LOW LIBIDO, FLAT LINE SYNDROME

BigM

BigM

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I get hard in the morning when I think about sex, but when I think of a real life lady or see one I don't believe I could get hard if given the chance to have sex with her. Is it normal to have this kind of feeling during your reboot?
 
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Stiffy999

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BigM said:
I particularly think about normal sex, you know get the girl and that's it. The only problem is I'm not quite sure if I will have a normal erection if I try having sex with her.
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You have,as many guys here on the forum have,the thing called performance anxiety.If you believe that you won't have normal erection then you won't have normal erection it's as simple as that.Anxious thoughts makes you feel subconsciously endangered or threatened and your brain activates "fight or flight stance" to fight that danger and by activating it shuts down your arousal center completely.So you have to build up confidence in order to eliminate anxious thoughts.
 
Fappy

Fappy

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yeah thats normal in the reboot. your confidence may still be reeling after the beating its taken from your porn addiction. it will pass, though.
 
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Tryinghere

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I'm in the exact same situation. This is terrible. I'm about 80 days no PMO. I have had sex a half dozen times or so. But I sometimes use viagra as "insurance" if I think we're going to be intimate later. She has surprised me with sex or oral a few times and it has worked....but not always.

I'm certain that at this point for me it's pretty much all performance anxiety and the PIED is gone. I thought I just needed to get a few wins under my belt. We had sex every day for a week with no pills and no preplanning and everything worked fine. Then after a strange miscommunication between us triggered some of the feelings I had that put me here in the first place, things stopped working. now I have this mental block I can't seem to get through.

I'm here to help you guys however I can. But if you have any advice on how to get over that I would really appreciate it.
 
BigM

BigM

Member
Tryinghere said:
I'm in the exact same situation. This is terrible. I'm about 80 days no PMO. I have had sex a half dozen times or so. But I sometimes use viagra as "insurance" if I think we're going to be intimate later. She has surprised me with sex or oral a few times and it has worked....but not always.

I'm certain that at this point for me it's pretty much all performance anxiety and the PIED is gone. I thought I just needed to get a few wins under my belt. We had sex every day for a week with no pills and no preplanning and everything worked fine. Then after a strange miscommunication between us triggered some of the feelings I had that put me here in the first place, things stopped working. now I have this mental block I can't seem to get through.

I'm here to help you guys however I can. But if you have any advice on how to get over that I would really appreciate it.
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So I was doing well until yesterday, this morning has been tough , no morning wood. Yester- evening I thought I could get laid but it turned out to be a disappointment. I lay there cuddling for more than 30 minutes, it was a frustration considering I have been having random erections during the day and every time I thought of sex. I honestly don't know what's wrong with me?
 
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Tryinghere

Active Member
BigM said:
So I was doing well until yesterday, this morning has been tough , no morning wood. Yester- evening I thought I could get laid but it turned out to be a disappointment. I lay there cuddling for more than 30 minutes, it was a frustration considering I have been having random erections during the day and every time I thought of sex. I honestly don't know what's wrong with me?
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It’s frustrating bro. Listening to you it’s easy for me to sit here and tell you that it’s just part of the process. But I’d just be making that shit up if I’m being honest. The truth is that I FUCKING HOPE it’s part of the process.

I’ve grown concerned that my shit will never work again. The last time we tried to have sex, it had been a week. I had been getting raging hard-ons all week. Morning time, when we’d kiss, when I would rub her back. And then when we started fooling around I was super hard. It wasn’t until I tried to penetrate her that I lost it. It’s like my cock has forgotten what to do with a vagina. My dick hasn’t been hard since.

I’ve been trying to make myself feel better by reminding myself that i WAS getting hard every time we would touch. I WAS getting hard when she would text something dirty to me. We DID have sex with no viagra a few times. She DID give me oral without viagra a couple of times. None of those things would have happened 6 months ago. None of them.

So, that said. We’ve little choice but to believe in this process and pray it works. I really hope we both regain what we’ve lost. Holy shit I want to fuck my wife…..like actually fuck her. None of this “will it work” or just praying I last long enough for her to cum. She used to cum at least a couple of times every time we were together. Now, we’re lucky if it doesn’t end in complete failure and disappointment.

Today was a rough one for me too man. I’m sorry it was the same for you.
 
Fappy

Fappy

Respected Member
Tryinghere said:
It’s frustrating bro. Listening to you it’s easy for me to sit here and tell you that it’s just part of the process. But I’d just be making that shit up if I’m being honest. The truth is that I FUCKING HOPE it’s part of the process.

I’ve grown concerned that my shit will never work again. The last time we tried to have sex, it had been a week. I had been getting raging hard-ons all week. Morning time, when we’d kiss, when I would rub her back. And then when we started fooling around I was super hard. It wasn’t until I tried to penetrate her that I lost it. It’s like my cock has forgotten what to do with a vagina. My dick hasn’t been hard since.

I’ve been trying to make myself feel better by reminding myself that i WAS getting hard every time we would touch. I WAS getting hard when she would text something dirty to me. We DID have sex with no viagra a few times. She DID give me oral without viagra a couple of times. None of those things would have happened 6 months ago. None of them.

So, that said. We’ve little choice but to believe in this process and pray it works. I really hope we both regain what we’ve lost. Holy shit I want to fuck my wife…..like actually fuck her. None of this “will it work” or just praying I last long enough for her to cum. She used to cum at least a couple of times every time we were together. Now, we’re lucky if it doesn’t end in complete failure and disappointment.

Today was a rough one for me too man. I’m sorry it was the same for you.
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ive been there many times before, and yes it sucks, but it will pass. try not to feel down about it and just know that what youre doing will improve the situation in the end.
 
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