forestwater
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Most of this website and forum feel very geared towards men, but men aren't the only people with problems from PMO. My anatomy may be slightly different from the majority of people here, but I hope I will still be able to gain some help and advice.
My story: I grew up very religious, and porn was considered one of the evils of our generation. I fully believed that until I grew up and left my religion, at which point I thought all the anti-porn stuff was just another way my religion tried to repress sexuality. I had sex before porn, but it wasn't until porn that I had my first orgasm. I didn't have sex again for a long time (for unrelated reasons) but I was PMOing regularly in that time, and I think it messed up my brain wiring. When I did have sex again, I had just an "okay" time, and it certainly didn't bring me any Os.
This continued for several years. At the time, I chalked it up to mediocre sex with young, inexperienced partners, and assumed that once I found a good partner who I could have sex with on a regular basis, I would start orgasming from that instead of porn. I kept PMOing in the meantime.
Cut to now: I have a wonderful partner who I adore and am very attracted to. During sex, they take their time to be sensual, learn my body, and make me feel amazing. Our libidos are pretty equally matched too. This is all I ever wanted sexually, but even now I'm experiencing sexual dysfunction. I have a hard time getting wet, and no matter how expertly my partner touches me, it doesn't bring me to climax. (Unsurprisingly, I can still PMO easily on the rare occasions I've done so while in this relationship.) I've spent months reading all sorts of articles and trying all kinds of techniques, but nothing has worked.
Then yesterday, by chance, I stumbled across this website. I did some investigating, and realized that my troubles orgasming are not because I'm "just a complicated woman" or because I'm "not breathing enough" or whatever other b/s. They're PIED (or whatever the equivalent would be for me). Figuring this out is a relief, because now that I know what's wrong, I can work towards a real solution. I've read Easy Peasy, and I've made the commitment to never PMOing again.
Some questions:
EDIT: Moved to women category. That doesn't seem to be super active though, so feel free to reply if you see it here too.
My story: I grew up very religious, and porn was considered one of the evils of our generation. I fully believed that until I grew up and left my religion, at which point I thought all the anti-porn stuff was just another way my religion tried to repress sexuality. I had sex before porn, but it wasn't until porn that I had my first orgasm. I didn't have sex again for a long time (for unrelated reasons) but I was PMOing regularly in that time, and I think it messed up my brain wiring. When I did have sex again, I had just an "okay" time, and it certainly didn't bring me any Os.
This continued for several years. At the time, I chalked it up to mediocre sex with young, inexperienced partners, and assumed that once I found a good partner who I could have sex with on a regular basis, I would start orgasming from that instead of porn. I kept PMOing in the meantime.
Cut to now: I have a wonderful partner who I adore and am very attracted to. During sex, they take their time to be sensual, learn my body, and make me feel amazing. Our libidos are pretty equally matched too. This is all I ever wanted sexually, but even now I'm experiencing sexual dysfunction. I have a hard time getting wet, and no matter how expertly my partner touches me, it doesn't bring me to climax. (Unsurprisingly, I can still PMO easily on the rare occasions I've done so while in this relationship.) I've spent months reading all sorts of articles and trying all kinds of techniques, but nothing has worked.
Then yesterday, by chance, I stumbled across this website. I did some investigating, and realized that my troubles orgasming are not because I'm "just a complicated woman" or because I'm "not breathing enough" or whatever other b/s. They're PIED (or whatever the equivalent would be for me). Figuring this out is a relief, because now that I know what's wrong, I can work towards a real solution. I've read Easy Peasy, and I've made the commitment to never PMOing again.
Some questions:
- Are there any tried-and-true techniques for rewiring your brain to be turned on by real people? I've seen a lot of talk of rewiring but not a lot of concrete advice
- What about MO during sex, such as while looking at my partner? Would that help or hinder my progress?
EDIT: Moved to women category. That doesn't seem to be super active though, so feel free to reply if you see it here too.
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