Dude Reboot

Takeoff

Member
first days are always the worst from my experience and I'm currently on day 3 after a 121 days streak so I know how you feel. I'm trying my best to stay hardmode now again as it worked the best for me and I think it does for many people... good luck, keep busy with something to make it easier.
 
first days are always the worst from my experience and I'm currently on day 3 after a 121 days streak so I know how you feel. I'm trying my best to stay hardmode now again as it worked the best for me and I think it does for many people... good luck, keep busy with something to make it easier.
I agree, hard mode seems like it would get the best results. I certainly get better quality arousal and feel more motivated when I'm completely free of all artificial stimulation.
Thanks for the encouragement! You can do this! 120 days is awesome! How was it?
 

Takeoff

Member
I certainly get better quality arousal
Exactly, and the desensitization goes away too.
How was it?
Since this way my longest streak so far and the ones before it were no longer than 30-something days, it took abou 50 days until I really started feeling better and noticed myself only very rarely thinking about such thing as pornography. It was hardmode until day 93.
Have a great porn-free day
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

Respected Member
first days are always the worst from my experience and I'm currently on day 3 after a 121 days streak so I know how you feel. I'm trying my best to stay hardmode now again as it worked the best for me and I think it does for many people... good luck, keep busy with something to make it easier.
Hard mode is definitely good for me. It's the surest way to stay away from the annoying chaser effect that pushes me hard to porn. In the beginning of the reboot, there is nothing like porn. I can't expect to only limit myself to MO when it's porn I crave, not MO. Since I don't get any sex, I don't see a reason not to do hard mode. It's brutal, but necessary.
 
I'm back and on day 47!

I disappeared from Reboot Nation for a while because I felt unmotivated to post. I kept slipping and was having trouble recommitting to my reboot, but I got there after a few weeks.

I somehow got out of my low motivation rut. I kept re-reading YBOP over and over, and downloaded a bunch of apps to count days and give me something to do when an urge comes.

I have one app counting down from 90 and 2 counting up. I downloaded some relaxing mobile games to play when I get an urge. I thought having something to occupy my mind would be helpful. Sometimes when I get an urge, I put on the audiobook of YBOP, and play games while I listen.

Benefits came in a similar timeline to the first reboot I journaled about here. Now I'm further along and the benefits are still increasing.

I generally have more motivation because of the natural reward pathways regaining sensitivity, but it fluctuates. Like right now I'm not particularly motivated, but I certainly have been at times over the past few weeks, and it's been wonderful! Being able to actually get things done around the house and work on my business has been amazing. It seems to come in waves, in an upward trend. So I'm confident that the next motivational wave I get will be higher than previous ones.

I remember my dreams more now. It's so weird! I read about that in YBOP and thought it was just overly enthusiastic guys reporting a placebo effect, but REALLY, I literally remember my dreams more often now. Most of my adult life I have very rarely had dreams. Now I dream often and can remember it when I wake up.

I get morning wood most days. The quality still fluctuates. It's stronger and lasts longer.

I have been using trimix for around 8 months to get erections. At first it was unreliable and I had to use around 10 units. Now it works every time (as long as I inject it properly), lasts longer, and I'm only using 5 units. So I believe that as my natural ability to get erections returns, the lower the dose of erection meds will be needed. Hopefully it eventually reaches a point where there is little difference between using or not using something. At the moment my erections are still soft in partnered situations without meds, but definitely improved. I can feel the tingle of arousal at least, and find it easier to climax.

My bedroom is fairly tidy and organised now. I got it to a point where it looked beautiful 2 weeks ago, but I've let it regress a little bit. I could tidy it up to that level again in 5-10 minutes, which is a huge improvement for me. My bedrooms have been messy my whole adult life.

I also notice I'm less anxious in social situations. This fluctuates too, but the trend is generally upward. I seem to carry myself more confidently and make eye contact easier. I am more engaged when having conversations with people.

I even notice young women paying more positive attention to me when I'm out shopping or doing errands. A girl setting up the chairs at a cafe the other day noticed me from about 50m away, then as I got closer she made a point of smiling and saying hi. THAT SHIT NEVER HAPPENS WTF?!

The next day I went to get a battery in my watch. I've had this watch for 2 years and never worn it because it had no battery, so even that is a sign of progress, that I finally decided to get it sorted. While I was waiting, I got food from Zambrero's, a Mexican place. As I was sitting there eating my burrito bol, a girl and guy came along, and the girl was talking really loudly, trying to get the guy to choose where they should eat. Then she chose to sit down right near where I was. After some playful arguing, the guy wandered off to check out a cafe he thought had a good sandwich, and the girl stayed there waiting for him. It felt like she was attracted to me...I was on the fence about whether to introduce myself and say, "I'd love to take you out and tell you what to eat sometime." I found their whole interaction amusing. The guy was clearly very into her, but too nervous to make a decision in case she didn't like it. I can relate, but lately I have been much more direct with people and it's a good feeling being able to speak your mind.

That's about all I have to report. I wanted to get something written down so there's a record of the changes I've been noticing.

I'm about half way through my 90 Day reboot and excited to see what happens in the 2nd half!
 
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Rcgarcia

Member
Hi everyone. I'm 34 and I've been trying to reboot for almost 2 years, but this is my first journal.

I've been mostly off porn the past 2 years and it has helped get my erections back a bit.

However, I still use mild porn every 1-2 weeks, masturbate a few times per week, and occasionally go back to watching something more extreme. I think all this is stunting my recovery.

I never seriously tried to stop masturbating, because I see it as healthy. However, I still struggle to stay hard in partnered situations, and I wonder if cutting out masturbation will help.

So I am quitting porn and masturbation completely to see what happens.

I just started a new reboot. This is the 3rd day.

A bit about my history with this stuff:

I started watching porn in my late teens. I was a virgin until 23, so had a few years of porn before I was with a woman for real.

I also had a Christian upbringing, but am now an atheist. I believe Christianity's negative attitudes towards sex contributed to my sexual frustrations in the first place. It has been a long journey trying to build a healthy sexuality from there. My father also didn't let me date, so I was very late to the party. I only lost my virginity when I was finally able to move out on my own.

My first time having sex, I didn't climax and was able to go for a very long time, which made me think I was a stud. Little did I know it was actually a sign of dysfunction!

I had delayed ejaculation all through my 20s, without realising what it was. I just knew it took me a long time to orgasm during sex and often I would just get tired and stop. My symptoms gradually got worse and around age 30 I realised I had progressed to erectile dysfunction.

I spoke to a doctor, and he gave me Cialis. It helped but I didn't like walking around with flushed red skin for several days every time I took it.

I started to get tiny veins appearing on my nose and ears, and assumed it was the Cialis causing it, so I asked to switch to Viagra. I still got red skin but at least it only lasted a few hours instead of days.

Both these drugs worked sometimes, but sometimes I could be turning red from all the ED drugs in my system and still not get hard. I had also already mostly quit porn, so I went to a doctor again to see if I had low T or something.

I had a bunch of medical tests done, but no physiological cause for ED was found. The doctor concluded the problem must be psychological.

I started seeing a sexual psychotherapist, and she immediately assumed it was performance anxiety. But I knew myself well enough to know that although I now often felt anxiety around sex, the anxiety wasn't the cause of my ED. Before I developed ED, I had sex plenty of times and didn't feel anxious, or could perform even when feeling anxious. Now I was consistently struggling to stay hard, and it was causing anxiety. The anxiety wasn't causing the ED, it was caused by the ED.

After several months of psychotherapy with minimal improvement, I have now decided to try rebooting again.

I'm starting again because I want to try a bit harder than I have been and see where that takes me.

I think what I need to do is just cut out porn and masturbation completely, and only orgasm in partnered situations, so my brain learns to better recognise that sex is with a partner, not by myself. I can still get high quality erections if I use porn, so I know this is possible for me. I know I just need to rewire my brain to respond to real women instead of fake women on a screen.

Thanks for reading if you got this far, and good luck with your reboot!
Don't give up . You are in the right path. Maybe you Just need to CUT masturbation and porn completely out of your life. I am 44 and starting It 6 day Ago.
 
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