Takeoff
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Welcome to my journal.
First off, a warning - the text below may include what some people would find triggering.
Now, let me start from the beginning;
when I was between 7 and 8 I had first discovered porn.
I remember that at first I would just look up some pictures of naked women, I don't think I realized there's videos too... Fortunately.
Since I was about 8 some situations in my life formed anxiety problems, social anxiety and a few years later depression started kicking in, this was in no way caused by porn though. (I have multiple diagnosis BTW)
I have also been molested at 9.
By the time I was 12 I formed a habit, which I'm sure many of you are familiar with.
Going back from school after a hard day, feeling drained? PMO.
Just because I feel like it? PMO.
Going to sleep? PMO.
Just got up? PMO.
PMO really just became my sexuality at that point.
And it went like this, year after a year.
In 2019 I had my first girlfriend, but it didn't last long.
In 2020 I got into my first more serious relationship as it lasted a year and a half. I remember that back in November 2020 we tried to have sex, but damn man, that was just so awful.
I couldn't get it hard enough for penetration for more than 3 minutes because my penis was so desensitized that I had felt no pleasure. We tried oral, 0 pleasure. We tried multiple times but it was always the same. So I gave up and I'd just satisfy her in another way. I didn't really know why it was like that, I thought maybe it was because I felt like shit almost everyday?
Some time later I had moved to another country and we were separated. Of course I wouldn't throw away porn at that moment. We broke up in June because she was acting like crazy when we were separated.
But before that, back in February this year I somehow started realizing that damn, I think I know the source of my problem. How? Because when I did stimulants (yes I've been doing drugs since 2019) what I would do PMO for hours, for the whole damn night.
I'd take more just to keep going. And that also got me in stronger stuff. (at least it wasn't anything really deviant or extremely weird)
So in February I tried limiting PMO as much as I could, but allowed MO. For a month it was going like 3 days clean, 1 day with PMO, 3 days clean, 2 days with PMO & repeat.
But in March I managed to keep a 30 day streak!
Then I relapsed, then started limiting it as much again.
At that point my goal wasn't totally erasing it from my life, also I haven't heard about anything like the Reboot Nation or YBOP.
I managed to limit it to between once a week and two weeks.
I kept MO all the time.
Then in June I moved again and with that came a major relapse, I went straight back to my old habits.
And I think some of you might be familiar with that thought process "well, I did it once, I'll start no PMO again tomorrow so I can let myself do it like one more time today..." - well, I don't think it ever ended at "that one last time".
For a month I just kept going like this because of anything my mind would come up with.
"I won't be in a relationship for some time now anyways, so it doesn't matter, I'll start recovering when I get into one",
"Better this than doing ((other)) drugs!" etc.
September came and I renewed contact with one girl I was really close with, so I decided it's time to get a grip.
I've started doing research on the subject and found very useful and helpful sources and people.
I've been completely clean since 13th of September, which makes it 62 days.
Not only got rid of PMO, but also MO and changed my diet to better (no junk food). So basically I'm on semen retention now.
I haven't had night pollutions too.
Sometimes my libido reaches the Himalayas and I feel like crazy, sometimes I don't really care. I've had flatlines before this streak during the shorter ones, but this time there wasn't really a time when I had absolutely no libido.
First thing noticeable, the eyes. They used to look really empty, now my look is a lot different and my eyes seem to be glassy I'd say.
But I feel dead most of the time anyways as I have unipolar depression. I also limited my drug use. Got way more reasonable. I don't care about the bad stuff that happens as much as I used to.
I've had a hard time a few days ago, I had a dream involving PMO, a PMO relapse and just scrolling down the sites. It was very realistic. After that I constantly kept thinking about what I liked the most and damn it's really tough, no matter what I did it kept coming back to my head for a couple days.
But I don't take into consideration any possibilities of relapsing, I have to stay strong. When I see some degenerate pictures by accident I'm just disgusted, not aroused.
So it it what it is. Day 62. Even though I'm not with the girl I started this streak for anymore, I want to do it for myself.
So many years of addiction history. The thing that makes me mad is that had nobody told me this could be addictive and lead to any consequences at all. I believed it would be sex-positive and it later made me unable to have an intercourse at 16!
By the way, I know some guys say that at the time of their full-blown addiction they wouldn't even find the desire to be close to their partner by just cuddling, kissing.
Fortunately, I never experienced that, I've always been a romantic guy too.
And if I wanted to be with some girl, I wouldn't face any problems in 90% of cases. Even during constant porn use.
Also, I could always do with just MO, so my PIED wasn't as severe as others'.
First off, a warning - the text below may include what some people would find triggering.
Now, let me start from the beginning;
when I was between 7 and 8 I had first discovered porn.
I remember that at first I would just look up some pictures of naked women, I don't think I realized there's videos too... Fortunately.
Since I was about 8 some situations in my life formed anxiety problems, social anxiety and a few years later depression started kicking in, this was in no way caused by porn though. (I have multiple diagnosis BTW)
I have also been molested at 9.
By the time I was 12 I formed a habit, which I'm sure many of you are familiar with.
Going back from school after a hard day, feeling drained? PMO.
Just because I feel like it? PMO.
Going to sleep? PMO.
Just got up? PMO.
PMO really just became my sexuality at that point.
And it went like this, year after a year.
In 2019 I had my first girlfriend, but it didn't last long.
In 2020 I got into my first more serious relationship as it lasted a year and a half. I remember that back in November 2020 we tried to have sex, but damn man, that was just so awful.
I couldn't get it hard enough for penetration for more than 3 minutes because my penis was so desensitized that I had felt no pleasure. We tried oral, 0 pleasure. We tried multiple times but it was always the same. So I gave up and I'd just satisfy her in another way. I didn't really know why it was like that, I thought maybe it was because I felt like shit almost everyday?
Some time later I had moved to another country and we were separated. Of course I wouldn't throw away porn at that moment. We broke up in June because she was acting like crazy when we were separated.
But before that, back in February this year I somehow started realizing that damn, I think I know the source of my problem. How? Because when I did stimulants (yes I've been doing drugs since 2019) what I would do PMO for hours, for the whole damn night.
I'd take more just to keep going. And that also got me in stronger stuff. (at least it wasn't anything really deviant or extremely weird)
So in February I tried limiting PMO as much as I could, but allowed MO. For a month it was going like 3 days clean, 1 day with PMO, 3 days clean, 2 days with PMO & repeat.
But in March I managed to keep a 30 day streak!
Then I relapsed, then started limiting it as much again.
At that point my goal wasn't totally erasing it from my life, also I haven't heard about anything like the Reboot Nation or YBOP.
I managed to limit it to between once a week and two weeks.
I kept MO all the time.
Then in June I moved again and with that came a major relapse, I went straight back to my old habits.
And I think some of you might be familiar with that thought process "well, I did it once, I'll start no PMO again tomorrow so I can let myself do it like one more time today..." - well, I don't think it ever ended at "that one last time".
For a month I just kept going like this because of anything my mind would come up with.
"I won't be in a relationship for some time now anyways, so it doesn't matter, I'll start recovering when I get into one",
"Better this than doing ((other)) drugs!" etc.
September came and I renewed contact with one girl I was really close with, so I decided it's time to get a grip.
I've started doing research on the subject and found very useful and helpful sources and people.
I've been completely clean since 13th of September, which makes it 62 days.
Not only got rid of PMO, but also MO and changed my diet to better (no junk food). So basically I'm on semen retention now.
I haven't had night pollutions too.
Sometimes my libido reaches the Himalayas and I feel like crazy, sometimes I don't really care. I've had flatlines before this streak during the shorter ones, but this time there wasn't really a time when I had absolutely no libido.
First thing noticeable, the eyes. They used to look really empty, now my look is a lot different and my eyes seem to be glassy I'd say.
But I feel dead most of the time anyways as I have unipolar depression. I also limited my drug use. Got way more reasonable. I don't care about the bad stuff that happens as much as I used to.
I've had a hard time a few days ago, I had a dream involving PMO, a PMO relapse and just scrolling down the sites. It was very realistic. After that I constantly kept thinking about what I liked the most and damn it's really tough, no matter what I did it kept coming back to my head for a couple days.
But I don't take into consideration any possibilities of relapsing, I have to stay strong. When I see some degenerate pictures by accident I'm just disgusted, not aroused.
So it it what it is. Day 62. Even though I'm not with the girl I started this streak for anymore, I want to do it for myself.
So many years of addiction history. The thing that makes me mad is that had nobody told me this could be addictive and lead to any consequences at all. I believed it would be sex-positive and it later made me unable to have an intercourse at 16!
By the way, I know some guys say that at the time of their full-blown addiction they wouldn't even find the desire to be close to their partner by just cuddling, kissing.
Fortunately, I never experienced that, I've always been a romantic guy too.
And if I wanted to be with some girl, I wouldn't face any problems in 90% of cases. Even during constant porn use.
Also, I could always do with just MO, so my PIED wasn't as severe as others'.