Escapeandnevercomeback
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Don't be confused about it. Staying away from the dopamine of porn is the thing to do no matter what. If you don't feel like improving right now, be patient and one day you will see it.
Dude Reboot
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Day 33 - Christmas Day
Last night I cooked roast pork with my gf. We got the crackling PERFECT and neither of use has ever cooked a roast pork before. We just followed the instructions in a YouTube video and it turned out amazing
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My motivation is returning day by day.
I feel a bit...chubby. All this Christmas binging is nice, but after the festive season is done, I'm getting back in shape. I've discussed this with my trainer and we agreed to take it sort of easy over the holidays, then hit it hard in January. I don't want to be the guy saying no to everything during the holidays, putting a dampener on everyone's fun and feeling like I'm depriving myself.
Merry Christmas everyone. May your reboots be DEVASTATINGLY EFFECTIVE and your days be filled with the joy of existing.
Last night I cooked roast pork with my gf. We got the crackling PERFECT and neither of use has ever cooked a roast pork before. We just followed the instructions in a YouTube video and it turned out amazing
.My motivation is returning day by day.
I feel a bit...chubby. All this Christmas binging is nice, but after the festive season is done, I'm getting back in shape. I've discussed this with my trainer and we agreed to take it sort of easy over the holidays, then hit it hard in January. I don't want to be the guy saying no to everything during the holidays, putting a dampener on everyone's fun and feeling like I'm depriving myself.
Merry Christmas everyone. May your reboots be DEVASTATINGLY EFFECTIVE and your days be filled with the joy of existing.
Dudewithaproblem
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Day 34 - Christmas turned out fun.
Late lunch with friends, chilling in the indoor pool at their apartment complex, then Mario-Kart on the augmented reality remote control cars that just came out.
I weighed in this morning and was over 78kg...I need to ease off the food for a few days. I don't want to let it get out of control and then have more work to do in January.
Late lunch with friends, chilling in the indoor pool at their apartment complex, then Mario-Kart on the augmented reality remote control cars that just came out.
I weighed in this morning and was over 78kg...I need to ease off the food for a few days. I don't want to let it get out of control and then have more work to do in January.
Dudewithaproblem
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This is awesome advice. So simple and true. This is the core directive of a successful reboot. We'd all do well to remember this. Thanks Escapeandnevercomeback.
Dudewithaproblem
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Day 35 - very convincing MW and getting my s*** together.
I woke up this morning with real morning wood. This is a solid sign of successful changes taking place and I'm glad to see it.
Yesterday I got the wind to spend a few hours listening to music and tidying my bedroom. I ended up taking EVERYTHING out except the furniture, dumping it all in the study nook just outside.
The next step I want to do today is to spend some time sorting it all into categories, and determining what I will throw away/donate/keep.
I'm listening to another affirmations video this morning to intensify my motivation to do this:
I haven't seen this one before, but it's the best one I've found so far.
My weight has crept up to 78.4kg...it was hovering around 76 in the weeks leading up to Christmas, so I've definitely put on some chub with all the eating this week. My tummy is sticking out a lot more. Coach and I are planning to start cutting again on January 2nd, after the festivities have ended.
I woke up this morning with real morning wood. This is a solid sign of successful changes taking place and I'm glad to see it.
Yesterday I got the wind to spend a few hours listening to music and tidying my bedroom. I ended up taking EVERYTHING out except the furniture, dumping it all in the study nook just outside.
The next step I want to do today is to spend some time sorting it all into categories, and determining what I will throw away/donate/keep.
I'm listening to another affirmations video this morning to intensify my motivation to do this:
I haven't seen this one before, but it's the best one I've found so far.
My weight has crept up to 78.4kg...it was hovering around 76 in the weeks leading up to Christmas, so I've definitely put on some chub with all the eating this week. My tummy is sticking out a lot more. Coach and I are planning to start cutting again on January 2nd, after the festivities have ended.
Escapeandnevercomeback
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Thanks, man. I appreciate it.
Dudewithaproblem
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Day 36 - sluggish
Felt really tired today. Had a nap on the couch. I managed to get a little bit of organising done. But I also binged a lot on food.
Felt really tired today. Had a nap on the couch. I managed to get a little bit of organising done. But I also binged a lot on food.
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Happy New Year Everyone
Day Day 41 - slipped up. Now day 34...
I caved and looked at some particularly potent P* yesterday and today. Sessions were short - under 5 minutes. But enough to set me back a bit.
I was getting really good. Feeling returning. Getting more into S* with a partner, etc.
Results come when you stick at it for long enough.
Back to the grind.
Not resetting the counter as I don't think my progress is totally lost. Just getting back on the horse and I think I will dock myself a week.
Day 41 now becomes day 34. I'll continue from here.
Good things coming! I just need to stay the course.
I'm also getting back into training and dieting.
I made an egg white bread that is almost 100% protein, which will help with making macro friendly sandwiches.
Excited for the positive growth that can be expected over coming weeks as long as I simply perform the tasks that will make my life better.
Day Day 41 - slipped up. Now day 34...
I caved and looked at some particularly potent P* yesterday and today. Sessions were short - under 5 minutes. But enough to set me back a bit.
I was getting really good. Feeling returning. Getting more into S* with a partner, etc.
Results come when you stick at it for long enough.
Back to the grind.
Not resetting the counter as I don't think my progress is totally lost. Just getting back on the horse and I think I will dock myself a week.
Day 41 now becomes day 34. I'll continue from here.
Good things coming! I just need to stay the course.
I'm also getting back into training and dieting.
I made an egg white bread that is almost 100% protein, which will help with making macro friendly sandwiches.
Excited for the positive growth that can be expected over coming weeks as long as I simply perform the tasks that will make my life better.
Dudewithaproblem
Member
Day 35 - back at it. Therapist appointment.
I'm seeing my therapist today, after about 2 months. This was scheduled at the last session, not a kneejerk to my binges a few days ago.
I've started off my new diet with a protein + fiber rich pancake. It was pretty tasty and very filling. I'll aim to have that each morning until I get sick of it, then try another recipe. Starts the day off with 60g protein, 10g fiber, and only 450 calories.
No doubt my reboot progress will come up in my therapy session. The therapist wasn't totally for me quitting masturbation altogether, but I genuinely feel it has been very beneficial for helping rewire my arousal cues to partnered situations.
I'm seeing my therapist today, after about 2 months. This was scheduled at the last session, not a kneejerk to my binges a few days ago.
I've started off my new diet with a protein + fiber rich pancake. It was pretty tasty and very filling. I'll aim to have that each morning until I get sick of it, then try another recipe. Starts the day off with 60g protein, 10g fiber, and only 450 calories.
No doubt my reboot progress will come up in my therapy session. The therapist wasn't totally for me quitting masturbation altogether, but I genuinely feel it has been very beneficial for helping rewire my arousal cues to partnered situations.
Dudewithaproblem
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Day 38 - reboot still going strong
Dudewithaproblem
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Day 39 - still going.
I have lost 2kg this week - water weight going from free eating to reduced calories.
I have lost 2kg this week - water weight going from free eating to reduced calories.
Hey good to hear you progress. You are improving fast because you do the activities that make you feel good. Keep going bro, you may succeed in getting rid of this ED fully soon. I'm also on my day 29, i used porn to masturbate for last 1.5 years. So i developed PIED. I hope i get back on track soon. I'm having no MW yet and erotic thoughts and some instagram women turn me on. So, i consider it better to stay off any type of trigggers such as instagram, facebook and snapchat. Seeing you progress, im also incorporating some good activities i.e self- care, excercise, cooking and being around loved ones and socializing.
Dudewithaproblem
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Ugh. Guys, I've been bingeing badly the past few days. I just decided to give up at some stage...
I got some bad news the other day and I think that weakened my resolve. Worst news I've had in a long while. I've been stressing about it since.
I had been doing really well. Clear results were happening. My erections were improving. My confidence was coming back. I was appreciating my partner more in the moment. Noticing more. Feeling more.
I can feel now that a lot of progress has been lost. I'm not sure how long it will take to get back to where I was...probably another month.
So I'm resetting my counter to day zero.
I'll spend some time today reviewing the YBOP book to get back in the headspace to do this.
I got some bad news the other day and I think that weakened my resolve. Worst news I've had in a long while. I've been stressing about it since.
I had been doing really well. Clear results were happening. My erections were improving. My confidence was coming back. I was appreciating my partner more in the moment. Noticing more. Feeling more.
I can feel now that a lot of progress has been lost. I'm not sure how long it will take to get back to where I was...probably another month.
So I'm resetting my counter to day zero.
I'll spend some time today reviewing the YBOP book to get back in the headspace to do this.
Sorry to hear that, Dude!
Be patient and understanding with yourself, and you will rebound quickly. Make a plan or intent to be extra vigilant when life, as it often does, throws a curve ball at us.
Be patient and understanding with yourself, and you will rebound quickly. Make a plan or intent to be extra vigilant when life, as it often does, throws a curve ball at us.
Dudewithaproblem
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I'm so grateful for your support, Phineas. Thank you brother.
Dudewithaproblem
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Day 1
Chaser effect?
I still feel horny. Maybe all progress was not lost.
Anyhow, I'd still like to go a full 90 days without P* or M* to see what happens. I think the result will be spectacular if I can do it.
Not just for sexual matters but for motivation and fulfillment too.
Chaser effect?
I still feel horny. Maybe all progress was not lost.
Anyhow, I'd still like to go a full 90 days without P* or M* to see what happens. I think the result will be spectacular if I can do it.
Not just for sexual matters but for motivation and fulfillment too.
Dudewithaproblem
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Day 2
Productive!
I put my phone on 'do not disturb' for 3 hours. It was great. I trained, cooked, got some steps in, then did some research and work on organising my finances.
Now I'm taking the afternoon off to relax and reward myself for that productivity!
Productive!
I put my phone on 'do not disturb' for 3 hours. It was great. I trained, cooked, got some steps in, then did some research and work on organising my finances.
Now I'm taking the afternoon off to relax and reward myself for that productivity!
Dudewithaproblem
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Day 3
Calendar
I got an app called check calendar that's just a simple calendar you can check off. You can create multiple calendars to track different things.
I have one for P* and one for M*.
I thought seeing it on a screen would help visualise my progress
Calendar
I got an app called check calendar that's just a simple calendar you can check off. You can create multiple calendars to track different things.
I have one for P* and one for M*.
I thought seeing it on a screen would help visualise my progress
Dudewithaproblem
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Day 4
Introducing a weekly check-in.
I'm going to start doing a weekly summary post to summarise how my week went.
I think doing this will give me a miniature finish line to aim for during the week, in addition to the far-off 90 day goal.
I also think it will be helpful to review the week and reward the achievement to help reinforce good habits.
Introducing a weekly check-in.
I'm going to start doing a weekly summary post to summarise how my week went.
I think doing this will give me a miniature finish line to aim for during the week, in addition to the far-off 90 day goal.
I also think it will be helpful to review the week and reward the achievement to help reinforce good habits.
Dudewithaproblem
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Day 5
Kind of struggling to stay off P & M.
It has been hard to keep from M*ing. I don't know why I feel the need to do this. Short term pleasure over long term fulfillment.
Kind of struggling to stay off P & M.
It has been hard to keep from M*ing. I don't know why I feel the need to do this. Short term pleasure over long term fulfillment
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