ROUGH DAYS

BigM

Member
Hi, it's been 3 weeks in the reboot, hard mode rebooting to be precise. I must admit I have never felt this good. The flat line has been with me as expected but I have learnt to embrace it. Yesterday the very girl I was afraid of having sex came for a sleep over, we started cuddling and kissing. I got hard(80%) and was ready for penetration, but she insisted on giving me oral sex before penetration. I didn't last more than a minute and after ejaculating I couldn't get it hard again. I'm just concerned will I ever get better, before this porn addiction I would shag a lady more than two times. Should I expect better results? Please advice if you have been in this situation before.
 

Tryinghere

Active Member
I’m almost at 90 days and I can tell you what I’ve experienced. I’ve had ups and downs. I used to fuck my wife two or 3 times in a night. A week or so ago she gave me oral in the morning, we had sex before bed, then again I’m the middle of the night. I lost my erection midway through the last time. We waited a week and tried again and I was unable to get it up at all. I’ve been in a massive flatline since.

Point is, things were going well until we went too hard. I think you’ll hit ups and downs but you will eventually get back to where you can be confident in the bedroom. We managed 5 days in a row with no pills once, then had a set back. Then it got a little better, then a little worse. I think it’s a slow bumpy ride to getting better.

Take that with a grain of salt though because I’m questioning whether I’ll ever be able to get an erection with her ever again.
The hardest part for me is fighting that voice in the back of my mind telling me I’m permanently broken.
 

BigM

Member
I’m almost at 90 days and I can tell you what I’ve experienced. I’ve had ups and downs. I used to fuck my wife two or 3 times in a night. A week or so ago she gave me oral in the morning, we had sex before bed, then again I’m the middle of the night. I lost my erection midway through the last time. We waited a week and tried again and I was unable to get it up at all. I’ve been in a massive flatline since.

Point is, things were going well until we went too hard. I think you’ll hit ups and downs but you will eventually get back to where you can be confident in the bedroom. We managed 5 days in a row with no pills once, then had a set back. Then it got a little better, then a little worse. I think it’s a slow bumpy ride to getting better.

Take that with a grain of salt though because I’m questioning whether I’ll ever be able to get an erection with her ever again.
The hardest part for me is fighting that voice in the back of my mind telling me I’m permanently broken.
I really appreciate this man, it's not easy withholding the stress. Especially when in the past you were so confident and good in bed. I hope the drive will be back ASAP.
 

Tryinghere

Active Member
I really appreciate this man, it's not easy withholding the stress. Especially when in the past you were so confident and good in bed. I hope the drive will be back ASAP.
I hope so man. You’re right. The stress is awful. We used to joke that porn stars would be jealous of us. We were amazing in bed together. I remember nights when we’d finish and the only thing we could do was lay on our backs and laugh because we both came so hard. What I wouldn’t do for one more of those nights…. I really hope, for the both of us, that we get back to where we used to be.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
youre definately not broken. PMO fucks with our brains more than Tryinghere fucks his wife! that said, such is the extent of the brain-fuckery we dont know how its effects will manifest, or when. three weeks into your reboot and youre already showing positive signs of recovery, can get hard enough to penetrate, was able to ejaculate to non-artificial stimulation, etc, so thats a really good sign. the premature ejaculation COULD be a symptom of being overexcited and in a sense "forcing" yourself to succeed, perhaps as a way of proving to yourself that your cock isnt dead. its not, its very much alive, and it will be back as long as you stick to your reboot as planned.
one thing you could do if you want to avoid the embarassment of minute-man-itis, is to hold off anything sexual for the time being. let yourself recovery a little more until you feel youre ready. and remmeber, dont force anything, tis a natural process that needs to be allowed to happen.
 

BigM

Member
@Fappy thanks man. Your have taught me a lot. The forum in general has been instrumental through this reboot and recovery process. I hope that we all find solace.
 

Tryinghere

Active Member
youre definately not broken. PMO fucks with our brains more than Tryinghere fucks his wife! that said, such is the extent of the brain-fuckery we dont know how its effects will manifest, or when. three weeks into your reboot and youre already showing positive signs of recovery, can get hard enough to penetrate, was able to ejaculate to non-artificial stimulation, etc, so thats a really good sign. the premature ejaculation COULD be a symptom of being overexcited and in a sense "forcing" yourself to succeed, perhaps as a way of proving to yourself that your cock isnt dead. its not, its very much alive, and it will be back as long as you stick to your reboot as planned.
one thing you could do if you want to avoid the embarassment of minute-man-itis, is to hold off anything sexual for the time being. let yourself recovery a little more until you feel youre ready. and remmeber, dont force anything, tis a natural process that needs to be allowed to happen.
@Fappy thanks man. Your have taught me a lot. The forum in general has been instrumental through this reboot and recovery process. I hope that we all find solace.
@Fappy thanks man. Your have taught me a lot. The forum in general has been instrumental through this reboot and recovery process. I hope that we all find solace.
Agreed. Fappy I must say, you’ve been a great help to me. It’s good to speak to someone that’s been through it before. Thanks for being there for us my dude!
 
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