A new start
- Thread starter Hannibal
- Start date
D
Deleted member 22651
Guest
Loving your progress so far! Taking it all one day at a time and writing daily has worked well for me.
Keep going!!
Keep going!!
This is one of the longest times I have had with no porn - possibly the longest in 30 years. I have changed my mindset and as a result my actions.
I have always tried to abstain ansnsfop myself using porn. In effect all that did was make it something "special" that I craved. Putting porn blockers on my internet made it illicit and almosy "special" and a personal challenge to navigate around them to reach the prize at the end.
I have removed the porn blockers so it is now down to choice. The choice of whether I want to use or not. That has simplified the process for me. I could use whenever I want, but I choose not to. I don't need or want porn. I have 30 years of knowing it is an illusion and a trap that creates a vicious cycle that feeds off despair and guilt.
I have reached a point after 19 days of not wanting to use rather than for ing myself to not use. It feels amazing and is a feeling I will keep forever.
There will of course be temptations. The part of my brain that I have trained to respond to and need porn won't just give up after so long. It will try to trick me that "just once...." or "that isn't really porn..." or "you deserve / are entitled to..." or countless other reasons/escuses, are acceptable. They aren't. There is.no such thing as "just once" so I am prepared to face such lies if they arrive.
This approach is working for me. It may not work for others, but I hope it gives hope to others who are struggling that there is a better future possible.
I have always tried to abstain ansnsfop myself using porn. In effect all that did was make it something "special" that I craved. Putting porn blockers on my internet made it illicit and almosy "special" and a personal challenge to navigate around them to reach the prize at the end.
I have removed the porn blockers so it is now down to choice. The choice of whether I want to use or not. That has simplified the process for me. I could use whenever I want, but I choose not to. I don't need or want porn. I have 30 years of knowing it is an illusion and a trap that creates a vicious cycle that feeds off despair and guilt.
I have reached a point after 19 days of not wanting to use rather than for ing myself to not use. It feels amazing and is a feeling I will keep forever.
There will of course be temptations. The part of my brain that I have trained to respond to and need porn won't just give up after so long. It will try to trick me that "just once...." or "that isn't really porn..." or "you deserve / are entitled to..." or countless other reasons/escuses, are acceptable. They aren't. There is.no such thing as "just once" so I am prepared to face such lies if they arrive.
This approach is working for me. It may not work for others, but I hope it gives hope to others who are struggling that there is a better future possible.
Last edited:
When you say that you have changed your mindset I think you nailed it. I am in the same position and have the same feeling. I have put some thoughts in my preparation and the way that my head is right now just seems to make things so much easier. I remember having the same type of feeling on a couple of times when I was somewhat successful when quitting previously however I also remember not maintaining that mindset. You need to work on this daily to keep the momentum and not drop your guard. You can have all the tools in the world, porn blockers, accountability partners, quitting apps or spreadsheets, etc... but at the end of the day they are tools (and useful ones) however it all starts in your head and having the right mindset to keep the focus and make that right decision when the time comes. at least that's my opinion. Keep it up Hannibal!
Yes. The mindset is key. Changing it from "I won't" to "I don't want to /don't need to" has been a great starting point. Knowing where the problems will be and planning for them is the next step. I read a quote on here that said "if you fall, don't look at where you landed, look at where you tripped".
Blondie
Respected Member
Very good Hannibal! I too have never used porn blockers. Obviously, to each their own, but I've never seen a point in it personally. But everyone should do whatever works for them.
Keep it going, you're doing great! And remember, porn, no matter how hard your day, will never make it better.
Keep it going, you're doing great! And remember, porn, no matter how hard your day, will never make it better.
26 days done.
Was tempted a bit with memories, but didn't allow myself to dwell in them or act out. Actually quite pleased. This won't just disappear. It will be a part of my life but I showed I don't have to act on it.
Had the triggers of tiredness. Boredom, stress.
Now have the feeling of pride
Was tempted a bit with memories, but didn't allow myself to dwell in them or act out. Actually quite pleased. This won't just disappear. It will be a part of my life but I showed I don't have to act on it.
Had the triggers of tiredness. Boredom, stress.
Now have the feeling of pride
Well done man
33 days done. No urges recently but have seen the times I would have acted out before. Stress and worry are my triggers which used to lead me looking for an escape or relief. All it actually did was add to my stress so a negative loop.
I'm now just noticing the times and triggers so I'm better prepared in the future. Facing stresses head on. Feeling so much better about myself
I'm now just noticing the times and triggers so I'm better prepared in the future. Facing stresses head on. Feeling so much better about myself