My pleasure man. Do try to look into her eyes while you are doing that so that your focus is not on your penis but on her reactions and run your hands up and down her body going back and forth between her breasts, her back and neck, and the back of her arms. Once she's in a groove essentially masturbating with your penis (which would be pointing in the direction of your belly button), grab her butt and help her move back and forth. That shift in focus makes you rewire to her body. You have to force it a bit at first and fake that love gaze, until it starts to become real with the sessions. She, in turn, loves to feel appreciated and you feed off of her reactions. That is powerful because you no longer have to fantasize about porn to stay aroused. In fact you yourself don't need to be aroused, just look aroused (although you will get there more and more with each session). And since the erection, penetration and your orgasm are off the table, you don't get anxious or at least as anxious.Thanks so much for the advice. I really like the idea of trying what you and your wife did. As luck would have it, my wife is a yoga teacher. I try going to a class once a week but it doesn't always work like that. Even so I can, and do try to watch her move often. Thanks man. I appreciate it. So many people talk about cuddling and kissing and making out....work out....blah blah blah. And that's all fine and good advice. But rarely do you get any solid advice for what to do in the moment with your spouse after months of disappointment.
Power to you!