Porn is not an option
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GBS
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I was rather hoping you would get this right by quoting your journal title! But you did still get the question right so you are forgiven.Ooooh! I love multiple choice questions. Definitely the fuck porn option.
12 days until your numbers start with a 7, and about 30 more before you’re at 2 years. Loving it all.
achilles heel
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To be honest, when I first started reading it, I thought of it as some kind of reverse brain-wash as soon as I read about the controversial “moderation”-alternative. Like: Okay, this lecture is trying to trick me into believing I’m not a hopelessly lost addict and that I actually have a choice. Sounds ridiculous!
As I hit rock bottom lately again and again I decided to give it another try and kept reading further. The more I keep reading the more I feel like it’s describing me.
And there are some pretty sound arguments. I’m a good example, I never attended any recovery program and quit cocaine over five years ago. It was and still is my choice and I don’t feel in any danger of triggers. My conclusion was: It’s just so much more difficult to quit porn!
The whole description of desperate binges in the middle of the recovery process is what I’m experiencing. Not only does the description fit me, I also never made any noticeable progress beyond a maximum of three months and relapsed all the heavier.
I will continue reading and find this approach very interesting as I never had any success with the method they’re trying to debunk.
Thanks a lot for the recommendation!
Blondie
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Hey, @achilles heel, I felt the same way too. I had to "force" myself at first and read it with an open mind.
I'm sorry to hear about this rock bottom, but I've been there many times so I feel you.
Same here. It was almost scary!
Exactly! Again, congrats on that accomplishment, that's a big deal. I love how you mention you didn't feel any triggers when you quit. So interesting. For myself, there are no triggers these days, everything I do I've chosen to do, it's as simple as that. Having that knowledge gives me a real sense of power and responsibility.
I think this is the conclusion of many, that somehow porn is different, but I honestly don't think it is anymore.
Great! Let me know what you think when you finish. Also, check out their podcast, the Addiction Solution. It explains things in different ways than the book does. Very helpful.
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Both positions expressed here are valid. Porn itself doesn't have any intrinsic power that, like kryptonite, automatically weakens or enslaves us.
Again, it all depends on the meaning we personally give porn (or to any substance or behavior). This is what must be figured out, that, what does porn and surrounding behaviors mean for us. Do these behaviors really solve the issues they're supposedly addressing or alleviating for us?
This is why someone can just quit something cold turkey, and yet something else continues to trip them up. But both are alike resolvable.