This is the time of year where we reset certain aspects of our lives and setup resolutions to change for the better. Obviously one of those resolutions is to quit porn and PMO. While I go through this every year and probably a hundred times each year, 2022 is a little bit different for me and as per my username (I know not very original but what can you expect its 5am on Jan 1st), I will be turning 50 years old in 2022. I really feel and want to give myself this gift of quitting this addiction once and for all and becoming the best version of myself I can offer to the world.
Quick high level background, my story is the same pretty much from a lot of the men on this forum, I can probably copy/paste from any of the journals and it would be my story as well - it is my generation. I might expand a little bit more on later posts. I am married to a wonderful wife, 3 childrens - 2 in their early 20s and 1 almost grown up. Probably a couple of years away to be a grandfather. My wife and I have started to have a lot of time back together since the 2/3 of the kids have moved out and the remaining one has a busy life with school, work, friends/girlfriend, etc.... This is really interesting as it really feels we are back to our beginnings just as a "couple". Our sex life was always great and I never had real issues with performance although in the last year or so I have noticed on occasions some DE. I think this was also a reason I have never really quit so far as I didn't really have an urgency or performance reason to quit.
For the last 4 years I have gone through all the documented resources, being reading on this forum, YBOP, easypeasy method, etc.... I feel I have a good handle on all the theory and the education of this addiction. As mentioned initially I have tried countless times with very little success however if I am completely honest on numerous occasions I didn't have the right mindset or didn't put in the right amount of effort. As stated also before, the "physicals" reason to stop was not there. I also questioned how seriously I really wanted to quit sometimes.....
Now I feel different and really want to get to work on this in 2022. In my day job I work for a big corporate company and I manage a team, I am very good at helping employees and coach them to bring them where they want or should be. My approach has always been that you are a "business" and in order to succeed you need to think and act like an owner to develop yourself. When you have a business you need to work really hard in order to offer a top quality product or service that will be offered to clients. If you want to change and be successful and offer the best version of yourself, the same approach can be done.
I am not a big fan of counting days as I feel it puts too much focus on the wrong area of the process, however I strongly believe about going at this one day at a time. In the morning when I wake up I am grateful that I am giving another day to try and make a difference in this life, and at night when I go to bed I want to be grateful that I did my best to be the best me possible.
Cheers and Happy New Year everyone!
Quick high level background, my story is the same pretty much from a lot of the men on this forum, I can probably copy/paste from any of the journals and it would be my story as well - it is my generation. I might expand a little bit more on later posts. I am married to a wonderful wife, 3 childrens - 2 in their early 20s and 1 almost grown up. Probably a couple of years away to be a grandfather. My wife and I have started to have a lot of time back together since the 2/3 of the kids have moved out and the remaining one has a busy life with school, work, friends/girlfriend, etc.... This is really interesting as it really feels we are back to our beginnings just as a "couple". Our sex life was always great and I never had real issues with performance although in the last year or so I have noticed on occasions some DE. I think this was also a reason I have never really quit so far as I didn't really have an urgency or performance reason to quit.
For the last 4 years I have gone through all the documented resources, being reading on this forum, YBOP, easypeasy method, etc.... I feel I have a good handle on all the theory and the education of this addiction. As mentioned initially I have tried countless times with very little success however if I am completely honest on numerous occasions I didn't have the right mindset or didn't put in the right amount of effort. As stated also before, the "physicals" reason to stop was not there. I also questioned how seriously I really wanted to quit sometimes.....
Now I feel different and really want to get to work on this in 2022. In my day job I work for a big corporate company and I manage a team, I am very good at helping employees and coach them to bring them where they want or should be. My approach has always been that you are a "business" and in order to succeed you need to think and act like an owner to develop yourself. When you have a business you need to work really hard in order to offer a top quality product or service that will be offered to clients. If you want to change and be successful and offer the best version of yourself, the same approach can be done.
I am not a big fan of counting days as I feel it puts too much focus on the wrong area of the process, however I strongly believe about going at this one day at a time. In the morning when I wake up I am grateful that I am giving another day to try and make a difference in this life, and at night when I go to bed I want to be grateful that I did my best to be the best me possible.
Cheers and Happy New Year everyone!