BigDog43
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I'm 44 with one failed marriage under my belt that now I can see my addiction played a big part in. Been with my second wife 8 years and the past few have not been great.
After 25 years of use, I finally realized how bad this habit was for me and I've quit porn for more than 6 months now (except for one slip up). I've done various stints of no PMO at all during that time, the longest about 5 weeks. I had one porn relapse about half way through these 6 months.
I'm feeling much better about myself but I'm sort of going through this on my own. I have not told my wife about all this, but I'm running into some issues with real sex with her, mainly PE. My problem before this reboot was that most times couldn't get it up and needed blue pills, but now I can get it up but I can't control it. So I'm not even talking about being a two pump chump, I've had scenarios where I went while I was going down on her and another time when I still had pants on during foreplay. There's been several other times where I could make it to insertion, but not long after.
Other than the poor sexual performance, this whole effort as been really good for almost every other aspect of my marriage (and my life). Two questions:
-How do I get past this PE? I keep going back and forth, between trying to figure out if masturbating would help or hurt this problem. I have no problem going no PMO at all between sex sessions but I can't seem to get any control. I just get so excited that real sex is occurring, it's almost like I'm a teenager again trying to figure out how to have sex.
-Do I tell my wife? She thinks we're going through some sort of sexual "phase" and has no idea about my addiction.
After 25 years of use, I finally realized how bad this habit was for me and I've quit porn for more than 6 months now (except for one slip up). I've done various stints of no PMO at all during that time, the longest about 5 weeks. I had one porn relapse about half way through these 6 months.
I'm feeling much better about myself but I'm sort of going through this on my own. I have not told my wife about all this, but I'm running into some issues with real sex with her, mainly PE. My problem before this reboot was that most times couldn't get it up and needed blue pills, but now I can get it up but I can't control it. So I'm not even talking about being a two pump chump, I've had scenarios where I went while I was going down on her and another time when I still had pants on during foreplay. There's been several other times where I could make it to insertion, but not long after.
Other than the poor sexual performance, this whole effort as been really good for almost every other aspect of my marriage (and my life). Two questions:
-How do I get past this PE? I keep going back and forth, between trying to figure out if masturbating would help or hurt this problem. I have no problem going no PMO at all between sex sessions but I can't seem to get any control. I just get so excited that real sex is occurring, it's almost like I'm a teenager again trying to figure out how to have sex.
-Do I tell my wife? She thinks we're going through some sort of sexual "phase" and has no idea about my addiction.