No desire to have real sex

[AG2161]

My first time posting here.
I'm 27 and I've been on porn since I was 13. Won't say I was ever badly addicted to it..but i did fap almost every other day to porn. I had my first real encounter with sex at 26 and that's when I realised, my sexual desire with a real woman is almost 0 and I coudnt maintain an erection hard/long enough for penetration.
I never payed much heed to it, but now having a gf and not being able to satisfy her sexually embarasses me.
I'd like to believe that this was culmination of 13 yrs of jacking off to only porn and no real sex which has hardwired my brain to give me an erection while only watching porn.
I've reduced porn significantly now and I am currently on the 6th day of my journey to completely get rid of it. My erections have improved from before but I still don't get the urge for physical sex as I get for watching porn.
Would really appreciate your views/comments on this

 

[Prakash]

I am also suffering from this problem with same history with several conditions didn't get erection with porn also.... But many people those who have this problem they said not have desire also..... But i have much desires but didn't have gf to check there......


Dear bro first of all you see a doctor... Why you not have desire... Its low testosterone symptoms also, but there is many region for low desire....... PIED also reduce desire

 

[Fappy]

I'd like to believe that this was culmination of 13 yrs of jacking off to only porn and no real sex which has hardwired my brain to give me an erection while only watching porn.
I've reduced porn significantly now and I am currently on the 6th day of my journey to completely get rid of it. My erections have improved from before but I still don't get the urge for physical sex as I get for watching porn.
Would really appreciate your views/comments on this

yep, porn will certainly do that to you!
6 days in is still far too early for such urges, youre likely experiencing a flatline; thats where the cock and your sex drive basically dies for a while as your brain rewires itself. dont worry, it will pass soon enough. its a necessary part of the process. youll be back to normal if you stick with the reboot.
just be very careeful not to try and "test" your erections by watching porn or to watch a little porn just to see if it ignites some sexual desire in you. this is playing with fire and could lead to a full relapse and ruin your progress.

 

[AG2161]

yep, porn will certainly do that to you!
6 days in is still far too early for such urges, youre likely experiencing a flatline; thats where the cock and your sex drive basically dies for a while as your brain rewires itself. dont worry, it will pass soon enough. its a necessary part of the process. youll be back to normal if you stick with the reboot.
just be very careeful not to try and "test" your erections by watching porn or to watch a little porn just to see if it ignites some sexual desire in you. this is playing with fire and could lead to a full relapse and ruin your progress.

Thanks a bunch for the reaffirmation of my belief that this would work out. However, just wanted to clarify that I do get erections while watching porn, its only when trying to indulge in real sex that I don't get the same desire which I do while watching porn.

 

[Fappy]

However, just wanted to clarify that I do get erections while watching porn, its only when trying to indulge in real sex that I don't get the same desire which I do while watching porn.

yeah i figured you would. its the dopamine receptors. theyre wired to porn not actual people, and the desire doesnt come from any sense of wanting intimacy or physical closeness through the act of fucking, its just your addiction wanting you to feed it.
porn shouldnt have anything to do with erections and sex, sounds weird, but you get what i mean!

 

[AG2161]

yeah i figured you would. its the dopamine receptors. theyre wired to porn not actual people, and the desire doesnt come from any sense of wanting intimacy or physical closeness through the act of fucking, its just your addiction wanting you to feed it.
porn shouldnt have anything to do with erections and sex, sounds weird, but you get what i mean!

You've been exceptionally helpful. Thank you once again. Being a newbie here, it's highly reaffirming to have someone validate my beliefs.

 

[Fappy]

You've been exceptionally helpful. Thank you once again. Being a newbie here, it's highly reaffirming to have someone validate my beliefs.

youre most welcome! everything will become a lot clearer the further you progress in your reboot. it really is an amazing thing to see just how much it changes you. enjoy!

 

[AG2161]

13th day today with total abstinence from PMO. Urges have been there to M but not of P, mostly arising due to sexual thoughts about real people. Erections were there at times (around 50-60% hard), at times had no erections. However I do keep thinking about this reboot thing quite a lot. Keep checking the count of days etc.
Is this normal at this stage?

 

[AG2161]

Hi,
Today was my 23rd day of total abstinence from PMO. I woke up to realise that I had a nightfall.
Is that a good sign? Or is that a relapse of sorts.

 

[Long rebooter Progress]

Hi,

You're going to need at least 6-12 months of no PMO for a reboot. I am very similar to you i've been watching porn for 10 plus years im 26. I got to the point where I couldnt even get a proper erection to porn. Im at 7 months right now not cured but I have faith in the process. Its okay though if it takes a while for us to recover in the timeframe itll be worth it. Since we started porn at a young age my guess is the 6-12 months time frame as also recommend by gary wilson.

 

[Prakash]

Hi,

You're going to need at least 6-12 months of no PMO for a reboot. I am very similar to you i've been watching porn for 10 plus years im 26. I got to the point where I couldnt even get a proper erection to porn. Im at 7 months right now not cured but I have faith in the process. Its okay though if it takes a while for us to recover in the timeframe itll be worth it. Since we started porn at a young age my guess is the 6-12 months time frame as also recommend by gary wilson.

Same conditions bro my last strike is 70 day hard mode then 2 days relapses now again in no fab period with hard mode.... Not any results.. 14 year pmo history without sex.... Are you feeling some improvement after 7 months???? Which type your mod are you masturbate

 

[Long rebooter Progress]

I dont masterbate anymore. Been clean for 7 months. I noticed morning wood, bigger flaccid penis, and wet dream

 

[AG2161]

I dont masterbate anymore. Been clean for 7 months. I noticed morning wood, bigger flaccid penis, and wet dream

7 months clean..is a big big achievement bro! Kudos!
Would like to know a little more about what you meant when you said you're not cured?
Also could you give a more detailed account of the improvements that you've been noticing?
Being on the same path, to know this would be of great help! Thanks.

 

[Long rebooter Progress]

Not cured meaning i still have ED when I try and have sex. I get around 70 percent hard but its not enough for penetration. The improvement have been mentioned in my last comment. Wet dreams about five times in the beginning of reboot but they stopped lately. I get 80-100 percent morning wood about every day. My libido is low though but I hope im near the end of my reboot I wanna have sex but month 9 hopefully. I have been rebooting here and there with my girlfriend I see her once for a week every two months because she travels and I go out and visit her.

 

[Prakash]

I dont masterbate anymore. Been clean for 7 months. I noticed morning wood, bigger flaccid penis, and wet dream

Same some hardness improve in morning erection.... But not spontaneous and feeling erection its improvement stil 0 but desire is so high...... I not have any sexual facility.... In my country making girlfriend is very hard.... Here people are very religious.. My testosterone is 570

 

[AG2161]

Not cured meaning i still have ED when I try and have sex. I get around 70 percent hard but its not enough for penetration. The improvement have been mentioned in my last comment. Wet dreams about five times in the beginning of reboot but they stopped lately. I get 80-100 percent morning wood about every day. My libido is low though but I hope im near the end of my reboot I wanna have sex but month 9 hopefully. I have been rebooting here and there with my girlfriend I see her once for a week every two months because she travels and I go out and visit her.

Cheers bud. Thanks a bunch for the help. And I sincerely hope you get back on the right track at the earliest.

 

[AG2161]

Day 29 of my journey. Had another wet dream today morning....just before I generally wake up. This is the second one within the last 8 days. I am getting a little confused as to what this signifies!?! Have been totally off PMO in these 29 days

 

[Long rebooter Progress]

I had the same thing just keep going. Wet dreams will slow down the farther you go into the reboot. I would take it as a good sign.

 

[AG2161]

Completed a month of hardmode reboot couple of days back and I am proud of myself. This is the longest I've ever gone without PMO and it feels great.
However I'd like some opinion:
My urges, I've figured are mostly to MO and not for P. They are now generally triggered by appealing women around me (outside/gym), or some arousing picture. I have no intention of breaking my MO streak either, but I'd like to know, is this normal or am I the only one with more urges to MO than for P.