me!
I see women and start thinking bad thoughts!
 
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Swema

Member
Had one stupid relapse counter resets!
Will not see this as fail just learning period
Now it is 0 day without PMO!
Record is 4+2 days!
Saturday morning will be day 1....

"We shall go on to the end, we shall fight in France, we shall fight on the seas and oceans, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, we shall defend our Island, whatever the cost may be, we shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender" Winston Churchill

My progress table (time is set 6:00 - 9:00)
  • Be without P day to day.
0 day and counting!
  • Update regulary (every 1-2 weeks)
Start buy doing this every day for 1 week
  • Destroying all links and saved data.
Done!
  • Start do things with the wife.
Making some progress!
  • Reconnect with hobbies.
Started!
  • Helping the mission to change or take away P.
Not started
  • Start counter
(Still haven't found a good one that's costing a fortune)
Using productive (not free but 49% price cut)
  • Reading a book about "linger and ponder" *
Started read this book and doing the tasks in the book!
  • More will come
* Swedich titel "Sluta älta och grubbla" of Olle Wadström
 
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