WILL FANTASISING WHEN I AM WITH REAL LIFE WOMEN AFFECT MY RECOVERY FROM PIED
- Thread starter Benovi
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Well it depends on how long you are in reboot phase.If you are still early on then I would suggest not fantasizing about real sex,not because of fantasy itself but because it can trigger you to MO or since you are/were porn addicted PMO.If you feel confident in yourself and have achieved some goals then why would you fantasize bro ? Get out in world,start dating,see if you can find the right girl and live your fantasies.
That's the spirit! Most definitely go for that,it is the final step in your reboot
Fappy
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Not if you dont act on it. If you “fapify” those women (a word i made up), that is if you use them in order to jerk off, it may slow down your progress, not to mention its really creepy.
But the dangerous thing si that looking at these women will trigger an urge to PMO, and you’ll be all hot and bothered by it and go and do something stupid like look at porn.
But the dangerous thing si that looking at these women will trigger an urge to PMO, and you’ll be all hot and bothered by it and go and do something stupid like look at porn.
Fappy
Respected Member
good, lets keep it that way!
Update: I have noticed a trend over my 12 months of no-fap.
Trend:.it seems like a cycle where my libido and erections dip over approximately 3 to 4 weeks and re-emerge for about 2 weeks with improved performance.
Anytime I resurge after a dip, I seem to have made progress relative to my previous state.
Wanted to find out if this is same with everyone else.
I seem to have a 25 to 30 days cycle.
Trend:.it seems like a cycle where my libido and erections dip over approximately 3 to 4 weeks and re-emerge for about 2 weeks with improved performance.
Anytime I resurge after a dip, I seem to have made progress relative to my previous state.
Wanted to find out if this is same with everyone else.
I seem to have a 25 to 30 days cycle.
otanerferguson
Active Member
I've experienced the same. It is normal, I would say. Are you or have you been with a partner in these 12 months? Because, in my case, that cycle is very much tied to my wife's ovulation phase, when I get extra horny. It's just biology trying to perpetuate the species, I guess. When she's not ovulating I go back into a normal state and can go a week without even thinking about sex. One time though, I went back into one severe flatline with ED and everything in the dip phase. That was the worst case. I don't know if it was a coincidence, but I snapped out of it after doing these and these vagus nerve exercises. I keep wondering if those would have helped with the flatline back when I was doing my reboot.
So here is an update on my progress. It's been 2yrs now and I hv such incredible mental clarity that my GPA is over the roof in my masters program and I hv so much grit. Also, I have erections effortlessly when I think sexual thoughts about my fiancée and even when she touches me, my beast responds immediately. However, there are periods (about a week long), when my erections are raging and then I experience longer periods (about 2 months) when I get aroused while we cuddle and loose my erections during sex. Any advise or anyone with similar experience after 2yrs?
Penises are not machines and it’s good for both partners if we all become a little less performance driven and goal oriented.
Congratulations on your vast progress!