So, I'm not sure the etiquette here. I posted something similar in the 40 years old and up section but haven't gotten any responses. I'm desperate for some advice. Has anyone had any issues with PIED coming and going during rewiring? Sometimes my dick works....sometimes it doesn't
I'm 40. Married with children. My wife is aware of the situation with me and we're working together in getting things "up" and running again.
NO PMO for going on 80 days or so. I HAVE MO'd approximately 5-7 times to sensation during that period. After a month or so on hard mode though, my wife and I had successful sex (or successful oral) for 5 days in a row. No viagra, no nothing. Just me and her. My libido was returning and I was feeling strong. After that, I had a set back caused by a miscommunication between us and ended up MO'ing to sensation about 3 times that week. Since then, I feel like I've hit a massive flatline. Dick shrivelled and dead (feels hot though, not cold). Very nervous about sex in general now. I did receive oral without viagra once, and have had sex 3 times with viagra. This time, even with the viagra, my erections were slow to come.
3 weeks ago it seemed like we were on the right track. Now, I'm afraid and worried again. This PIED has caused awful performance anxiety. I've read the forums and fixing this has been my main priority for the past 80 days. I realize I can give pleasure without my dick. But sometimes, she needs penetrative sex....not oral, not hands, not toys. Viagra has been a great help, but it's not something I want to use all the time.
We're doing all the standard rewiring stuff. Kareeza sex is kind of out of the question as once I enter her, when she cums....I can't stop myself and I end up O'ing. But I do rub her back nightly, we cuddle, we're always loving and affectionate. We kiss. We're playful...we'll be watching TV and she'll just reach her hand down my pants and mess with me for a little bit...just teasing and things like that. I typically get a good response erection-wise to things like that. It's the actual penetration where things go south. That and the completely schrivelled and rubbery dick anyways.
As strange as this sounds, the porn made me broken, but the porn wasn't the problem. The problem was I was using porn to fill a void and my wife and I have filled that void. Point is, I have no urges or desires whatsoever to look at porn. I'm well on my way through the reboot. I'm interested in rewiring with partner.
I understand this isn't a straight line to victory and there will be ups and downs, but does anyone have any advice (that I haven't already read) to help speed up rewiring and get us back to normal? Any tips from you guys on how to speed up the rewiring process?