Porn is not an option
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searching4good
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Blondie
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Day 345
Alright, only 20 days away, now is not the time to get cocky!
You all have a great porn-free Saturday.
Thanks @searching4good. I appreciate it brother.
Alright, only 20 days away, now is not the time to get cocky!
You all have a great porn-free Saturday.
First_step_thousand_miles
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Attaboy! I can't believe you're almost at a year man, must feel incredible to be here again
Keep crushing it brother, 2025 is gonna be even better
Keep crushing it brother, 2025 is gonna be even better
Blondie
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Day 346
Thank you brother! It feels incredible indeed. We will have a great 2025.
Blondie
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Day 347
I've been reading this book titled Irresistibly Feminine. It's a beautiful book about having masculine and feminine polarity in a relationship. This is something I've been thinking and reading about for many years now but have never "officially" given it a shot in my relationship. Dare I go there? I think I shall!
Basically its thesis is that men and women are inherently different, and well beyond the genatilia differences between us, but at our very core there lies a vast chasm of differences that no one wants to admit. Of course in these times of androgyny between the sexes, this is practically a revolutionary statement, but should it really be? I've always believed this fact as true as the sky is blue, but have only grown to believe it more and more over the years.
What does it mean to be masculine? What does it mean to be feminine? Can we have both while still loving and cherishing the other? Can a man lead his woman while at the same time not be a "patriarchal" dick? Can a woman "follow" while still being strong and not a pushover to her man? Would anyone call a woman following a man's lead during the Tango a pushover? Of course not! Is a man being "controlling" while leading her? Not at all! The dance would be a disaster if they both tried to lead. So then why is this a problem in a relationship? There is no such thing as two leaders at the same time. It simply does not exist. Not in nature. Not in government. Not in the corporate world. One has to be in charge or there's utter chaos and unhappiness.
On most first dates (even today) men are in charge. They plan it out. They get her number. They lead the whole exchange from beginning to end. Is this being domineering? Of course not. If a man has her best intentions at heart, that is, the intentions of HER heart, his leadership is a beautiful gift and not something to criticize. That's what good leadership is. Giving. Giving. Giving. And the woman's role in a relationship is to receive. Receive her man's love. Receive his protection. Receive him during sex. Receive his gift of leadership. One is not better than the other or more important, but rather, each are different and need each other. A man needs to be respected by his woman and a woman needs to feel loved and cherished by her man.
Maybe the reason we have so many man-childs in this age is because we've taken away the very thing that makes a boy want to become a real man; leadership.
Have I lost my mind? Perhaps. But it something to think about.
I liked this quote.
"Masculine energy actively leads to a specific outcome. Feminine energy expresses without trying to get an outcome." - Zak Roedde
I've been reading this book titled Irresistibly Feminine. It's a beautiful book about having masculine and feminine polarity in a relationship. This is something I've been thinking and reading about for many years now but have never "officially" given it a shot in my relationship. Dare I go there? I think I shall!
Basically its thesis is that men and women are inherently different, and well beyond the genatilia differences between us, but at our very core there lies a vast chasm of differences that no one wants to admit. Of course in these times of androgyny between the sexes, this is practically a revolutionary statement, but should it really be? I've always believed this fact as true as the sky is blue, but have only grown to believe it more and more over the years.What does it mean to be masculine? What does it mean to be feminine? Can we have both while still loving and cherishing the other? Can a man lead his woman while at the same time not be a "patriarchal" dick? Can a woman "follow" while still being strong and not a pushover to her man? Would anyone call a woman following a man's lead during the Tango a pushover? Of course not! Is a man being "controlling" while leading her? Not at all! The dance would be a disaster if they both tried to lead. So then why is this a problem in a relationship? There is no such thing as two leaders at the same time. It simply does not exist. Not in nature. Not in government. Not in the corporate world. One has to be in charge or there's utter chaos and unhappiness.
On most first dates (even today) men are in charge. They plan it out. They get her number. They lead the whole exchange from beginning to end. Is this being domineering? Of course not. If a man has her best intentions at heart, that is, the intentions of HER heart, his leadership is a beautiful gift and not something to criticize. That's what good leadership is. Giving. Giving. Giving. And the woman's role in a relationship is to receive. Receive her man's love. Receive his protection. Receive him during sex. Receive his gift of leadership. One is not better than the other or more important, but rather, each are different and need each other. A man needs to be respected by his woman and a woman needs to feel loved and cherished by her man.
Maybe the reason we have so many man-childs in this age is because we've taken away the very thing that makes a boy want to become a real man; leadership.
Have I lost my mind? Perhaps. But it something to think about.
I liked this quote.
"Masculine energy actively leads to a specific outcome. Feminine energy expresses without trying to get an outcome." - Zak Roedde
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Blondie
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Day 350
Fifteen more days till glory. Yesterday I had a few thoughts of porn. I wouldn't say I was necessarily tempted, more that I thought about how fun it would be to "relax" in it all, and I reflected on my experiences doing that nonsense almost a year ago.
Thoughts to remember.
It's NOT fun
It doesn't end in glory
And I would rather have sex with my beautiful lady
Real is the only deal.
We press on.
Fifteen more days till glory. Yesterday I had a few thoughts of porn. I wouldn't say I was necessarily tempted, more that I thought about how fun it would be to "relax" in it all, and I reflected on my experiences doing that nonsense almost a year ago.
Thoughts to remember.
It's NOT fun
It doesn't end in glory
And I would rather have sex with my beautiful lady
Real is the only deal.
We press on.
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achilles heel
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Incredible success, you’re an inspiration!
Escapeandnevercomeback
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That's right, man, I knew nothing was going to hinder the progress because you're in business my man. One year is just around the corner, this is incredible man, no relapse in 1 YEAR 
This is absolutely incredible, get out of here! The determination and control man!
This is absolutely incredible, get out of here! The determination and control man!
First_step_thousand_miles
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2 more weeks brother! Very happy for you, great way to start off the new year
Blondie
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Day 352
Thank you, gents, @achilles heel, @First_step_thousand_miles, and @Escapeandnevercomeback. I appreciate the encouragement.
You all have a great porn-free Saturday.
Thank you, gents, @achilles heel, @First_step_thousand_miles, and @Escapeandnevercomeback. I appreciate the encouragement.
You all have a great porn-free Saturday.
Escapeandnevercomeback
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Yes, definitely. 10 more days to 1 year
That's what I'm talking about. The level of determination is amazing. All this control to not relapse even once in 1 year! That's big time inspiration right there. I'm coming. I'll get there one day.
Blondie
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Day 356
Best brother,
You all have a merry Christmas.
Thanks @Escapeandnevercomeback. I think this whole thing comes down to, what one has done before can be done again. I think that's the key to everyone wherever they are on this journey, whether it be a week clean before, a month clean or a year and beyond. If you've done any of those before, you know you can do it again, thus that mental hurdle has alreadly been jumped over.Yes, definitely. 10 more days to 1 year
Best brother,
You all have a merry Christmas.
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