Late2TheParty
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Hey so my previous post was a few months ago I made it after not being able to get it up in my first few sexual encounters after being a virgin with porn addiction my whole life.
Initially I first thought my Issue was PIED, and went on the path of rebooting and wiring and all of that jazz, but something just didn't feel right about the process, i know countless people who masturbated and still had successful sex. So instead of just self diagnosing with PIED i seeked professional help about a 6 weeks into my porn/masturbation abstinance.
I saw a Sex therapist who from our first session told me that Porn had nothing to do with my ED because she believed there's no such thing, and that it was purely just performance anxiety because of unnatural expectations I placed on myself. She told me to stop associating my issues with porn. After a few sessions with her i went on tinder and started trying again, she mentioned to me that Viagara will help my issue because I was able to get erections they just wouldn't last more than 5 seconds. so I got a prescription, and tried it in a one night stand and everything worked great (that was on a 50mg dose) and I managed to finally lose my virginity. Then i met someone else on a more long term bases and we started having sex frequently with the aid of viagara, but after a few times i started lowering the dose, first i'd cut the pill in half, then a third, then a forth, eventually I started having sex without the pill, despite ending my masturbation and porn abstinance before the magical 90 day period. My ED is now fixed, turns out it had nothing to do with porn, or maybe porn was a contibuting factor but the major issue was Anxiety and additional anxiety induced by my self-diagnoses. I still cut down on porn because it makes me crave actual sex more and it helps keep my expectations in check for what actual real life sex is like.
So in short my advice is to seek professional help, sometimes spending hours reading and watching videos to confirm you internet self-diagnoses might actualyl cause your problem to stick around for longer, i've seen stories about people taking over 6 months to years of of no porn or masturbation while actively working with their partners to fix these issues. My ED was fixed relatively quickly especially considering my starting point was the absolute extreme relative to most of the stories that I read on this site and others ( 28 years, masturbated daily to porn, kissless virgin).
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Initially I first thought my Issue was PIED, and went on the path of rebooting and wiring and all of that jazz, but something just didn't feel right about the process, i know countless people who masturbated and still had successful sex. So instead of just self diagnosing with PIED i seeked professional help about a 6 weeks into my porn/masturbation abstinance.
I saw a Sex therapist who from our first session told me that Porn had nothing to do with my ED because she believed there's no such thing, and that it was purely just performance anxiety because of unnatural expectations I placed on myself. She told me to stop associating my issues with porn. After a few sessions with her i went on tinder and started trying again, she mentioned to me that Viagara will help my issue because I was able to get erections they just wouldn't last more than 5 seconds. so I got a prescription, and tried it in a one night stand and everything worked great (that was on a 50mg dose) and I managed to finally lose my virginity. Then i met someone else on a more long term bases and we started having sex frequently with the aid of viagara, but after a few times i started lowering the dose, first i'd cut the pill in half, then a third, then a forth, eventually I started having sex without the pill, despite ending my masturbation and porn abstinance before the magical 90 day period. My ED is now fixed, turns out it had nothing to do with porn, or maybe porn was a contibuting factor but the major issue was Anxiety and additional anxiety induced by my self-diagnoses. I still cut down on porn because it makes me crave actual sex more and it helps keep my expectations in check for what actual real life sex is like.
So in short my advice is to seek professional help, sometimes spending hours reading and watching videos to confirm you internet self-diagnoses might actualyl cause your problem to stick around for longer, i've seen stories about people taking over 6 months to years of of no porn or masturbation while actively working with their partners to fix these issues. My ED was fixed relatively quickly especially considering my starting point was the absolute extreme relative to most of the stories that I read on this site and others ( 28 years, masturbated daily to porn, kissless virgin).
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I feel uterly lost and baffled by my ignorance.
bit long, sad, and miserable you've been warned. I am a 28 year old male, i am a virgin. The reason why i'm a virgin is because i've been obese since early childhood with a host of insecurities that clouded my entire life, spent the majority of my life a shut in, unhygenic, unattractive...
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