Day 11/30
Today, was a bad day, and a good day recovery wise. I was very very close to a relapse. I had to wake up at 3AM for work, so only slept for 4 hours, then worked for 12 hours. So that played a big role. It started when a girl send me a message with nudes and asked if I wanted to buy content. (I subscribed to her onlyfans a while ago and talked with her back then). I immediately told her no, I am not interested and explained why. She understood, and we talked for a short while about regular stuff. I am proud I did not look at the pics or say anything sexual, but I could have handled it better by not engaging at all. But one step at a time.
But because of this encounter, my head was going crazy with urges, because if you give this addiction a finger they take your hand. What I did after was not good. I deleted all number of girls I ever had sexting with, and changed my number. But I did still have someone's financial account. I send her a few dollars and hoped she would reach out. I also reached out to another girl. Here I messed up, it felt like i had no control when I did these things. And it felt like these were the most important things in the world.
I was so close to relapsing, and feeling horrible again for days/weeks. But I am very proud of what I did after this. I knew that if I did my journaling and self-talk, I would write urges away with the right words. So, my addiction voice said, don't go journaling, this is fun. But I chose to did my self-talk journal. And it worked, I saw clear again, I saw the lies, the truth, and the bigger picture. I immediately deleted the payment app I had used permanently before she could respond.
I feel very relieved now, that the urge is gone. When I had the urge, I knew it was wrong, and that I would regret it but just did not care. In another post, this week, I will explain the things I tell myself for the urges to go away, but I am too sleepy now.
I considered resetting my counter, but I am not going to do it. I saw nothing sexual, and had no sexual conversation. Just a moment of trying to get it. I did not handle everything well today, but I am glad how it turned out, I don't think I ever overcame such a strong urge.
Today I am gratefull that I am not feeling miserable after a PMO session
2 sources that helped me today:
"Within each of us lives a sweet, defenseless creature—and she needs a little tenderness."
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