Have you started accepting Women's Phisical Flaws Better after no PMO?

Hi guys,
I always had the issue of observing flaws in all the women I've been with and those things ruining my erections and attraction to them. I curently am experiencing this with my girlfriend and I'm curious if you have observed any strong changes after quitting prn and masturbation for a few months (or however long).

The types of flaws I'm talking about is usually things like a hair here or there, the shape of the nipples, the boobs not being big and shaped how I like them etc.

Also, has your experience with fantasizing about other girls on the street changed somehow?

I'm sure sharing your story will help many others out there :D
 

Chrisaaa7

Member
Hi guys,
I always had the issue of observing flaws in all the women I've been with and those things ruining my erections and attraction to them. I curently am experiencing this with my girlfriend and I'm curious if you have observed any strong changes after quitting prn and masturbation for a few months (or however long).

The types of flaws I'm talking about is usually things like a hair here or there, the shape of the nipples, the boobs not being big and shaped how I like them etc.

Also, has your experience with fantasizing about other girls on the street changed somehow?

I'm sure sharing your story will help many others out there :D
Hey man, yeah that’s happened to me, not the exact examples you gave but a similar idea. I think it’s a good sign because it shows our brains are becoming more sensitive again rather then just being turned on by porn models. I think girls are way more attractive now and you should continue to see progress.
 
I can relate heavily to this besides the having-a-girlfriend part. Not only do I feel more attraction towards women overall now, I have such a more nuanced and heartfelt appreciation for beauty. It's no longer a linear evaluation of breast and butt sizes, it's so much more than that. And of course I now have a stronger sense of value for the inner aspects of women such as their personalities and ambitions. And these feelings extend to an extent to my own body (mainly my penis size which I know is fine but admittedly I can still be self-conscious about due to the lingering influences of P along with societal bullshit).
That sounds amazing Richie, after how long without PMO have you started seeing these effects? I've been relapsing for about a year now and the most I achieved si about 2 months, but with frequent peeking, which I considering not to be an appropriate healing process.
 

DLS184

Member
Hi guys,
I always had the issue of observing flaws in all the women I've been with and those things ruining my erections and attraction to them. I curently am experiencing this with my girlfriend and I'm curious if you have observed any strong changes after quitting prn and masturbation for a few months (or however long).

The types of flaws I'm talking about is usually things like a hair here or there, the shape of the nipples, the boobs not being big and shaped how I like them etc.

Also, has your experience with fantasizing about other girls on the street changed somehow?

I'm sure sharing your story will help many others out there :D
Yes 1:1
I feel it and I thought, that’s just bullshit that I’m thinking
 

Not a Rabbi

Active Member
Hi guys,
I always had the issue of observing flaws in all the women I've been with and those things ruining my erections and attraction to them. I curently am experiencing this with my girlfriend and I'm curious if you have observed any strong changes after quitting prn and masturbation for a few months (or however long).

The types of flaws I'm talking about is usually things like a hair here or there, the shape of the nipples, the boobs not being big and shaped how I like them etc.

Also, has your experience with fantasizing about other girls on the street changed somehow?

I'm sure sharing your story will help many others out there :D
Yeah, I have definitely felt this. One of the big benefits of recovery is how the porn images fade over time, and you can be properly attracted to real people. For fantasizing about girls in the street, I think that consciously trying to avoid that is key to recovery. I'm avoiding looking at women's bodies (except for my wife) as much as possible, make eye contact, etc. And not having the images of women's bodies in your brain helps avoid MO also.
 
Yeah, I have definitely felt this. One of the big benefits of recovery is how the porn images fade over time, and you can be properly attracted to real people. For fantasizing about girls in the street, I think that consciously trying to avoid that is key to recovery. I'm avoiding looking at women's bodies (except for my wife) as much as possible, make eye contact, etc. And not having the images of women's bodies in your brain helps avoid MO also.
Thank you for the reassurance, that's what I plan to do anyway, it's just that I wanted some confirmation from guys like you that it actually works with time. Thanks again
 
When we were younger my best friend had that issue. Don't know where it was coming from. He got over it. I MAY have helped him. Because I've always been the opposite. I focus on what I like about a woman's appearance, and there's almost always SOMETHING, usually multiple things. Could be as simple as a smile, eyes, hair, curve of a leg, the usual body parts, even mannerisms. What I find attractive is femininity in general. Since I was, like 5 years old.

I told him that and over the next couple of years his attitude changed.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
absolutely 100% unequivically YES. my brain was so porn-fucked that i saw girls who werent like the ones i jerked to as being inferior and unattractive. thats when they had clothes ON! when they were naked, i found many things about them that i felt werent "hot", too much hair, weird shaped nipples, godawful smell, etc these things turned me right off.
then as i got further along in my reboot and developed a strong aversion and passionate hatred for porn these thoughts subsided and stopped. now i couldnt give a shit what she looks like, that is to say someones appearence doesnt count for shit. also your cock doesnt have eyes!
 
absolutely 100% unequivically YES. my brain was so porn-fucked that i saw girls who werent like the ones i jerked to as being inferior and unattractive. thats when they had clothes ON! when they were naked, i found many things about them that i felt werent "hot", too much hair, weird shaped nipples, godawful smell, etc these things turned me right off.
then as i got further along in my reboot and developed a strong aversion and passionate hatred for porn these thoughts subsided and stopped. now i couldnt give a shit what she looks like, that is to say someones appearence doesnt count for shit. also your cock doesnt have eyes!
That sounds really inspiring, I really want to get to this level myself. I'm having a difficult time taking my eyes off women on the street, but I'm doing a lot of journaling and planning on how to respond in critical moments like these, so I hope I'm going towards healing and more self control. My target is to be able to not feel like I'm losing something when looking at other women, and not comparing them with my gf, or even wanting them. That would be such a huge relief for me.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
That sounds really inspiring, I really want to get to this level myself. I'm having a difficult time taking my eyes off women on the street, but I'm doing a lot of journaling and planning on how to respond in critical moments like these, so I hope I'm going towards healing and more self control. My target is to be able to not feel like I'm losing something when looking at other women, and not comparing them with my gf, or even wanting them. That would be such a huge relief for me.
sure, if you stick to your reboot that will just be a natural progression!
 
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