I started nofap journey from the start of 2019. Before that I had severe ed for 8/9 years! I know I am one of the most severe cases. Currently I am on 8 month but haven’t seen any improvement. So I am loosing patience. Today I watched something that I shouldn’t. I an now in a very bad situation. I am posting this to see if anyone can help me .
Need Help! 8 month done but no improvement!!
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Hey man, congrats on the 8 months. I wouldn't test yourself by watching porn because that is how the problem started. I think you need to now start the rewiring phase and putting yourself out there and interacting with girls in real life and see how you react in those scenarios.
sameerforyou01
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Can you tell more about yourself? Age and how long you watched porn and somethings about your background. Somethings to check, are you meeting woman in your personal life, through dating, gym, school, or meetup? One of the key is to regularly interact with woman so that you can turn on with real interactions. Are you doing exercise, gym and high intensity workout on daily basis? How is your health? Do you have any emotional issues/childhood trauma or something of that nature that might be causing problem for you.
I echo everything above^^ unwiring process is only half of the battle, despite being the hardest part. Now comes the fun part: getting to open up to the world and meeting significant others/potential partners (residing). There’s a book out there called MODELS by Mark Hanson. The premise of the book is super gamey and pick-up artist oriented, but actually reveals itself to be really good with strategies to opening up and finding other people to connect with, friends and partners. Might be worth a look into because this is a transitional period for you.
Don’t ruin all the hard work you’ve done. Keep pushing, but just change your goalposts.
Don’t ruin all the hard work you’ve done. Keep pushing, but just change your goalposts.
Rewiring with a girl is not an option for me because of social barriers. I used to masterbate in prone position, that is the worst part.To be honest, my health has improved with this journey. I am no longer skinny but my ed condition is unchanged. Anyway I will continue my journey, just need some mental support from you guys.
I am only 3+ weeks into a reboot, so your 8 months to me is almost a dream. Don‘t go back my brother! You are killing it! Please, people like me need to see that this is possible. and you are living proof that freedom from porn IS possible. Nothing is worth the relapse. your brain is still healing, please give it time.
Ive Swornoff
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I'm not seeing any improvement, either after almost 6 months... except for time regained and knowing this is the only way to ditch PIED while realizing there is no guarantee. I've had PIED for a decade and in the last two years it got to the point where I am pretty much aroused (physically) by nothing. Mentally, I am, but the body does not respond. It all still works physically ... still get night wood, but the brain and the groin are disconnected.
I just saw a post by someone who was on 580 days. 180 is an upcoming milestone for me. Seeing the 580 is actually helping me put all this in perspective. It's not so much about patience as it is about resignation (to your condition and what caused it) and perseverence. If you stick to it there's a finite chance you might recover. If you don't, there's a 100% chance you won't.
Oh, you watched something you shouldn't have. Don't let that destroy you. Just get back on that horse and internalize that it was a bump in the road, not a complete failure. Use it to strengthen your resolve to avoid it in the future. Failures are learning experiences, as long as we use them to help us avoid failures in the future.
I just saw a post by someone who was on 580 days. 180 is an upcoming milestone for me. Seeing the 580 is actually helping me put all this in perspective. It's not so much about patience as it is about resignation (to your condition and what caused it) and perseverence. If you stick to it there's a finite chance you might recover. If you don't, there's a 100% chance you won't.
Oh, you watched something you shouldn't have. Don't let that destroy you. Just get back on that horse and internalize that it was a bump in the road, not a complete failure. Use it to strengthen your resolve to avoid it in the future. Failures are learning experiences, as long as we use them to help us avoid failures in the future.
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LivingBeyondPornCoaching
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Well done on making it to 8 months - that's a considerable achievement and you should be proud of yourself for having shown such determination and willpower. As you can see from the replies, you aren't alone in experiencing ED after a long period of abstinence - there are other people walking this same path with you.
I quit porn in early 2019 and have found that quitting was only one step in my own recovery journey (though a very important step that requires a great deal of courage and strength). Without porn as a crutch I had to face the pain that was stored within my body and mind that had led to, and fuelled, my porn addiction. Though I haven't watched porn in years and no longer have the desire to, I am still recovering from the wounds beneath my addiction, which originate in my abusive and neglectful upbringing.
If this resonates with you, you may want to explore any possible underlying medical or psychological cause of your ED. As you mention sensing a disconnect between your head and groin, you may benefit from some type of gentle, body awareness meditation, conscious exercise e.g. mindful stretching, or body focused treatments such as massage and/or acupuncture. These techniques are known to help reconnect disconnected parts of the body. These are just some ideas you may like to consider based on what I've found helpful and seen to be helpful in my time in healthcare and meditative practice.
I quit porn in early 2019 and have found that quitting was only one step in my own recovery journey (though a very important step that requires a great deal of courage and strength). Without porn as a crutch I had to face the pain that was stored within my body and mind that had led to, and fuelled, my porn addiction. Though I haven't watched porn in years and no longer have the desire to, I am still recovering from the wounds beneath my addiction, which originate in my abusive and neglectful upbringing.
If this resonates with you, you may want to explore any possible underlying medical or psychological cause of your ED. As you mention sensing a disconnect between your head and groin, you may benefit from some type of gentle, body awareness meditation, conscious exercise e.g. mindful stretching, or body focused treatments such as massage and/or acupuncture. These techniques are known to help reconnect disconnected parts of the body. These are just some ideas you may like to consider based on what I've found helpful and seen to be helpful in my time in healthcare and meditative practice.
nish
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Bro order upkarma Shilajit , ashwagandha powder and safed musali ....and take consistently day and night with lukewarm milk for 4 months....I am improving drastically with this ...I am on day 24th today and had ed for 5-6 years....before this I have relapsed around 40-50 times ....now I am seeing a considerable difference with these ayurvedic herbal powders ....and I am on hardmode now ..not even touching penis except peeing...remember these herbs will only work if you follow strict celibacy and do consistent workouts ...they have no side effects at all... Do not skip workouts because these are too warm for body ...
This thread is wrong because to read it it seems that nothing changes and that the efforts made are in vain the improvements are there maybe you have not perceived them but your brain and your body are better when you can resist all that time me in only 15 days I noticed noticeable improvements in the head and in the body I think better I am more concentrated I have no more fog in the brain and I can compare myself better with others and physically I am more resistant and powerful as others have written try to know girls to use well the your time nothing rains from the sky you must be aware that you have overcome a bad addiction and be able to live at your best if you fall back into the abyss we do not become superman but we are at our maximum potential and we can change our life to its fullest potential
