Porn is not an option

Blondie

Well-Known Member
Day 217

Two more days of school and I'll be done. I can't believe I've gone through all the stress of school, plus life in general, and I'm still good and clean on this side of it. This makes me really proud of myself - in the best sense of the term. I want to do this new habit so long that it becomes not a surprise for me, but the new usual.

Whatever we choose to do every day, becomes the usual for us. We are not defined by what we've done, but by what we choose to do today and tomorrow. Let us choose life.

Well, I'm gonna get my ass back to studying.

Stay strong everyone.
 

Onmyway19

Member
Two more days of school and I'll be done. I can't believe I've gone through all the stress of school, plus life in general, and I'm still good and clean on this side of it. This makes me really proud of myself - in the best sense of the term. I want to do this new habit so long that it becomes not a surprise for me, but the new usual.

Way to fight through the difficult times, P free. It's so much more rewarding, knowing what you faced, without taking the easy path. Definitely something to be proud of. Congrats Blondie !
 
Two more days of school and I'll be done. I can't believe I've gone through all the stress of school, plus life in general, and I'm still good and clean on this side of it. This makes me really proud of myself - in the best sense of the term. I want to do this new habit so long that it becomes not a surprise for me, but the new usual.
Absolutely should be proud of yourself
Doing amazing things and inspiring the community - keep giving porn hell! 💪
 

Blondie

Well-Known Member
Day 222

Thanks @Ezel! Yes, porn is never worth it. Let us all keep advancing!


Screenshot (190).png
I've have been on Fortify now for a year, which is a nice site to track your progress for free. It's also a good way to see the big overall picture in the grand scheme of your recovery; also, if you like counting days as yours truly, it helps to give some perspective like this chart does today.

This chart shows I fucked up 4 times in the last year, which means I've practically had a full year clean, which is something I should probably remind myself of more often. It's easy for us to get caught up in our current streak, but lose sight of how far we've come in our total progress.

But when I saw this chart today, my first thought was none of these things, it was "How the hell did four days in one year screw up my dick so much?"

Fortuitously for me, my man is hanging low and feels normal again today; however last week, it was like a shriveled prune set out to dry on a warm summer's day!

It's amazing what four days can do to derail us in our progress. These days my dick doesn't even like porn, hates it in fact, and hardly even gets going when seeing it. Thus, those four times I had to "make it happen" which was what fucked me up in the end. Oh the irony of it all, my dick is actually smarter than I am! It's like, "No man, I don't want to get hard for that shit, let's hang with your girl instead!"

They say the devil is in the details. Oh how true that statement is.

Porn is like crack, no matter how many times you go back, it will never have your back!

Stay strong everyone! And have a great porn-free weekend.
 
Last edited:

Ezel

Active Member
You keep going partner, don't stop no matter what. One day your future self will thank you for this...
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
Oh the irony of it all, my dick is actually smarter than I am!

Lol..., I doubt that! This made me laugh, but I understand your point. It must be that you're rewiring, and now 'real-world' sex does it for you, instead of pixalized images!

Awesome work, and very inspiring!
 

Blondie

Well-Known Member
Day 223

The day we understand to the bottom of our core that porn isn't some greet leviathan from the deep that is too strong for us to conquer, is the day we start to win.

Our problems are only as big as we me make them out to be.

No one gets to Everest by just wanting to get to the top. Getting to the top takes years in the making. First you have to train your body for the task at hand, then you have to have the money to even get to base camp, and of course, then you have to climb the mountain step by step to the summit. None of these steps just happen by accident, it all follows from that initial decision.

Decision, what a beautiful word. A beautiful word full of action. When you make a decision, it's like pushing off the first domino in a line of following chain reactions. Actions continuously flow from it, and it can't be any other way but forward.

Wishing to get to Everest will never get you there. Wishing to get to Everest, won't get you out of bed at 4 am in the morning to train your ass off. Wishing to get to Everest, but never changing your life and schedule and suffering a little, will never get you to the top to see that amazing life changing view.

Wishing is simply for losers. Sure, a climber might lose his financing and have to start over again, or he might have a training injury and be out for a few weeks. However, if he has made that initial decision, then none of these short term lapses matter, and the end goal only remains in sight.

If you knew someone who always talked about wanting to climb Everest but never made the changes and sacrifices to get there, what would you honestly think of that person? I would think him a silly fool with no courage or self discipline. And the reason I can say this harsh sentiment is because I know a man like that extremely well, for he is me.

Once upon a time I was that foolish man when it came to my porn habit. I always wanted to get to the glorious summit of Mount Porn-Free, but I never made the actual decision to quit, and in the end, I was just fantasizing about not fantasizing.

Wishing and dreaming can be done on your couch, but a real decision followed by action, is done in the real world.

And If I happen to fall off the trail again on my way to that beautiful summit, I know I will be loved and encouraged here at RN, and for that I am extremely grateful. However, If I start falling again and again (like the days of old), and start making excuses and start treating Mount Everest like it's Olympus Mons on Mars, then I would hope someone would kindly yet firmly remined me and say "Blondie, what the hell are you doing son? You alreadly know the way to Mount Porn-Free, and you don't get there by wishing and making it bigger than it actually is. Now get up son, the glorious summit lies there just beyond the next ridge! One step at a time, that's all that matters now. Action, action, action!"

Let us all make the decision today to climb to the tops of Mount Porn-Free, and follow the necessary steps to get to that sublime peak.

Couches are for dreamers, the summit is for believers.

With love

Blondie

"Tough love often enough will save a man, if only his friend would have the courage to say it"
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
Well said, Blondie! If someone is for real about quitting, they will do whatever it takes- or try anything that might be helpful- to quit.

I know what it is to 'wish' for freedom, and yet remain in the same habits, same predicaments, same predictable patterns. The definition of insanity is still: doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different outcome.

Got your back as you ascend Mt. Porn-Free!
 
Top