Hi everyone,
First of all, I’m sorry I didn’t write a post sooner because I think my success story can seriously help a lot of you who are struggling out there. I had ED and maybe a little bit of PE for about 3-4 years and only about a year ago did I finally crack the code. I’m a freshman in college so (probably like many of you) it was a tough time to have ED especially hearing all the locker room talk. Regardless, I made it and could not be more thankful, so here is my story and I hope it helps!
Since around my sophomore year in high school I started watching porn pretty frequently. My girlfriend had just cheated on me so I was done with the thought of girlfriends. Keep in mind I did NOT have ED with her. Porn was what I turned to. I hooked up with some girls throughout sophomore, junior and senior year but I never had sex with any of them. I tried, but could never get hard.. super embarrassing for me and they felt like they weren’t attractive enough for me. All in all it was a lose-lose and really baffled me because I had no idea how to fix it. I stopped watching porn a few months into senior year to try to solve my problem but then tried having sex a few months later and came before I was even inside and while I was maybe 70% hard. That was kind of a shot to my confidence. It took me until I had graduated to reach out to a family friend who I knew did some talks about this kind of stuff. When I finally admitted I needed help and then asked for help was the turning point in my journey. She directed me to this page and it was the best advice I could have received. I searched this page for a while and came across some great advice and stories but there was one story that was especially similar to mine. The guy had found a solution, had stuck with it and he lay out a plan for me to follow. Thank you so much to that guy because I would be in a whole different headspace right now had I not stuck to his advice. Anyways, the goal was pretty simple. Stop masturbating. I had seen this before… that I should just join the NoFap movement, but I wasn’t quite sold on it yet because it seemed like all of my friends jerked off every day and had no problems with sex. What this guy had written about, however, was his ~100 day recovery after he quit masturbating for the time being. He laid out some of the reasoning behind this NoFap thing and that it actually reset you’re body back to the way you were when you were a young horny kid getting a boner all the time. So I went for it.
Just like he had said, it wasn’t easy… at all. There were weeks that I was just dying to touch my dick. I would even touch it just to get hard but stop before a came. Then there were some weeks that I didn’t think about it once. And on top of that, there were some stretches where I would completely lose my libido all together after thinking it was coming back. Through the easy and the tough times I stuck with it and my plan was to keep going until some miracle happened. There was no miracle, but I could definitely feel my body beginning to feel much more like my horny, early teenage self. Then, what happened around the 3.5-month-mark was that I started hanging out with a girl who I really connected with on a much deeper level. Of course I was terrified about telling her I had ED and hadn’t jerked off for almost 4 months, but I kept hanging out with her until the day came that I couldn’t hide it any longer. Right before foreplay would have started, I told her everything. I had finally come clean with myself about it and shared my whole story. This, along with NoFap, we’re the two cures for me. I think girls care a lot less about sex than we think they do, and the fact that I was able to tell her this, one of my biggest insecurities, meant a LOT to her. She still tells me about how she couldn’t of cared less that I wasn’t able to have sex and in fact she often says she’s really happy we weren’t able to because it helped us grow much closer on a genuine, personal level. Over the next couple months she helped me through the final stages. I went down on her a ton, she would blow me here and there but it wasn’t until about 2 months later that I finally got hard enough, for a long enough time (~5 seconds), to have sex. Lube was also involved in the first success and I would definitely recommend.
Anyways, here I am, a year later, free of my ED, jerking off again, but staying the f**k away from porn
I honestly never thought it would happen, and it did. I wish I could find that post again, because that guy seriously saved my sex life. To everyone reading this, I would start your journey as soon as you can. Don’t jerk off, definitely don’t watch anymore porn, and don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends or from a girl you like. In all seriousness, even if finding a girl for you is getting on tinder, asking her to dinner, telling her everything when the time comes and being a nice guy, that will work just as well. She’ll appreciate it a lot more than she will an asshole who’s good at sex and she’ll almost certainly want to help you out on your journey.
I really hope this helps for some of you who are in a similar boat as I was and feel free to ask any and all questions you have!
First of all, I’m sorry I didn’t write a post sooner because I think my success story can seriously help a lot of you who are struggling out there. I had ED and maybe a little bit of PE for about 3-4 years and only about a year ago did I finally crack the code. I’m a freshman in college so (probably like many of you) it was a tough time to have ED especially hearing all the locker room talk. Regardless, I made it and could not be more thankful, so here is my story and I hope it helps!
Since around my sophomore year in high school I started watching porn pretty frequently. My girlfriend had just cheated on me so I was done with the thought of girlfriends. Keep in mind I did NOT have ED with her. Porn was what I turned to. I hooked up with some girls throughout sophomore, junior and senior year but I never had sex with any of them. I tried, but could never get hard.. super embarrassing for me and they felt like they weren’t attractive enough for me. All in all it was a lose-lose and really baffled me because I had no idea how to fix it. I stopped watching porn a few months into senior year to try to solve my problem but then tried having sex a few months later and came before I was even inside and while I was maybe 70% hard. That was kind of a shot to my confidence. It took me until I had graduated to reach out to a family friend who I knew did some talks about this kind of stuff. When I finally admitted I needed help and then asked for help was the turning point in my journey. She directed me to this page and it was the best advice I could have received. I searched this page for a while and came across some great advice and stories but there was one story that was especially similar to mine. The guy had found a solution, had stuck with it and he lay out a plan for me to follow. Thank you so much to that guy because I would be in a whole different headspace right now had I not stuck to his advice. Anyways, the goal was pretty simple. Stop masturbating. I had seen this before… that I should just join the NoFap movement, but I wasn’t quite sold on it yet because it seemed like all of my friends jerked off every day and had no problems with sex. What this guy had written about, however, was his ~100 day recovery after he quit masturbating for the time being. He laid out some of the reasoning behind this NoFap thing and that it actually reset you’re body back to the way you were when you were a young horny kid getting a boner all the time. So I went for it.
Just like he had said, it wasn’t easy… at all. There were weeks that I was just dying to touch my dick. I would even touch it just to get hard but stop before a came. Then there were some weeks that I didn’t think about it once. And on top of that, there were some stretches where I would completely lose my libido all together after thinking it was coming back. Through the easy and the tough times I stuck with it and my plan was to keep going until some miracle happened. There was no miracle, but I could definitely feel my body beginning to feel much more like my horny, early teenage self. Then, what happened around the 3.5-month-mark was that I started hanging out with a girl who I really connected with on a much deeper level. Of course I was terrified about telling her I had ED and hadn’t jerked off for almost 4 months, but I kept hanging out with her until the day came that I couldn’t hide it any longer. Right before foreplay would have started, I told her everything. I had finally come clean with myself about it and shared my whole story. This, along with NoFap, we’re the two cures for me. I think girls care a lot less about sex than we think they do, and the fact that I was able to tell her this, one of my biggest insecurities, meant a LOT to her. She still tells me about how she couldn’t of cared less that I wasn’t able to have sex and in fact she often says she’s really happy we weren’t able to because it helped us grow much closer on a genuine, personal level. Over the next couple months she helped me through the final stages. I went down on her a ton, she would blow me here and there but it wasn’t until about 2 months later that I finally got hard enough, for a long enough time (~5 seconds), to have sex. Lube was also involved in the first success and I would definitely recommend.
Anyways, here I am, a year later, free of my ED, jerking off again, but staying the f**k away from porn
I honestly never thought it would happen, and it did. I wish I could find that post again, because that guy seriously saved my sex life. To everyone reading this, I would start your journey as soon as you can. Don’t jerk off, definitely don’t watch anymore porn, and don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends or from a girl you like. In all seriousness, even if finding a girl for you is getting on tinder, asking her to dinner, telling her everything when the time comes and being a nice guy, that will work just as well. She’ll appreciate it a lot more than she will an asshole who’s good at sex and she’ll almost certainly want to help you out on your journey. I really hope this helps for some of you who are in a similar boat as I was and feel free to ask any and all questions you have!
